g_b Children are living beings

[dunno76]

LOVE QUOTE OF THE DAY

Children are living beings – more living than grown-up people who
have built shells of habit around themselves. Therefore it is absolutely
necessary for their mental health and development that they should not
have mere schools for their lessons, but a world whose guiding spirit is
personal love. - Rabindranath Tagore
 
(read more great quotes by Rabindranath Tagore)

  [Children are living beings – more living than grown-up people who
have built shells of habit around themselves. Therefore it is absolutely
necessary for their mental health and development that they should not
have mere schools for their lessons, but a world whose guiding spirit is
personal love.

- Rabindranath Tagore (... read more great quotes by Rabindranath
Tagore:
http://lovequotes.symphonyoflove.net/category/r/rabindranath-tagore)] 

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OTHER QUOTES & POSTS IN SYMPHONY OF LOVE


1. We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after
a journey that no one can take for us or spare us. - Marcel Proust
  (read
more great quotes by Marcel Proust)

  [We don't receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a
journey that no one can take for us or spare us.

- Marcel Proust (... read more great quotes by Marcel Proust:
http://lovequotes.symphonyoflove.net/category/m/marcel-proust)] 

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2. THE SMALLEST ACT OF KINDNESS IS WORTH MORE THAN THE GRANDEST
INTENTION. - Oscar Wilde
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more great quotes by Oscar Wilde)

  [THE SMALLEST ACT OF KINDNESS IS WORTH MORE THAN THE GRANDEST
INTENTION.

- Oscar Wilde (... read more great quotes by Oscar Wilde:
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3. I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their
skin, but by the content of their character.  - Dr. Martin Luther King
Jr.
  (Read more great quotes by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.)

  [I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their
skin, but by the content of their character.

- Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. (... read more great quotes by Dr. Martin
Luther King Jr.:
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4. Wounding and healing are not opposites. They're part of the same
thing. It is our wounds that enable us to be compassionate with the
wounds of others. It is our limitations that make us kind to the
limitations of other people. It is our loneliness that helps us to to
find other people or to even know they're alone with an illness. I
think I have served people perfectly with parts of myself I used to be
ashamed of. - Rachel Naomi Remen
 
(read more great quotes by Rachel Naomi Remen)



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have touched and inspired me in the year 2012 and I believe that these
quotes will touch and inspire you in their own ways.











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g_b ToI and Mirror - Two versions of a murder

[Deep]

Strange patronizing tone you have Mr. Fontaine. I, quite emphatically,
don't know you from Adam and amn't your "dear friend" or even an
acquaintance of yours. This is an LGBT discussion forum and hence my
post on a "gay murder".
The world over speculation is rife when a sensational murder is
reported. Obviously the actual investigations are left to law
enforcement agencies.
Incidentally, "dear readers" (lol) the murderer had tattooed the name of
the guy he murdered across his chest - a subsequent news report
mentions.
Deep

--- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, Bloot Fontaine  wrote:
>
> First, I think it wrong to play guessing games as to why one murdered
another. BUT, my dear friend, as you HAVE asked, I might as well play
along, though it does not serve any purpose. One reason PERHAPS might be
that one of the two wanted a one night stand with someone attractive.
The second reason is much more common, one wanted financial support from
the other!
> Dear Readers, both my reasons are just merely guessing games and are
not based on any knowledge of facts whatsoever. Please kindly do NOT
take it there is even a grain of truth in my game, though of course, you
are as welcome to your guesses as I have been to mine.
> And now, dear Deep, what do YOU think?
> Hugs and thanks to all my readers! Hey, HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!
>
>
>
>
> 
>  From: Deep
> To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Wednesday, 26 December 2012 11:15 PM
> Subject: g_b ToI and Mirror - Two versions of a murder
>
>
>
> Here are two reports, one in the Mumbai edition of the Times of India
(December 26, 2012) and the other in Mumbai Mirror.
>
> The report in ToI makes 21 year old Ryan Gomes as someone who forced
himself sexually on Alexander D'Souza and hence got stabbed by the
later.
>
>
http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Default/Scripting/ArticleWin.asp?From=Arc\
hive&Source=Page&Skin=TOINEW&BaseHref=TOIM/2012/12/26&PageLabel=5&Entity\
Id=Ar00502&ViewMode=HTML
>
>
> The report in Mumbai Mirror openly mentions a gay relationship gone
wrong. (My question: Why would a gay man kill his partner for seeking
sex?)
>
>
http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Default/Scripting/ArticleWin.asp?From=Arc\
hive&Source=Page&Skin=MIRRORNEW&BaseHref=MMIR/2012/12/26&PageLabel=4&Ent\
ityId=Ar00400&ViewMode=HTML
>
>
> Which of these two reports comes closest to the truth? Any opinions?
>
>
> Deep
> -Message Truncated by Blut
>

