[Gendergap] WP stalking
I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wikipedia, but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally. A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to talk to me about what it was like being the parent of children with special needs. He also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him that I was busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back later. Yesterday afternoon, he called me back. I asked him where he got my number and how he found out about my parenting status. He said that he read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and that he wanted to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally disabled and had some syndrome that I didn't recognize. (It wasn't Asberger's, I don't think.) He also said that he had gotten my number from some church thing, and that they had confirmed my phone number. I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to call me, and he said, Well, you said I could call you back! I answered that I was in the middle of something the first time he called me, repeated how inappropriate he was being, and that I wasn't willing to speak with him over the phone. He said, You said all that on Wikipedia, and I said that I didn't have my phone number there, to which he responded, But your email address is there, and I said he could email me but calling me was again, inappropriate, and we hung up. Like I said, it was the first time something like this has happened, even after more than four years of active participation in WP. It's somewhat disconcerting to me. When I think about it, this guy had to actively hunt down my phone number. He looked at my userpage, which has infoboxes stating that I'm a parent of two children with developmental disabilities, that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I'm Catholic. (This makes me want to remove those infoboxes.) He actually went to the trouble of calling one of the the two Catholic churches in my town and confirm my number with them, which they did quite honestly because I'm on a church committee and active in the community. Freaky, huh? I know that you need to tell people when something like this happens, especially people in your life. (I haven't been able to tell my husband about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we're coming off of a particularly stressful family situation.) So that's what I'm doing now. I can totally see why so many women don't identify their gender on WP now. I'd also like to get some advice from the members of this list, and to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and what they did about it. Thanks, Christine -- Christine W. Meyer User: Figureskatingfan christinewme...@gmail.com ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap
Re: [Gendergap] WP stalking
My experience from hr wiki. On hr:wiki it is common fact that I am female and on commons there are my photos to confirm that fact. I have also more times appeared on television talking about Wikipedia. In public I always used only my nickname Roberta F. My user page was vandalized in ugly ways (e.g. picture of naked breasts) and I think I'm only user of hr:wiki which received death threat (in 2009), and all I guess mainly because I am one of the women on Wikipedia. I have removed from wiki some personal information, and today I would recommend to every female wiki user to remain anonymous and keep all her private data to herself. Roberta F. 2011/11/13 Christine Meyer christinewme...@gmail.com I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wikipedia, but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally. A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to talk to me about what it was like being the parent of children with special needs. He also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him that I was busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back later. Yesterday afternoon, he called me back. I asked him where he got my number and how he found out about my parenting status. He said that he read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and that he wanted to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally disabled and had some syndrome that I didn't recognize. (It wasn't Asberger's, I don't think.) He also said that he had gotten my number from some church thing, and that they had confirmed my phone number. I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to call me, and he said, Well, you said I could call you back! I answered that I was in the middle of something the first time he called me, repeated how inappropriate he was being, and that I wasn't willing to speak with him over the phone. He said, You said all that on Wikipedia, and I said that I didn't have my phone number there, to which he responded, But your email address is there, and I said he could email me but calling me was again, inappropriate, and we hung up. Like I said, it was the first time something like this has happened, even after more than four years of active participation in WP. It's somewhat disconcerting to me. When I think about it, this guy had to actively hunt down my phone number. He looked at my userpage, which has infoboxes stating that I'm a parent of two children with developmental disabilities, that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I'm Catholic. (This makes me want to remove those infoboxes.) He actually went to the trouble of calling one of the the two Catholic churches in my town and confirm my number with them, which they did quite honestly because I'm on a church committee and active in the community. Freaky, huh? I know that you need to tell people when something like this happens, especially people in your life. (I haven't been able to tell my husband about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we're coming off of a particularly stressful family situation.) So that's what I'm doing now. I can totally see why so many women don't identify their gender on WP now. I'd also like to get some advice from the members of this list, and to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and what they did about it. Thanks, Christine -- Christine W. Meyer User: Figureskatingfan christinewme...@gmail.com ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap
Re: [Gendergap] WP stalking
On Sun, Nov 13, 2011 at 5:41 PM, Christine Meyer christinewme...@gmail.com wrote: I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wikipedia, but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally. A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to talk to me about what it was like being the parent of children with special needs. He also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him that I was busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back later. Yesterday afternoon, he called me back. I asked him where he got my number and how he found out about my parenting status. He said that he read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and that he wanted to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally disabled and had some syndrome that I didn't recognize. (It wasn't Asberger's, I don't think.) He also said that he had gotten my number from some church thing, and that they had confirmed my phone number. I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to call me, and he said, Well, you said I could call you back! I answered that I was in the middle of something the first time he called me, repeated how inappropriate he was being, and that I wasn't willing to speak with him over the phone. He said, You said all that on Wikipedia, and I said that I didn't have my phone number there, to which he responded, But your email address is there, and I said he could email me but calling me was again, inappropriate, and we hung up. Like I said, it was the first time something like this has happened, even after more than four years of active participation in WP. It's somewhat disconcerting to me. When I think about it, this guy had to actively hunt down my phone number. He looked at my userpage, which has infoboxes stating that I'm a parent of two children with developmental disabilities, that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I'm Catholic. (This makes me want to remove those infoboxes.) He actually went to the trouble of calling one of the the two Catholic churches in my town and confirm my number with them, which they did quite honestly because I'm on a church committee and active in the community. Freaky, huh? I know that you need to tell people when something like this happens, especially people in your life. (I haven't been able to tell my husband about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we're coming off of a particularly stressful family situation.) So that's what I'm doing now. I can totally see why so many women don't identify their gender on WP now. I'd also like to get some advice from the members of this list, and to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and what they did about it. Thanks, Christine The information you chose you provide in your userpage is enough to find in 10 secs your blog, twitter and your facebook with lousy privacy settings. Now is just useless to oversight the information on WP but you can still ask for if you want. You should call your church and tell them not to give/confirm your phone number to strangers. The dude will probably read this (if he hunted down your phone number he knows how to google) and realize that emailing someone you don't know is perfectly fine but calling to his home is just big creppy stuff. ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap
Re: [Gendergap] WP stalking
Cristina, I will not try to give you any advice on this. But what I do in those cases (I already received lots of threaning e-mails and some phone calls - also several wiki-attacks) and basically what I do is inform the ISP (in case when I know the IP adress) or block any call from that number (in case of phone calls). And basically ignore it. From my experience in pt.wiki, as long as you give them much attention, they will never stop. So - in my case - ignore it works. ... but I - in your place - would remove the Userbox from the page, just in case. _ *Béria Lima* Wikimedia Portugal http://wikimedia.pt (351) 963 953 042 *Imagine um mundo onde é dada a qualquer pessoa a possibilidade de ter livre acesso ao somatório de todo o conhecimento humano. Ajude-nos a construir esse sonho. http://wikimedia.pt/Donativos* On 13 November 2011 20:41, Christine Meyer christinewme...@gmail.comwrote: I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wikipedia, but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally. A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to talk to me about what it was like being the parent of children with special needs. He also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him that I was busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back later. Yesterday afternoon, he called me back. I asked him where he got my number and how he found out about my parenting status. He said that he read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and that he wanted to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally disabled and had some syndrome that I didn't recognize. (It wasn't Asberger's, I don't think.) He also said that he had gotten my number from some church thing, and that they had confirmed my phone number. I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to call me, and he said, Well, you said I could call you back! I answered that I was in the middle of something the first time he called me, repeated how inappropriate he was being, and that I wasn't willing to speak with him over the phone. He said, You said all that on Wikipedia, and I said that I didn't have my phone number there, to which he responded, But your email address is there, and I said he could email me but calling me was again, inappropriate, and we hung up. Like I said, it was the first time something like this has happened, even after more than four years of active participation in WP. It's somewhat disconcerting to me. When I think about it, this guy had to actively hunt down my phone number. He looked at my userpage, which has infoboxes stating that I'm a parent of two children with developmental disabilities, that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I'm Catholic. (This makes me want to remove those infoboxes.) He actually went to the trouble of calling one of the the two Catholic churches in my town and confirm my number with them, which they did quite honestly because I'm on a church committee and active in the community. Freaky, huh? I know that you need to tell people when something like this happens, especially people in your life. (I haven't been able to tell my husband about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we're coming off of a particularly stressful family situation.) So that's what I'm doing now. I can totally see why so many women don't identify their gender on WP now. I'd also like to get some advice from the members of this list, and to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and what they did about it. Thanks, Christine -- Christine W. Meyer User: Figureskatingfan christinewme...@gmail.com ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap
