Re: [lace-chat] Women's married names
"Alice Howell wrote During my years with the local utility service, we gave widows their choice of how they wanted the name on the account. I think it was about even in the numbers that kept the husband's name and the ones that changed the first name." That practice is ok if you knew them as a couple, but if you meet the widow later in life and only know her by her given name, then it is almost impossible to find her in the phone book. A neighbour of my dad, who's husband died several years ago, still has her husband's voice on the answering machine. All her/their friends think it is spooky to hear Mac's voice after all this time, and many won't leave a message. Malvary in Ottawa, Canada To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Re: [lace-chat] Women's married names
> Following my Father's death in 1983, my mother > absolutely refused to > be known as anything other than Mrs. A. Keith > COLLYER - that is in > written correspondence, including the phone book - During my years with the local utility service, we gave widows their choice of how they wanted the name on the account. I think it was about even in the numbers that kept the husband's name and the ones that changed the first name. Alice in Oregon To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Re: [lace-chat] Women's married names
Martha, The etiquette book I used to pore over in the 1960s specified that a married woman's letter should always be addressed to Mrs. John Doe. Only a divorced woman would become Mrs. Jane Doe; a widow would continue to use her husband's name. And that's how I still address letters to widows of my parents' generation. Following my Father's death in 1983, my mother absolutely refused to be known as anything other than Mrs. A. Keith COLLYER - that is in written correspondence, including the phone book - and she stayed that way until she too died in 1991. She loved him dearly and was only too proud to adopt his name and be known as his wife. The only time I recall hearing her referred to as Mrs. Jean COLLYER was when she was being acknowledged as the Church organist! David in Ballarat To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[lace-chat] Women's married names
The etiquette book I used to pore over in the 1960s specified that a married woman's letter should always be addressed to Mrs. John Doe. Only a divorced woman would become Mrs. Jane Doe; a widow would continue to use her husband's name. And that's how I still address letters to widows of my parents' generation. But one of my friends in 1968 insisted on addressing letters to me as Mrs. Martha Krieg. She said, "To me, there's a whole lot more difference between you and Laurence than one "s"!" It was the tip of the wedge, as obviously other people felt as she did. But the real revolution in how women were seen legally was still to come. I know a tenured full professor at the University of Michigan who in the 1960s or 1970s had trouble buying a house for herself. She was a single woman, and the bankers did not lend to unmarried women! -- -- Martha Krieg [EMAIL PROTECTED] in Michigan To unsubscribe send email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] containing the line: unsubscribe lace-chat [EMAIL PROTECTED] For help, write to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
