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same here, sometimes it takes all I have not to scream at people who complain about the stupidest stuff or feel so sad seeing friends and strangers do things I can't. I seems to have gotten worse for me as all these yrs have passed. I thought things got easier??? Oh well, we all seem to struggle with it so at least we are not alone. I TRY everyday to keep positive and look at what I have and not what I don't, which is allot. But it is a challenge. hang in all of us. Best, Shirley Bell - Original Message - From: Larry Willis To: quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Wednesday, April 15, 2015 7:04 AM Subject: Fwd: [QUAD-L] Showers Everyday. Every damn stinking crippled ass day. Soon as my eyes open in the morning. Pardon my French. -- Forwarded message -- From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com Date: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: quad-list@eskimo.com I was watching a movie and the actor in the scene woke up, pushed the covers off, sat up, put her feet on the floor, stood up and walked in to the shower right after dropping off her PJ's. It took about 1 minute. I turned off the TV and tried to remember how that felt ... but I can't. I couldn't stop crying. I can't tell you how many times I've heard family or friends say I'm going to jump in the shower. Or I got home, I was so dirty I had to jump in the shower. I know, I know I should be over feeling like this and it not make me cry after ALL these years. So I'm asking; Does anybody else still get up set or bothered by what I described above? Smile Everyday
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I hear you all and can relate, Bobbie,Larry and Shirley-- I woke up like you said today Larry.Oh lord another feeling bad day but gotta get up and make doIt don't help that my wife and only caregiver suffers from awful migraine headaches for days at a time and is now had one again for 2 straight days, wish I could help her at times but I can't. Yes Bobbie, like you I sometimes think of things we used to do but can't now...like you said, walking into a shower on your own when you want too, walking and feeling the sand on a beach or the cool grass under your bare feet, I used to get in a boat and go to out to far isolated places of beauty on a lake to fish and enjoy nature, used to love long hikes deep into wooded forestsI think of these things at times but then get back into present reality and try to enjoy what simple things in life I still can, I guess we all do. Dan H* On Wednesday, April 15, 2015 10:21 AM, shirley bell sbell...@cox.net wrote: same here, sometimes it takes all I have not to scream at people who complain about the stupidest stuff or feel so sad seeing friends and strangers do things I can't. I seems to have gotten worse for me as all these yrs have passed. I thought things got easier??? Oh well, we all seem to struggle with it so at least we are not alone. I TRY everyday to keep positive and look at what I have and not what I don't, which is allot. But it is a challenge. hang in all of us.Best, Shirley Bell - Original Message - From: Larry Willis To: quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Wednesday, April 15, 2015 7:04 AM Subject: Fwd: [QUAD-L] Showers Everyday. Every damn stinking crippled ass day. Soon as my eyes open in the morning. Pardon my French. -- Forwarded message -- From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com Date: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: quad-list@eskimo.com I was watching a movie and the actor in the scene woke up, pushed the covers off, sat up, put her feet on the floor, stood up and walked in to the shower right after dropping off her PJ's. It took about 1 minute. I turned off the TV and tried to remember how that felt ... but I can't. I couldn't stop crying. I can't tell you how many times I've heard family or friends say I'm going to jump in the shower. Or I got home, I was so dirty I had to jump in the shower. I know, I know I should be over feeling like this and it not make me cry after ALL these years. So I'm asking; Does anybody else still get up set or bothered by what I described above? Smile Everyday
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Beautifully said, Danny. I can identify with every word you said. Waking up to renewed realization is the worst part of my day. My wife is my helper and she has developed heart problems..and all I can do is be a burden. Guilt, anger, and depression are eating me alive. -- Forwarded message -- From: *Danny Hearn* ddh...@sbcglobal.net Date: Wednesday, April 15, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: shirley bell sbell...@cox.net, Larry Willis lwillis82...