Re: [Gendergap] WP stalking
Hi Christine, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, something similar happened to me not long ago (although not related to Wikimedia). If you need any help taking your personal information offline, please let me know, I'm more than happy to help. Have you let the wiki admins know, it might be a good idea. All the best to you. On Sun, Nov 13, 2011 at 3:41 PM, Christine Meyer christinewme...@gmail.comwrote: I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wikipedia, but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally. A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to talk to me about what it was like being the parent of children with special needs. He also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him that I was busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back later. Yesterday afternoon, he called me back. I asked him where he got my number and how he found out about my parenting status. He said that he read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and that he wanted to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally disabled and had some syndrome that I didn't recognize. (It wasn't Asberger's, I don't think.) He also said that he had gotten my number from some church thing, and that they had confirmed my phone number. I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to call me, and he said, Well, you said I could call you back! I answered that I was in the middle of something the first time he called me, repeated how inappropriate he was being, and that I wasn't willing to speak with him over the phone. He said, You said all that on Wikipedia, and I said that I didn't have my phone number there, to which he responded, But your email address is there, and I said he could email me but calling me was again, inappropriate, and we hung up. Like I said, it was the first time something like this has happened, even after more than four years of active participation in WP. It's somewhat disconcerting to me. When I think about it, this guy had to actively hunt down my phone number. He looked at my userpage, which has infoboxes stating that I'm a parent of two children with developmental disabilities, that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I'm Catholic. (This makes me want to remove those infoboxes.) He actually went to the trouble of calling one of the the two Catholic churches in my town and confirm my number with them, which they did quite honestly because I'm on a church committee and active in the community. Freaky, huh? I know that you need to tell people when something like this happens, especially people in your life. (I haven't been able to tell my husband about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we're coming off of a particularly stressful family situation.) So that's what I'm doing now. I can totally see why so many women don't identify their gender on WP now. I'd also like to get some advice from the members of this list, and to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and what they did about it. Thanks, Christine -- Christine W. Meyer User: Figureskatingfan christinewme...@gmail.com ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap
Re: [Gendergap] WP stalking
Likewise, Christine, I stand ready to assist you. I'd suggest that yes, you reconsider how much personal information you want to share about yourself online; remember, Wikipedia userpages aren't just on Wikipedia, they're spidered all over the web. Once the information is out there, it's difficult to put the genie back in the bottle, so to speak. Nonetheless, if you'd like help trying to get stuff taken down, let me know. Risker/Anne On 13 November 2011 18:47, Lika Tika likatikalikat...@gmail.com wrote: Hi Christine, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, something similar happened to me not long ago (although not related to Wikimedia). If you need any help taking your personal information offline, please let me know, I'm more than happy to help. Have you let the wiki admins know, it might be a good idea. All the best to you. On Sun, Nov 13, 2011 at 3:41 PM, Christine Meyer christinewme...@gmail.com wrote: I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wikipedia, but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally. A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to talk to me about what it was like being the parent of children with special needs. He also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him that I was busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back later. Yesterday afternoon, he called me back. I asked him where he got my number and how he found out about my parenting status. He said that he read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and that he wanted to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally disabled and had some syndrome that I didn't recognize. (It wasn't Asberger's, I don't think.) He also said that he had gotten my number from some church thing, and that they had confirmed my phone number. I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to call me, and he said, Well, you said I could call you back! I answered that I was in the middle of something the first time he called me, repeated how inappropriate he was being, and that I wasn't willing to speak with him over the phone. He said, You said all that on Wikipedia, and I said that I didn't have my phone