[Goanet] Forum manners: Basic human courtesy please!
* * * * * * * * * ANNUAL GOANETTERS MEET * * * * * * * * * Goanetters in Goa and visiting meet Jan 6, 2009 at 3.30 pm at Hotel Mandovi (prior to the Goa Sudharop event, which you're also welcome to). Join in for a Dutch dinner -- if we can agree on a venue after the meet. RSVP (confirmations only) 9822122436 or 2409490 or f...@goa-india.org Hi everyone, I have been following the posts on Goanet and GX forums for several weeks and have a few observations to make. Here is a typical conversation very much exaggerated to explain the point I am trying to make. A: I think .. (B fumes with rage. How dare A write this? He has insulted us all) B: How long will it take you to grow up A? Stop your ugly rants in favour of XYZ. A: All you bigots should stop blabbering like parrots. B: You and your clan of D, G, J and K are the real bigots. (C lives in the US and so tries to show his prowess on English) C: I am flabbergasted by the sheer exuberance of your naiveness A. Pigs like you should rot in the gutters. You epitomize the concept of piggery. (D puts on his swearing cap) D: Sitting in a hole in the US C is trying to bark at us. There are trained shooters for dogs like him. (C cannot take it) C: D the modern-day neanderthal man unaware of the happenings outside his jungle. Who can be a worse dog than D himself? (E changes the topic) E: Even a donkey would not believe in a bigot like C. The above conversation is close to what uneducated truck drivers or slum dwellers would have when in an argument. In our case we do it using incomprehensible and advanced English. Nobody succeeds in convincing anyone.It does not cost us anything to respond to somebody's opinion without abusing him with strong words, regardless of what his intentions might be. If we do not agree with something, why call the other person naive, brainless, senseless and the newly invented bigot? He has built his opinion based on his previous experience and has expressed it to discuss it in a public forum. The intention may very well be to incite a feeling among like-minded members and provoke those who disagree. If you do not agree, you may try to justify so. Simply using harsh words will not change anything in his brain where his opinion is stored. You do not succeed in convincing the other person if you raise your voice. Just as a louder voice does not imply that you are right, so is the case with harsh words. If someone tells you that what you are saying is utterly wrong, do you instantly change your own opinion? You would if the other person convincingly justifies why he thinks you are wrong without insulting you in public. I find a lot of debates on these forums which have disintegrated into a sledge fest. One harsh word leads to another. You can always blame it on the other person to have started it, while the other person blames it on you. What results is a truck-driver-like free-for-all over the internet. My humble suggestion to everyone on public forums: If you disagree with what someone has posted, do not jump to the conclusion that his intention is bad. May be it is in fact bad, but you should respond with the assumption that he is unaware of something you are aware of. Be of help and enlighten him. Make at least one attempt at that. We will gradually see more and more posts making it to the forum without moderation when we stick to simple ethics. Can we all resolve to follow basic human manners while using public forums and put them to some noble use they were created for, having fruitful discussions about Goa? Happy New Year Melvyn Ferrao, Agacaim
[Goanet] Forum manners: Basic human courtesy please!
* * * * * * * * * ANNUAL GOANETTERS MEET * * * * * * * * * Goanetters in Goa and visiting meet Jan 6, 2009 at 3.30 pm at Hotel Mandovi (prior to the Goa Sudharop event, which you're also welcome to). Join in for a Dutch dinner -- if we can agree on a venue after the meet. RSVP (confirmations only) 9822122436 or 2409490 or f...@goa-india.org I think the solution is simple. If what Melvyn writes is true (and I have no reason to doubt), why are intelligent Goans on GX? By definition, the purpose of GX is to display the power of poppycock. Those who engage in "bizarre debates" on goanet, should be placed on an automatic delete list.. If their post is opened by oversight, and the first three lines is same old ... same old ... same old, there is the delete button. My reading of goanet, some members have too much time on their hands. And few use goanet for their free entertainment. They should goggle the blogs of their favorite stand-up comedians. The readers will have a much better laugh from a professional comedian; than from a wannabe groping for something brilliantly-stupid to write. But perhaps what these writers and readers need is a hefty dose of 'Truth Serum' like Fred's description of "grown, mature men".:=)) Hmm..., (? on purpose) Fred did not use terms like 'smart' ... 'intelligent'. Are the "grown, mature men" using the goanet and GX writings as an alter-ego to spice-up their sex lives? As a suggestion, in the New Year these writers could drown their woes in single malts and sirloin grease. A Happy and Prosperous New Year to all Keep smiling! Regards, GL --- Frederick Noronha: Very true. If it wasn't so sad, it would have been funny! I also think it is unbecoming of grown, mature men (very few women survive these bizarre debates) to keep flogging the same issue ceaselessly. If someone doesn't want to get convinced by your logic, leave him alone when two persons have a one-on-one slanging match, it becomes boring for everyone else on the list! Melvyn Ferrao: I have been following the posts on Goanet and GX forums for several weeks and have a few observations to make. Here is a typical conversation very much exaggerated to explain the point I am trying to make. A: I think .. (B fumes with rage. How dare A write this? He has insulted us all). How long will it take you to grow up A? Stop your ugly rants in favour of XYZ
Re: [Goanet] Forum manners: Basic human courtesy please!
* * * * * * * * * ANNUAL GOANETTERS MEET * * * * * * * * * Goanetters in Goa and visiting meet Jan 6, 2009 at 3.30 pm at Hotel Mandovi (prior to the Goa Sudharop event, which you're also welcome to). Join in for a Dutch dinner -- if we can agree on a venue after the meet. RSVP (confirmations only) 9822122436 or 2409490 or f...@goa-india.org Very true. If it wasn't so sad, it would have been funny! I also think it is unbecoming of grown, mature men (very few women survive these bizarre debates) to keep flogging the same issue ceaselessly. If someone doesn't want to get convinced by your logic, leave him alone when two persons have a one-on-one slanging match, it becomes boring for everyone else on the list! Time for the silent majority to speak out, and say what kinds of discussions they like and dislike. Also time for them to cease being silent, and post something. Better to light one candle, etc, etc... FN 2009/1/1 Melvyn Ferrao : > Hi everyone, > I have been following the posts on Goanet and GX forums for several weeks and > have a > few observations to make. Here is a typical conversation very much > exaggerated to > explain the point I am trying to make. > > A: I think .. > > (B fumes with rage. How dare A write this? He has insulted us all) > B: How long will it take you to grow up A? Stop your ugly rants in favour of > XYZ
