[AI] Daddy’s little boy: Meet the youngest single man to adopt a child with

[avinash shahi]

To say that Pune-based software engineer Aditya Tiwari has never
experienced love at first sight would be wrong. But it’s not your
stereotypical love story either.
http://indianexpress.com/article/lifestyle/feelings/daddys-little-boy/
“I fell in love when Binney first held my finger and wouldn’t let go,”
says Tiwari, a 28-year-old employee of Barclays, who recently became
the youngest single man in India to adopt a child.

Now one year, nine months old, the child was abandoned by his parents
from Bhopal because he suffers from Down’s syndrome and has a hole in
his heart. Tiwari first spotted Binney at an orphanage of the
Missionaries of Charity in Indore. “I had gone to gift a few things to
the children there on my father’s birthday in September 2014. There
were a lot of kids there but Binney caught my eye because he was lying
on a cot, away from all the revelry. When I went to play with him, he
stuck to me and I felt an instant affection. At that time, though, I
hadn’t given a thought to adopting him,” says Tiwari, who was born and
brought up in Indore.

A month later, Tiwari visited the orphanage again. Binney’s face had
been haunting him for many days. He found that while many other
children had been adopted, no family was willing to take Binney. “I
decided that Binney would be my son. I had always wanted to adopt a
child since I read about Sushmita Sen’s single parent adoption. So, I
thought why not?” he says.

But the road ahead was strewn with obstacles. First, his parents
objected, asking him to get married first. Then the orphanage
authorities told him they could not let an unmarried man adopt — the
Missionaries of Charity are against single-parent adoptions. For many
months, Tiwari kept visiting the orphanage, trying to convince the
sisters. By December, the child had been moved to another Bhopal
orphanage run by the Missionaries of Charity.

In March, Tiwari was told that the child was now in Delhi. “A week
later, I found out that Binney was still in Bhopal and they were
planning to put him up for foreign adoption. I contacted the women and
child welfare (WCD) department and sent some 100 mails to Maneka
Gandhi. I complained to Prime Minister’s Office too. Gandhi spoke to
me over the phone and said she was asking the Central Adoption
Resource Authority (CARA) to work with the Bhopal Child Welfare
Committee and resolve this matter. After my complaint, Binney was
ordered to be moved to Matruchaya, another adoption agency in Bhopal,”
said Tiwari. Even there, he found officials bewildered by his
insistence on adopting a child when he was single, and a man.

But it was in August that the tide turned. Till then the CARA
guidelines demanded that one had to be 30 years of age to adopt a
child. It was revised last year to 25 years. Tiwari was now eligible
to adopt Binney. “I finished all formalities within 15 days and by
month end, Manekaji visited the orphanage to see Binney, where she
instructed that he should be handed over to me immediately. But alas,
the authorities at Matruchaya remained reluctant. They first tried to
convince me to adopt another child, then scared my parents by saying
no girl would marry me and when all failed, kept delaying the adoption
process. Once again, I petitioned the PMO and WCD. The central
government sent a notice to the state government and finally due to
mounting pressure, in December 2015, I got a mail asking me to take
Binney home between January 1 to 8,” he says.

The worst behind him now, Tiwari is home with his son, who has a new
name (Avnish Tiwari), and parents who now can’t get enough of their
new grandson.

The exacting routine of an infant’s life is slowly starting to kick in
— from making formula to changing diapers to regular feeds and evening
playtime, besides attending to a continuous stream of relatives. “I
took him to a pediatrician who said we might not require an immediate
surgery for the hole in his heart. As far as Down’s syndrome goes, I
have read up about it it and consulted doctors. I know my son’s mental
growth will be slow but unlike his biological parents, I won’t give
up. The doctor says if Binney is around children, it will be better
for him. Thankfully, there is a daycare in the office building, where
I plan to keep him. I also get adoption leave for 150 days. But so
far, there hasn’t been a need. He has fit right into my schedule,” he
says.


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To say that Pune-based software engineer Aditya Tiwari has never experienced 
love at first sight would be wrong. But it’s not your stereotypical love story 
either.
http://indianexpress.com/article/lifestyle/feelings/daddys-little-boy/
“I fell in love when Binney first held my finger and wouldn’t let go,”
says Tiwari, a 28-year-old employee of Barclays, who recently became the 
youngest single man in India to adopt a child.

Now one year, nine months old, the child was abandoned by his parents from 
Bhopal because he suffers from Down’s syndrome and has a hole in his heart. 
Tiwari first spotted Binney at an orphanage of the Missionaries of Charity in 
Indore. “I had gone to gift a few things to the children there on my father’s 
birthday in September 2014. There were a lot of kids there but Binney caught my 
eye because he was lying on a cot, away from all the revelry. When I went to 
play with him, he stuck to me and I felt an instant affection. At that time, 
though, I hadn’t given a thought to adopting him,” says Tiwari, who was born 
and brought up in Indore.

A month later, Tiwari visited the orphanage again. Binney’s face had been 
haunting him for many days. He found that while many other children had been 
adopted, no family was willing to take Binney. “I decided that Binney would be 
my son. I had always wanted to adopt a child since I read about Sushmita Sen’s 
single parent adoption. So, I thought why not?” he says.

But the road ahead was strewn with obstacles. First, his parents objected, 
asking him to get married first. Then the orphanage authorities told him they 
could not let an unmarried man adopt — the Missionaries of Charity are against 
single-parent adoptions. For many months, Tiwari kept visiting the orphanage, 
trying to convince the sisters. By December, the child had been moved to 
another Bhopal orphanage run by the Missionaries of Charity.

In March, Tiwari was told that the child was now in Delhi. “A week later, I 
found out that Binney was still in Bhopal and they were planning to put him up 
for foreign adoption. I contacted the women and child welfare (WCD) department 
and sent some 100 mails to Maneka Gandhi. I complained to Prime Minister’s 
Office too. Gandhi spoke to me over the phone and said she was asking the 
Central Adoption Resource Authority (CARA) to work with the Bhopal Child 
Welfare Committee and resolve this matter. After my complaint, Binney was 
ordered to be moved to Matruchaya, another adoption agency in Bhopal,”
said Tiwari. Even there, he found officials bewildered by his insistence on 
adopting a child when he was single, and a man.

But it was in August that the tide turned. Till then the CARA guidelines 
demanded that one had to be 30 years of age to adopt a child. It was revised 
last year to 25 years. Tiwari was now eligible to adopt Binney. “I finished all 
formalities within 15 days and by month end, Manekaji visited the orphanage to 
see Binney, where she instructed that he should be handed over to me 
immediately. But alas, the authorities at Matruchaya remained reluctant. They 
first tried to convince me to adopt another child, then scared my parents by 
saying no girl would marry me and when all failed, kept delaying the adoption 
process. Once again, I petitioned the PMO and WCD. The central government sent 
a notice to the state government and finally due to mounting pressure, in 
December 2015, I got a mail asking me to take Binney home between January 1 to 
8,” he says.

The worst behind him now, Tiwari is home with his son, who has a new name 
(Avnish Tiwari), and parents who now can’t get enough of their new grandson.

The exacting routine of an infant’s life is slowly starting to kick in — from 
making formula to changing diapers to regular feeds and evening playtime, 
besides attending to a continuous stream of relatives. “I took him to a 
pediatrician who said we might not require an immediate surgery for the hole in 
his heart. As far as Down’s syndrome goes, I have read up about it it and 
consulted doctors. I know my son’s mental growth will be slow but unlike his 
biological parents, I won’t give up. The doctor says if Binney is around 
children, it will be better for him. Thankfully, there is a daycare in the 
office building, where I plan to keep him. I also get adoption leave for 150 
days. But so far, there hasn’t been a need. He has fit right into my schedule,” 
he says.


--
Avinash Shahi
Doctoral student at Centre for Law and Governance JNU

Celebrating Louis Braill birthday, Jan. 4th.

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