number there, to which he responded, But your email address is there, and I said he could email me but calling me was again, inappropriate, and we hung up. Like I said, it was the first time something like this has happened, even after more than four years of active participation in WP. It's somewhat disconcerting to me. When I think about it, this guy had to actively hunt down my phone number. He looked at my userpage, which has infoboxes stating that I'm a parent of two children with developmental disabilities, that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I'm Catholic. (This makes me want to remove those infoboxes.) He actually went to the trouble of calling one of the the two Catholic churches in my town and confirm my number with them, which they did quite honestly because I'm on a church committee and active in the community. Freaky, huh? I know that you need to tell people when something like this happens, especially people in your life. (I haven't been able to tell my husband about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we're coming off of a particularly stressful family situation.) So that's what I'm doing now. I can totally see why so many women don't identify their gender on WP now. I'd also like to get some advice from the members of this list, and to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and what they did about it. Thanks, Christine -- Christine W. Meyer User: Figureskatingfan christinewme...@gmail.com ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap
Re: [Gendergap] WP stalking
I have got some calls about Wikipedia. I was in the board in Wikimedia Norway some years and president 1 year and got calls for journalists and other people those years. The last call I got about 1 week ago was from a woman who wanted to use one of my pictures in a book and ask me if it is ok. In Norway you only need to have a persons name to get the number : http://www.gulesider.no/person/resultat/nina+Aldin+Thune I have never told much about my family in the userpages. http://no.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bruker:Nina , https://plus.google.com/109860657201319190669/about only that I am housewife, and mother . Those calls have never been a problem, but I can understand that it could be, so as Risker/Anne says «reconsider how much personal information you want to share about yourself online» and ask someone get stuff taken down. Nina nina.wikipe...@gmail.com Den 14. nov. 2011 kl. 00:58 skrev Risker: Likewise, Christine, I stand ready to assist you. I'd suggest that yes, you reconsider how much personal information you want to share about yourself online; remember, Wikipedia userpages aren't just on Wikipedia, they're spidered all over the web. Once the information is out there, it's difficult to put the genie back in the bottle, so to speak. Nonetheless, if you'd like help trying to get stuff taken down, let me know. Risker/Anne On 13 November 2011 18:47, Lika Tika likatikalikat...@gmail.com wrote: Hi Christine, I'm so sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, something similar happened to me not long ago (although not related to Wikimedia). If you need any help taking your personal information offline, please let me know, I'm more than happy to help. Have you let the wiki admins know, it might be a good idea. All the best to you. On Sun, Nov 13, 2011 at 3:41 PM, Christine Meyer christinewme...@gmail.com wrote: I've heard about this kind of thing happening to other women in Wikipedia, but this is the first time this has ever happened to me personally. A few weeks ago, I got a phone call from a guy who said he wanted to talk to me about what it was like being the parent of children with special needs. He also said that he got my number from my church, so I told him that I was busy at the moment (which I was) and that he could call me back later. Yesterday afternoon, he called me back. I asked him where he got my number and how he found out about my parenting status. He said that he read what I had written on Wikipedia about my children, and that he wanted to talk to me about it because he was also developmentally disabled and had some syndrome that I didn't recognize. (It wasn't Asberger's, I don't think.) He also said that he had gotten my number from some church thing, and that they had confirmed my phone number. I told him that it was very inappropriate for him to call me, and he said, Well, you said I could call you back! I answered that I was in the middle of something the first time he called me, repeated how inappropriate he was being, and that I wasn't willing to speak with him over the phone. He said, You said all that on Wikipedia, and I said that I didn't have my phone number there, to which he responded, But your email address is there, and I said he could email me but calling me was again, inappropriate, and we hung up. Like I said, it was the first time something like this has happened, even after more than four years of active participation in WP. It's somewhat disconcerting to me. When I think about it, this guy had to actively hunt down my phone number. He looked at my userpage, which has infoboxes stating that I'm a parent of two children with developmental disabilities, that I live in a small town in Idaho, and that I'm Catholic. (This makes me want to remove those infoboxes.) He actually went to the trouble of calling one of the the two Catholic churches in my town and confirm my number with them, which they did quite honestly because I'm on a church committee and active in the community. Freaky, huh? I know that you need to tell people when something like this happens, especially people in your life. (I haven't been able to tell my husband about it yet; he's been working all weekend and we're coming off of a particularly stressful family situation.) So that's what I'm doing now. I can totally see why so many women don't identify their gender on WP now. I'd also like to get some advice from the members of this list, and to see if anyone else has had a similar experience and what they did about it. Thanks, Christine -- Christine W. Meyer User: Figureskatingfan christinewme...@gmail.com ___ Gendergap mailing list Gendergap@lists.wikimedia.org https://lists.wikimedia.org/mailman/listinfo/gendergap ___ Gendergap