@gmail.com Cc: quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com I hear you all and can relate, Bobbie,Larry and Shirley-- I woke up like you said today Larry.Oh lord another feeling bad day but gotta get up and make doIt don't help that my wife and only caregiver suffers from awful migraine headaches for days at a time and is now had one again for 2 straight days, wish I could help her at times but I can't. Yes Bobbie, like you I sometimes think of things we used to do but can't now...like you said, walking into a shower on your own when you want too, walking and feeling the sand on a beach or the cool grass under your bare feet, I used to get in a boat and go to out to far isolated places of beauty on a lake to fish and enjoy nature, used to love long hikes deep into wooded forestsI think of these things at times but then get back into present reality and try to enjoy what simple things in life I still can, I guess we all do. Dan H* On Wednesday, April 15, 2015 10:21 AM, shirley bell sbell...@cox.net javascript:_e(%7B%7D,'cvml','sbell...@cox.net'); wrote: same here, sometimes it takes all I have not to scream at people who complain about the stupidest stuff or feel so sad seeing friends and strangers do things I can't. I seems to have gotten worse for me as all these yrs have passed. I thought things got easier??? Oh well, we all seem to struggle with it so at least we are not alone. I TRY everyday to keep positive and look at what I have and not what I don't, which is allot. But it is a challenge. hang in all of us. Best, Shirley Bell - Original Message - *From:* Larry Willis javascript:_e(%7B%7D,'cvml','lwillis82...@gmail.com'); *To:* quad-list@eskimo.com javascript:_e(%7B%7D,'cvml','quad-list@eskimo.com'); *Sent:* Wednesday, April 15, 2015 7:04 AM *Subject:* Fwd: [QUAD-L] Showers Everyday. Every damn stinking crippled ass day. Soon as my eyes open in the morning. Pardon my French. -- Forwarded message -- From: *Gmail* bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com javascript:_e(%7B%7D,'cvml','bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com'); Date: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: quad-list@eskimo.com javascript:_e(%7B%7D,'cvml','quad-list@eskimo.com'); I was watching a movie and the actor in the scene woke up, pushed the covers off, sat up, put her feet on the floor, stood up and walked in to the shower right after dropping off her PJ's. It took about 1 minute. I turned off the TV and tried to remember how that felt ... but I can't. I couldn't stop crying. I can't tell you how many times I've heard family or friends say I'm going to jump in the shower. Or I got home, I was so dirty I had to jump in the shower. I know, I know I should be over feeling like this and it not make me cry after ALL these years. So I'm asking; Does anybody else still get up set or bothered by what I described above? Smile Everyday
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I feel like you do about the showers being able to jump in anytime. Same thing about not doing fun things trips with my grandkids. I cry too! lindaf - Original Message - From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 8:08:04 PM Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers I was watching a movie and the actor in the scene woke up, pushed the covers off, sat up, put her feet on the floor, stood up and walked in to the shower right after dropping off her PJ's. It took about 1 minute. I turned off the TV and tried to remember how that felt ... but I can't. I couldn't stop crying. I can't tell you how many times I've heard family or friends say I'm going to jump in the shower. Or I got home, I was so dirty I had to jump in the shower. I know, I know I should be over feeling like this and it not make me cry after ALL these years. So I'm asking; Does anybody else still get up set or bothered by what I described above? Smile Everyday
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i do miss just getting up WHEN i wake up and not have to wait. my g-daughter just turned 12. she comes over often (same neighborhood) we listen to music alot and you tube in my room. i have an awesome speaker system on my pc. she dances. i sooo wish i could dance with her.it takes me back to being 12-13, listening to 45's with my friends. just last night, she did the shimmy to a song and i said o' my gosh, i could never do that! my friends use to do it to wipe-out. as far as showers, i have a wonderful handicap accessible home but you couldn't pay me to take a shower in the morning. i hurt too much. most of all, i'd like to do more with isabella. i would love to go on a hike and go swimming with her. o'well, at least i have what i have with her and we do plenty. god has surely blessed me with her her presence. she's my soul-shine 3 -Original Message- From: lindakrn linda...@comcast.net To: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com Cc: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Wed, Apr 15, 2015 2:14 pm Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Showers I feel like you do about the showers being able to jump in anytime. Same thing about not doing fun things trips with my grandkids. I cry too! lindaf From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com To: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 8:08:04 PM Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers I was watching a movie and the actor in the scene woke up, pushed the covers off, sat up, put her feet on the floor, stood up and walked in to the shower right after dropping off her PJ's. It took about 1 minute. I turned off the TV and tried to remember how that felt ... but I can't. I couldn't stop crying. I can't tell you how many times I've heard family or friends say I'm going to jump in the shower. Or I got home, I was so dirty I had to jump in the shower. I know, I know I should be over feeling like this and it not make me cry after ALL these years. So I'm asking; Does anybody else still get up set or bothered by what I described above? Smile Everyday
