I bet lots of people out there have relationships without sex, but I
think for most it's because the sex part of it faded. Most those are
heterosexual marriages that stay together for the kids, and society.
There's a lot to a relationship besides sex. There's a saying that
goes: If a couple puts a penny in a jar for every time they have
sex the first year, then during all their following years if they
take a penny out for every time they have sex the jar will never go
empty. I don't think that's true, but it's funny and telling
anyway.
Peter
--- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, RAK SHAS [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
Hi All,
Given the premise
that I am into a relationship
I wont fuck with others on the side as that would be cheating and
will demean the scantity of a relationship.
Given the premise that the sex between me and my partner is 'awful'
and there is no 'sexual attraction'...
1. I still wont sleep out of the relationship just to get sexual
satisfaction.
2. Will be faithful to him as long as in a relationship.
3. Talk to my partner and better understand his take on the
situation and asking him to put in his efforts and shall definately
put in efforts myself and if need be tone down my sexual desires and
meet someway half the road wherein both of us are satisfied.
4. Will see why I love him apart from sex and enhance upon that
aspect of love leading to more moments full of love and not lust.
5. Will focus on the other and major side of any relationship that
is companionship. Afterall if we are in a relationship and are
planning to grow old together, sex shall not be the criteria when we
turn 70!
Having said that even if after sincere efforts on both parts if the
relationship is still not moving ahead and both of us are being
dissatisfed...
1. Then will have a talk with him and decide to separate while
remaining good friends still caring and sharing whatever we can
leading independant lives and will support and be there for him
without expecting the same from him.
2. Shall be very clear that I cant be with him after we separate
and shall have our own lives and if we are lucky enuf to find another
partner for ourselves we shall not let our past interfere with the
future.
This separation will be mutual and will not be just because I am
not sexually satisfied.
A relationship is much more than sex to me, it is the day to day
lives that we share, it is the joys and sorrows we share, it is the
company of each other we enjoy, it is the feeling of someone being
there for you, it is much larger than just sex.
Sex too is important in sustaining a relationship, but it is not a
criteria to make or break a relationship.
All this comes from my personal experience!
Cheers
RAKSHAS
- Original Message
From: lgbtindiagroup [EMAIL PROTECTED]
To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Thursday, March 29, 2007 11:50:10 PM
Subject: g_b question on relationship , love and sex
1) You are into a relationship with a guy but the sex is aweful.
there
is just no sexual attraction. would you continue your
relationship. .
or love him and fuck with others on the side or be faithful to
him or would you break the relationship?
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