g_b OpEd: The Hindu: Taking the aggression out of masculinity

[Aditya Bondyopadhyay]

http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/op-ed/taking-the-aggression-out-of-masculinity/article4266007.ece

Taking the aggression out of masculinity
SANJAY SRIVASTAVA

The Indian family has been a long-standing site for reinforcing and
perpetuating male privilege and entitlement

Sexual crimes derive from social attitudes and no serious effort at
lessening their occurrence can ever depend upon cosmetic measures such as
greater policing and calls for the death penalty. This is not to deny
either the legitimacy of the anger over the terrible event that led to the
recent rape and death of a young woman, or that the Indian justice system
frequently subjects rape victims to as much trauma as the original act
itself. Rather, that there is more urgent need than ever to think about the
cultures of masculinity in India. While there have been good reasons why
women’s studies departments and many non-governmental organisations have
been resistant to including a focus on masculinity as a way of
understanding gender, the time is ripe for a change in this attitude. Now,
more than ever, we require an understanding of masculine cultures that is
informed by feminist methods and perspectives. Gender is always a
relationship between women, men (and other genders) and unless we have a
sense of how boys are socialised as men, our understanding of the ways in
which gender oppression unfolds will always be incomplete.

*Socially produced*

Masculine cultures infuse all significant aspects of modern life and
masculinity refers to the socially produced ways of being male. That is to
say, men learn to be men and this “learning” is expressed both in terms of
social structures as well as in the ways in which men present themselves in
everyday life. So, for example, the idea of “men’s work” and “women’s work”
relates to social structure whereas the ways in which men speak, behave,
gesture, and interact with other men (as well as women) reflect the
behavioural aspects of masculinity. Linked to this is the idea that some
ways of being a man are better than others. These ideas about gender are
produced at specific sites, and these might include educational systems,
customary laws and regulations, the state and its mechanisms, the family,
religious norms and sanctions, popular culture, and, the media.

Finally, in this context, it is important to remember that in all societies
there exist multiple ways of being a man, but that certain aggressive
models of masculinity become dominant. That is to say, masculinity is not
just a relationship between men and women, but also between men. Some ways
of being a man are considered more manly than others.

The notions of “making” and “producing” are crucial to the study of
masculine identities, for they point to their historical and social nature.
The various discourses of “proper” masculine behaviour — in novels, films,
advertisements, for example — would be unnecessary if it was a naturally
endowed characteristic. The very fact that masculinity must consistently be
reinforced — “if you buy this motorcycle you’ll be a real man” — says
something about the tenuous and fragile nature of gender identities. It
also suggests the possibility of foregrounding alternative models of
masculinity.

*Colonialism*

A great deal of neglect of masculinity as an object of study lies in the
celebratory ways in which we have tended to understand Indian nationalism
which — in its reactions to colonial rule — produced a deeply masculine
culture of modernity. So, if colonists sought to justify colonial rule by
suggesting that Indians were not “manly enough” for either self-rule or
rational thinking, nationalists simply inverted argument through providing
“evidence” of Indian masculinity as well as “reforming” a number of social
institutions to more closely reflect European ideas about “proper”
families, intimacies, etc. Colonialism did not, of course, invent Indian
masculinities, but it did help to cement and highlight certain regressive
tendencies within it. Swami Vivekananda’s masculine photographic-pose was
only one aspect of the cult of masculinity encouraged and tolerated by
nationalism.