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Dan, I think you can relate to this incredible true story ... and few others of you as well. I was 16, 1 year before my accident, camping in the adirondack mountains, (specifically Saranac Lake) it was 1972. I woke up in my sleeping bag snuggled warm inside a half wood half canvas cabin with no running water or electricity. It was just bearly starting to get light out at 5:35am with my sister's and a friend still sleeping near by. I pulled my legs out of the flannel bag and put my bare feet on the sandy wooden floor to search for my sneakers. As I tip toed to the screen door, I took my time to open it as to not wake anybody so I can have this precious time to myself. It was just light enough that I needn't light the Lantrens to find my way to the lake at the bottom of the sandy trail cut through wild blueberries bushes. I finally came upon my destination, an old green wooden canoe that had been pulled up upon the shore. I got in as quietly as possible and picked up an oar without making a sound. My father had taught me how to Indian paddle many years ago, a technique that was virtually silent. Once the paddle is in the water it never comes out. With some clever turns of the oar I had mastered the technique. I'm now right where I want to be ... in the middle of the Placid lake with fog hanging over the water not yet burned off. I just sat there, then finally I start to hear one bird start to waken with a chirp here and there. Then another bird returns his call. It's now getting brighter and the fog is starting to burn off the calm water. I laid back against the back of the canoe and watched my little part of the world wake up. It was one of the most exhilarating experience I've lived. Many, many times when I'm stressed, up set or angry, I can bring myself back to that canoe ride. That very same day I put a lack on my back and did a day up up one of my favorite Mountain peaks. As a matter fact I have a picture of a canoe hanging in front of my bed so I can see it's the first thing I see when I wake up. I miss water skiing, snow skiing, cross country skiing swimming, sailing, swimming, boating, camping, hiking. I have more stories if anybody is interested. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 15, 2015, at 11:43 AM, Danny Hearn ddh...@sbcglobal.net wrote: I hear you all and can relate, Bobbie,Larry and Shirley-- I woke up like you said today Larry.Oh lord another feeling bad day but gotta get up and make doIt don't help that my wife and only caregiver suffers from awful migraine headaches for days at a time and is now had one again for 2 straight days, wish I could help her at times but I can't. Yes Bobbie, like you I sometimes think of things we used to do but can't now...like you said, walking into a shower on your own when you want too, walking and feeling the sand on a beach or the cool grass under your bare feet, I used to get in a boat and go to out to far isolated places of beauty on a lake to fish and enjoy nature, used to love long hikes deep into wooded forestsI think of these things at times but then get back into present reality and try to enjoy what simple things in life I still can, I guess we all do. Dan H* On Wednesday, April 15, 2015 10:21 AM, shirley bell sbell...@cox.net wrote: same here, sometimes it takes all I have not to scream at people who complain about the stupidest stuff or feel so sad seeing friends and strangers do things I can't. I seems to have gotten worse for me as all these yrs have passed. I thought things got easier??? Oh well, we all seem to struggle with it so at least we are not alone. I TRY everyday to keep positive and look at what I have and not what I don't, which is allot. But it is a challenge. hang in all of us. Best, Shirley Bell - Original Message - From: Larry Willis To: quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Wednesday, April 15, 2015 7:04 AM Subject: Fwd: [QUAD-L] Showers Everyday. Every damn stinking crippled ass day. Soon as my eyes open in the morning. Pardon my French. -- Forwarded message -- From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com Date: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: quad-list@eskimo.com I was watching a movie and the actor in the scene woke up, pushed the covers off, sat up, put her feet on the floor, stood up and walked in to the shower right after dropping off her PJ's. It took about 1 minute. I turned off the TV and tried to remember how that felt ... but I can't. I couldn't stop crying. I can't tell you how many times I've heard family or friends say I'm going to jump in the shower. Or I got home, I was so dirty I had to jump in the shower. I know, I know I should be over feeling like this and it not make me cry after ALL these years. So I'm asking; Does anybody else still get up set or bothered by what I described above? Smile Everyday
