g_b Saturday Smilie

[asfan]

ITS A BOY" I shouted "A BOY, I DON'T BELIEVE IT, ITS A BOY"
and with tears streaming down my face I swore I'd never visit another Thai 
brothel

g_b Have you ever asked your barber?

[Deep]

Tintin use a hair removing cream like Veet, Anne French, etc. on your
pubic, perianal (around the anus) and axillar (arm pit) areas. Do the
elbow test of the product before using it and follow instructions on the
product package. On some skin types they give allergic reactions. Many
use the products in those areas without any harmful effects. If you have
a pre-existing skin condition please ask your doctor before using these
products. In such cases a pair of scissors should help you trim your
pubic hair atleast. If your partner is fond of rimming then your
perianal hair will need to be removed.

I had a brash college mate (straight) who used to ask a barber near our
college and the barber would take him "behind the curtains" to
trim/shave his pubic/axillar hair. No shame, just a financial
transaction. And, yeah!,  no prejudice either :-) If you have a close
friend who can do this for you then you are through. :p
Waxing will hurt - BIG TIME!  It's called a Brazilian Wax. A macho
friend of mine was reduced to tears as the waxing was being performed on
him. Just looking at him whimpering on the bed put the fear of the Lord
of Waxing in me.
Another option is expensive laser hair removal. But, as far as I know,
in India they don't do it on those areas in salons like Kaya, etc.

Deep
> >   --
> > *From:* Kris Bass
> > *To:* gaybom...@yahoogroups.com
> > *Cc:* Gay Underscore
> > *Sent:* Wednesday, 2 January 2013 12:07 PM
> > *Subject:* g_b Re: [gb] Have you ever asked your barber?
> >
> >
> > Assuming we are talking about cosmetic/esthetic purposes and not
about
> > preoperative preparation: The whole point of going to a barber for
scalp
> > and facial hair styling is because you cannot see these parts, at
least
> > without using a mirror. Second, these are much denser and are
aspects of
> > personal grooming that is part of your dressing (appearance). So,
unless
> > you have extensive, dense pubic hair, your sight is impaired, and/or
you
> > wear your pubic hair in public, I would not see any reason to go to
a
> > barber.
> > For erotic purposes, I would ask my partner to groom me while we
both are
> > naked.
> > Kris
> > On Jan 2, 2013 11:46 AM, "Tintin Mumbai India"
> > wrote:
> >
> > **
> >
> >  Hello Guys,
> >
> > Often this question comes to my mind, how my regular barber (or a
new one)
> > would react if I genuinely ask him if he can trim my pubic hair?
> >
> > I don't want to give him any hint, I dont want to lure him for any
further
> > action, it does not matter if he looks good or ugly.
> > I just want professional service and at decent well deserved price.
> >
> > For Ex, I get Head Massage for 20-30mins with Navaratan Oil, at
Rs50/-
> > (Mumbai, Bangalore and many other cities), so that is decent price I
think
> > for someone's efforts for 30mins.
> >
> > Similarly, I would not like to go to HiFi salons for trimming
services and
> > pay big money there, just because of whatever reasons.
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > So, my question to the group is:
> > Has anyone ever tried asking his regular barber or a barber at
totally new
> > place if he would mind trimming pubic hair?
> > If possible, I would like to know the reaction of the barber.
> >
> > Abhay
> >
> > --- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing 
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
>

g_b Online gay Comic Strips (Artifice and others)

[Aditya Bondyopadhyay]

Dear All,
A long-time ago, The Doctor (Vikram) posted on GB Listserve and thus let me
know about that great comic strip called TJ and Amal 


I have been hooked to it since and it has now reached a rather interesting
turn (Call it redemption song) where the neo-hippy TJ turns out to be a
---(well read the comic dah'lins, cant tell you in advance, can I?) --- and
redeems himself by flushing his business (and past) down the toilet
(Literally) at the urging of his new found love, the cute Indian med
student Amal

And because with TJ-Amal the genre was revealed to me I found out about
that other very very very interesting gay comic strip about a fictional
kingdom (called Ivore) in which there is a gay whorehouse, one of whose
patrons is the incognito crown prince of Ivore, who loves to get into
situations that lead to semi-violent flip-flops with this stud-muffin
roughneck man-whore called Axis. Yes I am talking of the appropriately
named Tea-House  Comicfor
those who like the genre (or like me, would fall in love with
it hereto-forth) it is a must read too

And finally 
Artifice...this
one unlike the other two is the full strip (i.e. its not evolving still)
and is a sci-fi about how an android finds his humanity via the love chute
of this isolated and neglected gayboy in the far boondocks of the galaxy
where he is sent to kill off all human beings...with the appropriate "bad
corporate culture putting profits before humanity" forming the backdrop to
the human-inhuman love festkinda cute this...

