Hi Sanjay,
I beg to differ on this subject. You are right to some extent. Let me share
one incident of mine and I would request anyone of you to comment to what
extent should we apply this ideology.
I have a colleague (newly joined) who has this bad habit of burping loudly on
and off without seeing anyone around. Now he is proud to do that without
feeling apologetic for what he has done. Inspite of my other colleagues and
myself enhancing on the manners, he shrugs it off saying, I'm not bothered. Now
my question to all of the members including Sanjay :-
What do we do with such idiots, we accept them with a smile for whatever they
are doing as you say in your article ??
And pls I DON'T NEED ANY DIPLOMATIC ANSWERS.
Let me clarify my stand on your article :
Sanjay, to an extent you are right, but we need to look upon people who have
attitude problems, who are always negative and spread ill-feelings. Inspite of
our level best efforts to improve, they will still continue and I'm sure
everybody must have encountered such people anywhere in their life. Here do we
honestly follow spirituality and that too with a smile. NO, the order of the
day is, ignore such characters and move on in life.
Now let me tell what has happened with that colleague of mine. After two weeks
of interactions, he is now alone with another colleague who is another jerk
sharing the same view. Everybody has ignored him. People just smile and say
hello to him, but nobody wants to be with him.
I would appreciate members coming forward to correct me if I'm going wrong and
advise what could be the best way to deal with such complicated situations.
Best regards
Vivek
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Subject: [hg4] Salt, Pepper and the Spices of Life
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Please read appplies to us in a great way. Put it up on a non gay forum and was
taken ver well
little prince-Sanjay N Lulla
Salt, Pepper and the Spices of Life
You're sitting at a table, having a meal with some friends.
Bowls of soup are served to everyone at the table. Before tasting the soup, the
person next to you reaches for the salt and pepper, and for the next 20 seconds
vigorously shakes into the soup more salt and pepper than you would use in a
month.
You have a pained look on your face. These thoughts immediately go through your
mind: Why would you put salt and pepper in soup, or on any dish, BEFORE you
taste it? How do you know how much to add? You might also think, How can
someone put so much salt and pepper in their food?
Of course, the roles could be reversed. You might be the one who loves to put a
lot of salt and pepper on your food and the person next to you eats the soup
without adding salt or pepper. In that case, you think, How can she eat this
bland soup without putting any seasoning in it?
When it comes to salt, pepper, onions, garlic, curry or just about any type of
seasoning, we tend to see things only one way - OUR way. It's hard for us to
understand how someone could enjoy food when it is not seasoned as we think is
appropriate. We cringe when we see someone overdoing or under-doing the
spices.
How we season our food is a matter of preference and personal taste.
There is no right or wrong way to use seasonings. Furthermore, the way in which
another applies salt and pepper does not affect us in any way. They're not
putting the salt and pepper in YOUR soup. They are putting the spices in their
own soup.
Our world is so diverse, and yet it is difficult for us to accept each other's
preferences. Often, when we see people doing things we wouldn't do, our mind
says: Why aren't they thinking as I think? Why aren't they acting as I would
act? Your mind would often have you believe that your way is superior. Your
beliefs and habits are shaped by your genetics and your environment. Each
person has different genetics and has grown up in an environment that is
different than yours.
Why expect everyone to come to the same conclusion?
Our spiritual growth comes when we learn to accept that others have different
preferences, and we honor those preferences. There is no universal religion
that everyone will agree to practice. There is no universal political viewpoint
that all will accept. There is no one way of raising children that all cultures
will agree upon. Marriage customs will vary from culture to culture.
Getting people to agree on these issues is like trying to get everyone to use
the same amount
