Re: g_b I’ve decided not to tell my parents about Rishabh, my partner

[Vick Prsd]

Hi,
 
At this situation, I would rather be in the closet than killing my parents 
with shock and getting killed myself by the small minded community.. But I 
wouldn't get married to a woman and shatter her dreams of leading a happy life 
with the man of her dreams..How fair is it to get married to a woman and take 
her life away just because you are gay!!How fair is it to break someone's heart 
just because we are coward to tell the truth!! Nobody has the right to take 
someone's life away from them...
 
Vick


From: Aditya Bondyopadhyay 
To: 
Sent: Sunday, 2 October 2011 1:19 AM
Subject: g_b I’ve decided not to tell my parents about Rishabh, my partner


  
>From a blog on Desiboys, available at 
>URL: http://www.desiboys.in/profiles/blogs/i-ve-decided-not-to-tell-my-parents-about-rishabh-my-partner
I’ve decided not to tell my parents about Rishabh, my partner
Posted by zoheb khan on September 13, 2011 at 4:14pm 

I am not gutsy as you guys are, at least most of you guys online and I wouldn’t 
want to disclose my sexual identity to my folks around, and if they ask me who 
is Rishabh, I would introduce him as a friend from work. I don’t know how they 
would take it, or would they survive the shock. I feel so cursed being born gay 
and I have to lead this double standard life. Last year my best friend came out 
to his family and his parents disowned him. A year later even his boyfriend 
left him to get married to another woman, now the only thing he has in his life 
is his sexual fun. He sleeps with men as and when he feels like and is happy 
about it. I don’t sleep around like the way he does, but I don’t want to face 
the same grueling ways he went through.

Our community doesn’t believe in gays and calls them losers. I don’t want to be 
tagged one and certainly don’t want my community back home to call me “Na 
Mard”. My parents haven’t yet forced me to think about marriage or settling 
down, as long as they see me everyday and I give the male folks the daily 
business statistics, they have no problem allowing me to have fun in life the 
way I want to. So where is the need for me to tell my folks that I am gay, why 
should i? I am proud being gay and in the closet. Tomorrow if I have to get 
married, I would do it, and yet lead a silent life of meeting men and am sure 
Rishabh would understand. I may open up to my would be wife, if I feel she will 
understand and ask her to empathize with what I am going through as well, am 
sure she would.

If I ever have to tell my folks that I am gay and Rishabh is my partner, I 
would be killed, in our community “honor killings” is no big deal and I 
certainly love my life. Every night I pray to God almighty and ask him to take 
me away from this world soon enough, because honestly I fake my smile and 
pretend to be who I am not. I don’t even get a kick out of passing lewd 
comments at women when I walk down the streets with my straight guy friends. I 
hate it when I see Bobby Darling and the way he behaves, he certainly is not 
the icon for the gay community and he brings me shame, sometimes I wonder if I 
am a transvestite like him, but no am not.

I don’t financial worries or even dating woes, I am well endowed on the wallet 
and the looks as well. I can have whichever guy I want and whenever I want, not 
at my place though, but I make arrangements and no one has to know about it. 
now tell me guys, if you were in my place and with situations like mine, 
wouldn’t you rather stay in the closet and enjoy being gay, without you having 
to open your mouth and confess to your parents about it! 

g_b I’ve decided not to tell my parents about Rishabh, my partner

[Aditya Bondyopadhyay]

>From a blog on Desiboys, available at URL:
http://www.desiboys.in/profiles/blogs/i-ve-decided-not-to-tell-my-parents-about-rishabh-my-partner

I’ve decided not to tell my parents about Rishabh, my partner

Posted by zoheb khan  on September
13, 2011 at 4:14pm

I am not gutsy as you guys are, at least most of you guys online and I
wouldn’t want to disclose my sexual identity to my folks around, and if they
ask me who is Rishabh, I would introduce him as a friend from work. I don’t
know how they would take it, or would they survive the shock. I feel so
cursed being born gay and I have to lead this double standard life. Last
year my best friend came out to his family and his parents disowned him. A
year later even his boyfriend left him to get married to another woman, now
the only thing he has in his life is his sexual fun. He sleeps with men as
and when he feels like and is happy about it. I don’t sleep around like the
way he does, but I don’t want to face the same grueling ways he went
through.

Our community doesn’t believe in gays and calls them losers. I don’t want to
be tagged one and certainly don’t want my community back home to call me “Na
Mard”. My parents haven’t yet forced me to think about marriage or settling
down, as long as they see me everyday and I give the male folks the daily
business statistics, they have no problem allowing me to have fun in life
the way I want to. So where is the need for me to tell my folks that I am
gay, why should i? I am proud being gay and in the closet. Tomorrow if I
have to get married, I would do it, and yet lead a silent life of meeting
men and am sure Rishabh would understand. I may open up to my would be wife,
if I feel she will understand and ask her to empathize with what I am going
through as well, am sure she would.

If I ever have to tell my folks that I am gay and Rishabh is my partner, I
would be killed, in our community “honor killings” is no big deal and I
certainly love my life. Every night I pray to God almighty and ask him to
take me away from this world soon enough, because honestly I fake my smile
and pretend to be who I am not. I don’t even get a kick out of passing lewd
comments at women when I walk down the streets with my straight guy friends.
I hate it when I see Bobby Darling and the way he behaves, he certainly is
not the icon for the gay community and he brings me shame, sometimes I
wonder if I am a transvestite like him, but no am not.

I don’t financial worries or even dating woes, I am well endowed on the
wallet and the looks as well. I can have whichever guy I want and whenever I
want, not at my place though, but I make arrangements and no one has to know
about it. now tell me guys, if you were in my place and with situations like
mine, wouldn’t you rather stay in the closet and enjoy being gay, without
you having to open your mouth and confess to your parents about it!