And the authors of Artifice also have another ongoing/developing strip
about a gay superhero who's being wooed and feted by a gay
super-villian...you'll may want to check that out tooits called The
Young Protectors 

Just wanted to update you all about an aspect of the gay-subculture that I
have really come around to enjoy...

Best regards and a very happy new year 2013 to all...

Aditya Bondyopadhyay

Re: g_b Re: [gb] Have you ever asked your barber?

[uday krishnan]

Hey there,

The Cambridge English dictionary gives the meaning of the word perverse as " 
Disapprovingly strange and not what most people would expect or enjoy" 
. and so that is what I precisely meant, in the context under 
discussion





 From: Tintin Mumbai India 
To: gay_bombay  
Sent: Friday, 4 January 2013 12:34 PM
Subject: Re: g_b Re: [gb] Have you ever asked your barber?
 

  
Uday

I am sorry to say "Grow up man".
Do you go to a physician and think yourself pervert asking him that you have 
rashes in groin area?

I am talking about checking the barber professionally.
He shaves, he do hair cut, he razes hair from underarm. Where is the rule that 
he can't razes pubic hair?

Have you not checked with your maid, who actually do Jhaadu Pauchha inside your 
flat only, if she / he can clean utensils for the day, because there is a cut 
in your finger?

First of all, it is not act of perversion but it is just a TABOO to ask such 
questions.
For me, it is as simple as asking some uncommon questions to strangers like "Is 
there any massage parlor nearby?" People may think it is act of Perversion, but 
I am just looking for body relax.
You are being judgmental (learnt use of this from English Vinglish).

Perversion would be, if I ask this question, and he agrees too, and then during 
the trimming I touch him here and there. And this was not my intention, as you 
can see my original mail.



--- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing 


On Wed, Jan 2, 2013 at 2:13 PM, uday krishnan  wrote:

 
>  
>I think it is not fair to look at any profession in such a perverted sense, 
>further if he feels offended and says an yes to  run the razor helter-skelter 
>what would you tell your doctor, your handed your dick to a "barbarian"?
>
>
>
>
>
>
>
> From: Kris Bass 
>To: gaybom...@yahoogroups.com 
>Cc: Gay Underscore  
>Sent: Wednesday, 2 January 2013 12:07 PM
>Subject: g_b Re: [gb] Have you ever asked your barber?
> 
>
>
>  
>Assuming we are talking about cosmetic/esthetic purposes and not about 
>preoperative preparation: The whole point of going to a barber for scalp and 
>facial hair styling is because you cannot see these parts, at least without 
>using a mirror. Second, these are much denser and are aspects of personal 
>grooming that is part of your dressing (appearance). So, unless you have 
>extensive, dense pubic hair, your sight is impaired, and/or you wear your 
>pubic hair in public, I would not see any reason to go to a barber.
>For erotic purposes, I would ask my partner to groom me while we both are 
>naked.
>Kris
>On Jan 2, 2013 11:46 AM, "Tintin Mumbai India"  wrote:
>
> 
>>  
>>Hello Guys,
>>
>>
>>Often this question comes to my mind, how my regular barber (or a new one) 
>>would react if I genuinely ask him if he can trim my pubic hair?
>>
>>
>>I don't want to give him any hint, I dont want to lure him for any further 
>>action, it does not matter if he looks good or ugly.
>>I just want professional service and at decent well deserved price.
>>
>>
>>For Ex, I get Head Massage for 20-30mins with Navaratan Oil, at Rs50/- 
>>(Mumbai, Bangalore and many other cities), so that is decent price I think 
>>for someone's efforts for 30mins.
>>
>>
>>Similarly, I would not like to go to HiFi salons for trimming services and 
>>pay big money there, just because of whatever reasons.
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>
>>So, my question to the group is:
>>Has anyone ever tried asking his regular barber or a barber at totally new 
>>place if he would mind trimming pubic hair?
>>If possible, I would like to know the reaction of the barber.
>>
>>
>>Abhay
>>
>>
>>--- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing 
>
>

