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9 Helpful Tips To Deal With Negative People
Do you have any friends or colleagues who are negative? If so, you’ll
know
they aren’t the most enjoyable people to be around. Negative people can
be
real downers in any conversation. No matter what you say, they have a
way of
spinning things in a negative direction. Some negative people can be so
negative that it feels draining just being around them.
I’ve dealt with a fair share of negative people in my life in network
blogs
basically surrounded by unknown people whose feedback is not relevant
to me, and who do not professionalism in their feedbacks. I was
initially taken aback by negativity of the people, I eventually learned
to
manage it and channel it into conscious action.
Today, I deal with negativity on-and-off in my personal development
work,
especially if there are readers or coaching clients in distress. Rather
than
be affected by others’ negative energy, I’m now able to consciously
deal
with it. Here, I’ll share with you 9 tips to deal with negative people
in
your life (specially in your blogs and work place)
*1) Don’t get into an argument*
*2) Empathize with them*
*3) Lend a helping hand*
*4) Stick to light topics*
*5) Ignore the negative comments*
*6) Praise the person for the positive things*
*7) Hang out in 3′s or more people*
*8) Be responsible for your reaction*
*9) Reduce contact with them / Avoid them*
*1) Don’t get into an argument*
One of the most important things I learned is not to debate with a
negative
person. A negative person likely has very staunch views and isn’t going
to
change that just because of what you said. Whatever you say, he/she can
find
10 different reasons to back up his/her viewpoint. The discussion will
just
swirl into more negativity, and you pull yourself down in the process.
You
can give constructive comments, and if the person rebutts with no signs
of
backing down, don’t engage further.
*
*
*2) Empathize with them*
Have you ever been annoyed by something before, then have someone tell
you
to “relax”? How did you feel? Did you relax as the person suggested or
did
you feel even more worked up?
From my experience, people who are negative (or upset for that matter)
benefit more from an empathetic ear than suggestions/solutions on what
he/she should do. By helping them to address their emotions, the
solutions
will automatically come to them (it’s always been inside them anyway).
*
*
*3) Lend a helping hand*
Some people complain as a way of crying for help. They may not be
conscious
of it though, so their comments come across as complaints rather than
requests. Take the onus to lend a helping hand. Just a simple “Are you
okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can do wonders.
*
*
*4) Stick to light topics*
Some negative people are triggered by certain topics. Take for example:
One
of my friends sinks into a self-victimizing mode whenever we talk about
his
work. No matter what I say (or don’t say), he’ll keep complaining once
we
talk about work.
Our 1st instinct with negative people should be to help bring them to a
more
positive place (i.e. steps #2 and #3). But if it’s apparent the person
is
stuck in his/her negativity, the unhappiness may be too deeply rooted
to
address in a one-off conversation, or for you to help him/her unravel
it.
Bring in a new topic to lighten the mood. Simple things like new
movies,
daily occurrences, common friends, make for light conversation. Keep it
to
areas the person feels positive towards.
*
*
*5) Ignore the negative comments*
One way to help the negative person “get it” is to ignore the negative
comments. If he/she goes into a negative swirl, ignore or give a simple
“I
see” or “Ok” reply. On the other hand, when he/she is being positive,
reply
in affirmation and
