I break down difficult tasks into bite-sized ones and reward myself when
I've done one.
With the negative outcome/getting told "no", I take this as closing a
potential path. Not closing my idea/project, but getting clarity on which
way to go/not go.
Good luck!
You also might want to look at tips for ADHD people with procrastination
On Tuesday, 4 January 2022 at 3:12:43 am UTC+11 Dwight wrote:
> You could also make use of the deadline. Think as clearly as you can about
> when you would like to have the unpleasant task finished and behind you.
> Pick a realistic date, not an optimistic or aspirational date. Put it on
> your task as a due date.
>
> When the due date arrives, the task turns red. Train yourself to hate the
> appearance of red tasks in your to-do list because you know that continued
> postponement will make the task more difficult or will erode the benefit of
> completing it. If you are tempted to postpone further, contemplate for a
> moment the reasons why you picked this particular date.
>
> This only works if you only have due dates on a few tasks. Some people
> assign a due date equal to the day on which you plan to do some task. If
> you do that and you ever get even a little behind in completing your tasks,
> you will have loads of red in your task list most of the time, so the
> motivational effect of having a splash of red is lost.
>
> -Dwight
>
> On Sunday, December 19, 2021 at 3:54:46 PM UTC-5 mv1...@gmail.com wrote:
>
>> Hi johntom...
>>
>> IMO tools like MLO helps you empty your mind but that new available space
>> should not be filled with potential negative outcomes or a " a mental
>> questionnaire" about them. I think we all procrastinate at one point and no
>> one likes negative outcomes. My two cents of advise would be :
>>
>>1. Build you project/task/sub-task with positive outcomes in mind.
>>What do I need to do in order to have the outcome I want.
>>2. We all have a peak potential period in a day. In my case its in
>>the morning and don't expect me to achieve anything outstanding after
>>dinner. Others will like the calmness of the night. Find your peak period
>>and put some time down in your agenda for those difficult tasks, during
>>that period. Forget about them he rest of the day.
>>3. Reward yourself when succeeding and never blame yourself for
>>negative outcomes. However always learn from them.
>>
>> Best of luck to you.
>>
>> Le samedi 18 décembre 2021 à 10 h 35 min 14 s UTC-5, imajeff a écrit :
>>
>>> First I will say, Stéph is right about what you will need when there is
>>> emotional reasons, or dangers, in getting the task done.
>>>
>>> Now, the most powerful thing I have found in MLO is how a task can be
>>> broken up as much as you need it. This is extremely important for me
>>> because of my neurology, everything that seems simple to somebody else is a
>>> "daunting task" to me! So I have to learn that I don't even need to look at
>>> the whole thing at this moment. If the task seems like it would be bad to
>>> just do, then I consider one or more subtasks that would PREPARE for this.
>>>
>>> The beauty is that when I add subtasks, MLO easily disappears the parent
>>> task from my flat or "Active" todo list so I can just focus on what I am
>>> ready to do for now.
>>>
>>> I guess one of my first tasks was to find a therapist I can talk to
>>> about the tasks I'm not ready for, but for some tasks there were simpler
>>> subtasks like taking an online course (it one case it would be
>>> relationships) that would help me complete it.
>>>
>>> On Thursday, December 16, 2021 at 8:59:43 AM UTC-7 johntom...@gmail.com
>>> wrote:
>>>
What to do about tasks with a potential negative outcome that cause
stress?
If I have stress causing task i want something from someone and might
get a no, or a the outcome of the task could be negative, I usually get
stressed and will procrastinate. I am looking for tips in regards to
breaking down these stress causing tasks into less worrying action items,
or even less stressful states of mind.
I know if you get blocked break it down into smaller steps, but is
there a mental questionnaire, specifically a process that will allow me to
eliminate the stress of potential negative outcome tasks.
>>>
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