 

Re: g_b Hiding Bisexuality Increases Risk of Depression

[Tintin Mumbai India]

And on top of that
These gays call us double standarded bisexuals, cowards, and what not :(
On Jan 4, 2013 1:33 PM, "gay_bombay moderator" 
wrote:

> **
>
>
>
> Hiding Bisexuality Increases Risk of 
> Depression
> By Rick Nauert PhD  *Senior
> News Editor*
>  Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on January 3, 2013
>
> [image: Hiding Bisexuality Increases Risk of Depression]Experts say
> bisexual men are less likely than gay men to come out of the closet and
> declare their sexuality.
>
> Researchers say this concealment is associated with more symptoms of
> depression  and 
> anxiety
> .
>
> Investigators from Columbia University’s Mailman School of Public Health,
> examined bisexual men “on the down low,” a subgroup of bisexual men who
> live predominantly heterosexual lives and do not disclose their same-sex
> behavior, a group that has not been studied to date.
>
> Specifically, the researchers studied 203 nongay-identified men in New
> York City, who self-reported being behaviorally bisexual and had not
> disclosed their same-sex behavior to their female partners.
>
> Study findings, published in the *Journal of Consulting and Clinical
> Psychology*, reveal that men who live with a wife or girlfriend, who
> think of themselves as heterosexual, and who have a lower frequency of sex
> with men, were more likely to conceal their same-sex behavior.
>
> Greater frequency of sex with women also correlated with greater
> concealment. Men with a household income of $30,000 or more per year
> reported greater concealment about their same-sex behavior than men with
> lower incomes.
>
> “Our research provides information on the factors that might contribute to
> greater concealment among this group of behaviorally bisexual men,” said
> Eric Schrimshaw, Ph.D., lead author.
>
> “Such information is critical to understanding which of these bisexual men
> may be at greatest risk for mental health problems.”
>
> Nearly 38 percent of the men reported that they have not shared with
> anyone that they have sex with men. Only 41 percent reported that they had
> confided in a best friend or parent.
>
> Schrimshaw and colleagues found that greater concealment correlated with
> more symptoms of depression and anxiety and lower positive emotions.
> However, disclosure to a few close friends or family did not seem to help;
> disclosure to confidants was not associated with good mental health.
>
> “The fact that concealment, but not disclosure, was associated with the
> mental health of these bisexual men is critically important for the way
> therapeutic interventions are conducted in this population,” said Karolynn
> Siegel, Ph.D., professor of sociomedical sciences and co-author.
>
> “Although disclosure may result in acceptance from family and friends, in
> other cases — particularly with female partners — disclosure may also
> result in rejecting reactions, which are adversely associated with mental
> health.”
>
> Researchers believe the study offers reasons for why concealment was
> negatively associated with mental health.
>
> Bisexual men who were more concerned than others about concealing their
> same-sex behavior also tended to report lower levels of social support and
> more internalized homophobia – that is, negative attitudes toward their
> same-sex behavior.
> Researchers believe having adequate emotional support can overcome the
> perceived need to conceal same-sex behavior.
>
> Professionals who do therapeutic work with bisexual men may wish to focus
> instead on helping such men reduce their perceived need to conceal their
> same-sex behavior and accept their sexual orientation.
>
>
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g_b Hiding Bisexuality Increases Risk of Depression

[gay_bombay moderator]

Hiding Bisexuality Increases Risk of
Depression
By Rick Nauert PhD  *Senior
News Editor*
 Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on January 3, 2013

[image: Hiding Bisexuality Increases Risk of Depression]Experts say
bisexual men are less likely than gay men to come out of the closet and
declare their sexuality.

Researchers say this concealment is associated with more symptoms of
depression  and
anxiety
.

