Re: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas
hi kate as a mid student i looked after a stillbirth so my heart goes out to you, all you can do is talk with the woman and use all your skills of empathy and understanding. regards sharon - Original Message - From: Kate /or Nick To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, November 25, 2004 8:07 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas Hi I'm a first year BMid. A little over a month ago, one of my follow through women had stillborn twins. Because she is still quite ill (and in hospital), the funeral is yet to be held and we have just starting to talk about momentos. We've covered a lot, but I wanted any other ideas. We've talked about: ¯photos ¯foot, hand lip prints ¯hair nail clippings ¯body tracing ¯hospital bracelets cot name cards cord clamps tape measure blanket clothing anything that has come into contact with the babies memory box Any other ideas would be gratefully received. Kate
Re: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas
Dear Kate, Perhaps a special soft toy for each twin could be included, cards sent from friends, angels - there's some nice prints/cards of 2 cherubs kissingwhich represents twins very nicely. Our family celebrates each birthday and Christmas with gifts and cards for our own angelbaby. These then go in to her memory box. Take care, Joy Joy Cocks RN (Div 1) RM CBE IBCLCBRIGHT Vic 3741 email:[EMAIL PROTECTED] - Original Message - From: Kate /or Nick To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, November 25, 2004 20:37 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas Hi I'm a first year BMid. A little over a month ago, one of my follow through women had stillborn twins. Because she is still quite ill (and in hospital), the funeral is yet to be held and we have just starting to talk about momentos. We've covered a lot, but I wanted any other ideas. We've talked about: ¯photos ¯foot, hand lip prints ¯hair nail clippings ¯body tracing ¯hospital bracelets cot name cards cord clamps tape measure blanket clothing anything that has come into contact with the babies memory box Any other ideas would be gratefully received. Kate
Re: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas
Oh, also amemory garden can be created further down the track if they are interested in gardening,or special plants. Roses are especially good as you can often find ones with names that are particularly meaningful for the family. For instance, there is the ABA 'Mothers Love' and also one called 'Angel Face'. You can have a plaque made up 'In memory of.etc' and put that with the tree or plant that has been chosen. I think it's a nice way to remember, at least it is for me, but anything the family chooses is fine. (Our family also decorates the grave at Christmas - Santa even visits and leaves a small gift -and sends balloons up to Tilly on her birthday and anniversary.) Writing a song or poem for the babies could be a possibility in the future. It's very early days yet, there's no need to rush anything. Let them take all the time they need. Joy Joy Cocks RN (Div 1) RM CBE IBCLCBRIGHT Vic 3741 email:[EMAIL PROTECTED] - Original Message - From: Kate /or Nick To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, November 25, 2004 20:37 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas Hi I'm a first year BMid. A little over a month ago, one of my follow through women had stillborn twins. Because she is still quite ill (and in hospital), the funeral is yet to be held and we have just starting to talk about momentos. We've covered a lot, but I wanted any other ideas. We've talked about: ¯photos ¯foot, hand lip prints ¯hair nail clippings ¯body tracing ¯hospital bracelets cot name cards cord clamps tape measure blanket clothing anything that has come into contact with the babies memory box Any other ideas would be gratefully received. Kate
RE: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas
Hi Kate, I like Joys ideas, and we did very similar things when our little one died in June, friends gave us 2 Angel Face roses, and a couple of David Austen roses, and we have planted a garden in memory of our little girl with each of our children having their own special plant for her. The children and my husband also wrote either a poem or a letter to her and placed it in her casket with a family photo of us all and a rose. There are so many wonderful ways of saying goodbye, and I guess with knowing ideas others have used they will then be able to choose their own special way of remembering their babies. We also dressed our baby in a new set of clothes I had bought for her during the pregnancy, and my sister bought a beautiful shawl to wrap her in. We wanted to keep the clothing she wore before her burial so that is kept in her memory box along with her hospital name tag and card, photos and sympathy cards we received at the time. Basically we kept everything so we can pull it out and remember whenever we like. Photos were really important to us, and we have a special baby album with all the photos taken after her birth. Were the couple in your care able to have photos taken? Even if they dont want to keep them in an album for all to see, they could just have them put away for themselves when they need to pull them out. Amanda -Original Message- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Kate /or Nick Sent: Thursday, 25 November 2004 8:37 PM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas Hi I'm a first year BMid. A little over a month ago, one of my follow through women had stillborn twins. Because she is still quite ill (and in hospital), the funeral is yet to be held and we have just starting to talk about momentos. We've covered a lot, but I wanted any other ideas. We've talked about: ¯ photos ¯ foot, hand lip prints ¯ hair nail clippings ¯ body tracing ¯ hospital bracelets · cot name cards · cord clamps · tape measure · blanket · clothing · anything that has come into contact with the babies · memory box Any other ideas would be gratefully received. Kate
RE: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas
Black and white photos look really nice, some taken with all the family together Louise in the countryside ---Original Message--- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Date: 11/26/04 08:58:32 To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas