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Wonderful, Bobbie. Keep em coming. Larry Willis Retired and proud of it Begin forwarded message: From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com Date: April 15, 2015 at 8:57:43 PM EDT To: Danny Hearn ddh...@sbcglobal.net Cc: shirley bell sbell...@cox.net, Larry Willis lwillis82...@gmail.com, quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Showers Dan, I think you can relate to this incredible true story ... and few others of you as well. I was 16, 1 year before my accident, camping in the adirondack mountains, (specifically Saranac Lake) it was 1972. I woke up in my sleeping bag snuggled warm inside a half wood half canvas cabin with no running water or electricity. It was just bearly starting to get light out at 5:35am with my sister's and a friend still sleeping near by. I pulled my legs out of the flannel bag and put my bare feet on the sandy wooden floor to search for my sneakers. As I tip toed to the screen door, I took my time to open it as to not wake anybody so I can have this precious time to myself. It was just light enough that I needn't light the Lantrens to find my way to the lake at the bottom of the sandy trail cut through wild blueberries bushes. I finally came upon my destination, an old green wooden canoe that had been pulled up upon the shore. I got in as quietly as possible and picked up an oar without making a sound. My father had taught me how to Indian paddle many years ago, a technique that was virtually silent. Once the paddle is in the water it never comes out. With some clever turns of the oar I had mastered the technique. I'm now right where I want to be ... in the middle of the Placid lake with fog hanging over the water not yet burned off. I just sat there, then finally I start to hear one bird start to waken with a chirp here and there. Then another bird returns his call. It's now getting brighter and the fog is starting to burn off the calm water. I laid back against the back of the canoe and watched my little part of the world wake up. It was one of the most exhilarating experience I've lived. Many, many times when I'm stressed, up set or angry, I can bring myself back to that canoe ride. That very same day I put a lack on my back and did a day up up one of my favorite Mountain peaks. As a matter fact I have a picture of a canoe hanging in front of my bed so I can see it's the first thing I see when I wake up. I miss water skiing, snow skiing, cross country skiing swimming, sailing, swimming, boating, camping, hiking. I have more stories if anybody is interested. Bobbie Smile Everyday On Apr 15, 2015, at 11:43 AM, Danny Hearn ddh...@sbcglobal.net wrote: I hear you all and can relate, Bobbie,Larry and Shirley-- I woke up like you said today Larry.Oh lord another feeling bad day but gotta get up and make doIt don't help that my wife and only caregiver suffers from awful migraine headaches for days at a time and is now had one again for 2 straight days, wish I could help her at times but I can't. Yes Bobbie, like you I sometimes think of things we used to do but can't now...like you said, walking into a shower on your own when you want too, walking and feeling the sand on a beach or the cool grass under your bare feet, I used to get in a boat and go to out to far isolated places of beauty on a lake to fish and enjoy nature, used to love long hikes deep into wooded forestsI think of these things at times but then get back into present reality and try to enjoy what simple things in life I still can, I guess we all do. Dan H* On Wednesday, April 15, 2015 10:21 AM, shirley bell sbell...@cox.net wrote: same here, sometimes it takes all I have not to scream at people who complain about the stupidest stuff or feel so sad seeing friends and strangers do things I can't. I seems to have gotten worse for me as all these yrs have passed. I thought things got easier??? Oh well, we all seem to struggle with it so at least we are not alone. I TRY everyday to keep positive and look at what I have and not what I don't, which is allot. But it is a challenge. hang in all of us. Best, Shirley Bell - Original Message - From: Larry Willis To: quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Wednesday, April 15, 2015 7:04 AM Subject: Fwd: [QUAD-L] Showers Everyday. Every damn stinking crippled ass day. Soon as my eyes open in the morning. Pardon my French. -- Forwarded message -- From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com Date: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: quad-list@eskimo.com I was watching a movie and the actor in the scene woke up, pushed the covers off, sat up, put her feet on the floor, stood up and walked in to the shower right after dropping off her PJ's. It took about 1 minute. I turned off the TV and tried to remember how that felt ... but I can't. I couldn't stop