Investigators from Columbia University’s Mailman School of Public Health,
examined bisexual men “on the down low,” a subgroup of bisexual men who
live predominantly heterosexual lives and do not disclose their same-sex
behavior, a group that has not been studied to date.

Specifically, the researchers studied 203 nongay-identified men in New York
City, who self-reported being behaviorally bisexual and had not disclosed
their same-sex behavior to their female partners.

Study findings, published in the *Journal of Consulting and Clinical
Psychology*, reveal that men who live with a wife or girlfriend, who think
of themselves as heterosexual, and who have a lower frequency of sex with
men, were more likely to conceal their same-sex behavior.

Greater frequency of sex with women also correlated with greater
concealment. Men with a household income of $30,000 or more per year
reported greater concealment about their same-sex behavior than men with
lower incomes.

“Our research provides information on the factors that might contribute to
greater concealment among this group of behaviorally bisexual men,” said
Eric Schrimshaw, Ph.D., lead author.

“Such information is critical to understanding which of these bisexual men
may be at greatest risk for mental health problems.”

Nearly 38 percent of the men reported that they have not shared with anyone
that they have sex with men. Only 41 percent reported that they had
confided in a best friend or parent.

Schrimshaw and colleagues found that greater concealment correlated with
more symptoms of depression and anxiety and lower positive emotions.
However, disclosure to a few close friends or family did not seem to help;
disclosure to confidants was not associated with good mental health.

“The fact that concealment, but not disclosure, was associated with the
mental health of these bisexual men is critically important for the way
therapeutic interventions are conducted in this population,” said Karolynn
Siegel, Ph.D., professor of sociomedical sciences and co-author.

“Although disclosure may result in acceptance from family and friends, in
other cases — particularly with female partners — disclosure may also
result in rejecting reactions, which are adversely associated with mental
health.”

Researchers believe the study offers reasons for why concealment was
negatively associated with mental health.

Bisexual men who were more concerned than others about concealing their
same-sex behavior also tended to report lower levels of social support and
more internalized homophobia – that is, negative attitudes toward their
same-sex behavior.
Researchers believe having adequate emotional support can overcome the
perceived need to conceal same-sex behavior.

Professionals who do therapeutic work with bisexual men may wish to focus
instead on helping such men reduce their perceived need to conceal their
same-sex behavior and accept their sexual orientation.


-- 
*Email: modera...@gaybombay.in

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Re: g_b ToI and Mirror - Two versions of a murder

[Bloot Fontaine]

Thank you for your response.





 From: Deep 
To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com 
Sent: Friday, 4 January 2013 12:49 AM
Subject: g_b ToI and Mirror - Two versions of a murder
 

  
Strange patronizing tone you have Mr. Fontaine. I, quite emphatically, don't 
know you from Adam and amn't your "dear friend" or even an acquaintance of 
yours. This is an LGBT discussion forum and hence my post on a "gay murder". 

The world over speculation is rife when a sensational murder is reported. 
Obviously the actual investigations are left to law enforcement agencies. 

Incidentally, "dear readers" (lol) the murderer had tattooed the name of the 
guy he murdered across his chest - a subsequent news report mentions.

Deep

 
--- In gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com, Bloot Fontaine  wrote:
>
> First, I think it wrong to play guessing games as to why one murdered 
> another. BUT, my dear friend, as you HAVE asked, I might as well play along, 
> though it does not serve any purpose. One reason PERHAPS might be that one of 
> the two wanted a one night stand with someone attractive. The second reason 
> is much more common, one wanted financial support from the other!
> Dear Readers, both my reasons are just merely guessing games and are not 
> based on any knowledge of facts whatsoever. Please kindly do NOT take it 
> there is even a grain of truth in my game, though of course, you are as 
> welcome to your guesses as I have been to mine.
> And now, dear Deep, what do YOU think?
> Hugs and thanks to all my readers! Hey, HAPPY NEW YEAR TO ALL!
> 
> 
> 
> 
> 
>  From: Deep 
> To: gay_bombay@yahoogroups.com 
> Sent: Wednesday, 26 December 2012 11:15 PM
> Subject: g_b ToI and Mirror - Two versions of a murder
> 
> 
>   
> Here are two reports, one in the Mumbai edition of the Times of India 
> (December 26, 2012) and the other in Mumbai Mirror. 
> 
> The report in ToI makes 21 year old Ryan Gomes as someone who forced himself 
> sexually on Alexander D'Souza and hence got stabbed by the later. 
> 
> http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Default/Scripting/ArticleWin.asp?From=Archive&Source=Page&Skin=TOINEW&BaseHref=TOIM/2012/12/26&PageLabel=5&EntityId=Ar00502&ViewMode=HTML
> 
> 
> The report in Mumbai Mirror openly mentions a gay relationship gone wrong. 
> (My question: Why would a gay man kill his partner for seeking sex?)
> 
> http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Default/Scripting/ArticleWin.asp?From=Archive&Source=Page&Skin=MIRRORNEW&BaseHref=MMIR/2012/12/26&PageLabel=4&EntityId=Ar00400&ViewMode=HTML
> 
> 
> Which of these two reports comes closest to the truth? Any opinions?
> 
> 
> Deep
> -Message Truncated by Blut
>

 

Re: g_b Re: [gb] Have you ever asked your barber?

[Tintin Mumbai India]

Uday

I am sorry to say "Grow up man".
Do you go to a physician and think yourself pervert asking him that you
have rashes in groin area?

I am talking about checking the barber professionally.
He shaves, he do hair cut, he razes hair from underarm. Where is the rule
that he can't razes pubic hair?

Have you not checked with your maid, who actually do Jhaadu Pauchha inside
your flat only, if she / he can clean utensils for the day, because there
is a cut in your finger?

First of all, it is not act of perversion but it is just a TABOO to ask
such questions.
For me, it is as simple as asking some uncommon questions to strangers like
"Is there any massage parlor nearby?" People may think it is act of
Perversion, but I am just looking for body relax.
You are being judgmental (learnt use of this from English Vinglish).

Perversion would be, if I ask this question, and he agrees too, and then
during the trimming I touch him here and there. And this was not my
intention, as you can see my original mail.


--- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing 


On Wed, Jan 2, 2013 at 2:13 PM, uday krishnan  wrote:

> **
>
>
> I think it is not fair to look at any profession in such a perverted
> sense, further if he feels offended and says an yes to  run the razor
> helter-skelter what would you tell your doctor, your handed your dick to a
> "barbarian"?
>
>
>   --
> *From:* Kris Bass 
> *To:* gaybom...@yahoogroups.com
> *Cc:* Gay Underscore 
> *Sent:* Wednesday, 2 January 2013 12:07 PM
> *Subject:* g_b Re: [gb] Have you ever asked your barber?
>
>
> Assuming we are talking about cosmetic/esthetic purposes and not about
> preoperative preparation: The whole point of going to a barber for scalp
> and facial hair styling is because you cannot see these parts, at least
> without using a mirror. Second, these are much denser and are aspects of
> personal grooming that is part of your dressing (appearance). So, unless
> you have extensive, dense pubic hair, your sight is impaired, and/or you
> wear your pubic hair in public, I would not see any reason to go to a
> barber.
> For erotic purposes, I would ask my partner to groom me while we both are
> naked.
> Kris
> On Jan 2, 2013 11:46 AM, "Tintin Mumbai India" 
> wrote:
>
> **
>
>  Hello Guys,
>
> Often this question comes to my mind, how my regular barber (or a new one)
> would react if I genuinely ask him if he can trim my pubic hair?
>
> I don't want to give him any hint, I dont want to lure him for any further
> action, it does not matter if he looks good or ugly.
> I just want professional service and at decent well deserved price.
>
> For Ex, I get Head Massage for 20-30mins with Navaratan Oil, at Rs50/-
> (Mumbai, Bangalore and many other cities), so that is decent price I think
> for someone's efforts for 30mins.
>
> Similarly, I would not like to go to HiFi salons for trimming services and
> pay big money there, just because of whatever reasons.
>
>
>
>
> So, my question to the group is:
> Has anyone ever tried asking his regular barber or a barber at totally new
> place if he would mind trimming pubic hair?
> If possible, I would like to know the reaction of the barber.
>
> Abhay
>
> --- Reuse Paper by Both Sided Printing 
>
>
>
>   
>