Men do occasionally receive obscene phone calls. It is rare, but it happens. When I lived in New York, I got an obscene phone call late one night. I experienced the same anxiety and discomfort my woman friends reported on experiencing an unknown stranger muttering half-audible obscenities in my ear. For me, the sense of violation came more from the surprise and the sense that an unknown stranger was entering my private world than from the specific words. -- Ken --