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ohh, i forgot to mention the grass and beach. the day of my accident we were playing volleyball on fresh cut grass. later went on the boat crashed. never had shoes on the whole day. it was one of those summer days when ya needed to take a scrub brush to your feet. well, i didn't get that far. what the doc's and nurses musta thought of those dirty dark green feet, lol dianna Beautifully said, Danny. I can identify with every word you said. Waking up to renewed realization is the worst part of my day. My wife is my helper and she has developed heart problems..and all I can do is be a burden. Guilt, anger, and depression are eating me alive. -- Forwarded message -- From: Danny Hearn ddh...@sbcglobal.net Date: Wednesday, April 15, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: shirley bell sbell...@cox.net, Larry Willis lwillis82...@gmail.com Cc: quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com I hear you all and can relate, Bobbie,Larry and Shirley-- I woke up like you said today Larry.Oh lord another feeling bad day but gotta get up and make doIt don't help that my wife and only caregiver suffers from awful migraine headaches for days at a time and is now had one again for 2 straight days, wish I could help her at times but I can't. Yes Bobbie, like you I sometimes think of things we used to do but can't now...like you said, walking into a shower on your own when you want too, walking and feeling the sand on a beach or the cool grass under your bare feet, I used to get in a boat and go to out to far isolated places of beauty on a lake to fish and enjoy nature, used to love long hikes deep into wooded forestsI think of these things at times but then get back into present reality and try to enjoy what simple things in life I still can, I guess we all do. Dan H* -Original Message- From: Larry Willis lwillis82...@gmail.com To: quad-list quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Wed, Apr 15, 2015 12:37 pm Subject: Fwd: [QUAD-L] Showers Beautifully said, Danny. I can identify with every word you said. Waking up to renewed realization is the worst part of my day. My wife is my helper and she has developed heart problems..and all I can do is be a burden. Guilt, anger, and depression are eating me alive. -- Forwarded message -- From: Danny Hearn ddh...@sbcglobal.net Date: Wednesday, April 15, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: shirley bell sbell...@cox.net, Larry Willis lwillis82...@gmail.com Cc: quad-list@eskimo.com quad-list@eskimo.com I hear you all and can relate, Bobbie,Larry and Shirley-- I woke up like you said today Larry.Oh lord another feeling bad day but gotta get up and make doIt don't help that my wife and only caregiver suffers from awful migraine headaches for days at a time and is now had one again for 2 straight days, wish I could help her at times but I can't. Yes Bobbie, like you I sometimes think of things we used to do but can't now...like you said, walking into a shower on your own when you want too, walking and feeling the sand on a beach or the cool grass under your bare feet, I used to get in a boat and go to out to far isolated places of beauty on a lake to fish and enjoy nature, used to love long hikes deep into wooded forestsI think of these things at times but then get back into present reality and try to enjoy what simple things in life I still can, I guess we all do. Dan H* On Wednesday, April 15, 2015 10:21 AM, shirley bell sbell...@cox.net wrote: same here, sometimes it takes all I have not to scream at people who complain about the stupidest stuff or feel so sad seeing friends and strangers do things I can't. I seems to have gotten worse for me as all these yrs have passed. I thought things got easier??? Oh well, we all seem to struggle with it so at least we are not alone. I TRY everyday to keep positive and look at what I have and not what I don't, which is allot. But it is a challenge. hang in all of us. Best, Shirley Bell - Original Message - From:Larry Willis To:quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Wednesday, April 15, 2015 7:04 AM Subject: Fwd: [QUAD-L] Showers Everyday. Every damn stinking crippled ass day. Soon as my eyes open in the morning. Pardon my French. -- Forwarded message -- From: Gmail bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com Date: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: quad-list@eskimo.com
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Everyday. Every damn stinking crippled ass day. Soon as my eyes open in the morning. Pardon my French. -- Forwarded message -- From: *Gmail* bobbiehumphre...@gmail.com Date: Tuesday, April 14, 2015 Subject: [QUAD-L] Showers To: quad-list@eskimo.com I was watching a movie and the actor in the scene woke up, pushed the covers off, sat up, put her feet on the floor, stood up and walked in to the shower right after dropping off her PJ's. It took about 1 minute. I turned off the TV and tried to remember how that felt ... but I can't. I couldn't stop crying. I can't tell you how many times I've heard family or friends say I'm going to jump in the shower. Or I got home, I was so dirty I had to jump in the shower. I know, I know I should be over feeling like this and it not make me cry after ALL these years. So I'm asking; Does anybody else still get up set or bothered by what I described above? Smile Everyday