Beyond the historical context, masculine bias proliferates itself in a
number of areas that have immediate bearing on everyday life. The
masculinity of spaces and institutions is one of these. It has become
commonplace to understand certain spaces and institutions (say, the street
and Parliament) as public, and others (say, the home) as private. The terms
“public” and “private” have, in turn, become linked to ideas about the
“proper” realms for men and women. Women are tolerated in public spaces and
within public institutions but are expected to behave “properly.” Otherwise
they suffer ridicule and violence. The media quite often provides accounts
of public women (say parliamentarians) through describing what they wear,
or, how many children they have; women’s primary identity continues to be
defined through an implicit understanding that 

g_b New Years Party

[Dee]

Hi

Wanted feedack on the New Years Party that you all might have attended
I would be grt to get them so as to know how to improve them next time round

luv dee

g_b Wednesday's Woe!!

[asfan]

At dinner, a little boy was forced to lead the family into prayer.




Little Boy : "But I don't know how to pray.


Dad: "Just pray for your family members, friends and neighbours, the poor, etc.


Little Boy : ""Dear Lord" he started "Thank you for our visitors and their 
children, who finished all my 
cookies and ice cream. Bless them so they  won't come again. 


Forgive our neighbour's son, who removed my sister's clothes and wrestled with 
her on her bed. 


This coming Christmas, please send clothes to all those poor naked ladies on my 
Daddy's Blackberry 
and provide shelter for the homeless men who use Mom's room when Daddy is at 
work.


Amen."


For some reason, Mom and Dad did not have dinner that evening.

Re: g_b Re: [gb] Have you ever asked your barber?

[uday krishnan]

I think it is not fair to look at any profession in such a perverted sense, 
further if he feels offended and says an yes to  run the razor helter-skelter 
what would you tell your doctor, your handed your dick to a "barbarian"?





 From: Kris Bass 
To: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com 
Cc: Gay Underscore  
Sent: Wednesday, 2 January 2013 12:07 PM
Subject: g_b Re: [gb] Have you ever asked your barber?
 

  
Assuming we are talking about cosmetic/esthetic purposes and not about 
preoperative preparation: The whole point of going to a barber for scalp and 
facial hair styling is because you cannot see these parts, at least without 
using a mirror. Second, these are much denser and are aspects of personal 
grooming that is part of your dressing (appearance). So, unless you have 
extensive, dense pubic hair, your sight is impaired, and/or you wear your pubic 
hair in public, I would not see any reason to go to a barber.
For erotic purposes, I would ask my partner to groom me while we both are naked.
Kris
On Jan 2, 2013 11:46 AM, "Tintin Mumbai India"  wrote:

 
>  
>Hello Guys,
>
>
>Often this question comes to my mind, how my regular barber (or a new one) 
>would react if I genuinely ask him if he can trim my pubic hair?
>
>
>I don't want to give him any hint, I dont want to lure him for any further 
>action, it does not matter if he looks good or ugly.
>I just want professional service and at decent well deserved price.
>
>
>For Ex, I get Head Massage for 20-30mins with Navaratan Oil, at Rs50/- 
>(Mumbai, Bangalore and many other cities), so that is decent price I think for 
>someone's efforts for 30mins.
>
>
>Similarly, I would not like to go to HiFi salons for trimming services and pay 
>big money there, just because of whatever reasons.
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
>So, my question to the group is:
>Has anyone ever tried asking his regular barber or a barber at totally new 
>place if he would mind trimming pubic hair?
>If possible, I would like to know the reaction of the barber.
>
>
>Abhay
>
>
>--- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing