[Tango-L] Cabeceo
> How do you get the waiter's attention at a nice restaurant? Do you physically > go into the kitchen to retrieve him. The discussion of the cabaceo and waiters reminds me of an incident that happened during our first trip to Buenos Aires. We went to a milonga that served dinner. We were hungry, and we intended to eat first and then dance a little there. My girlfriend was into the cabaceo, and had already adopted a firm policy of saying "no, gracias" to any man who came to the table to invite her to dance. (Which was happening pretty often, and it wasn't just tourists.) So, after we were seated and watching the dancing, sure enough in a short time a man came to the table and addressed my partner. She smiled and said no thanks, and he went away. Much later, others in our group had started to wonder when would we ever get to order our food. We were starving. Maybe we should go somewhere else. Where is our waiter? That was when my partner realized that she had rejected the wrong man. ___ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
Re: [Tango-L] The care and feeding of new leads.
Excellent questions Mario. Yes, I am a male. My first few months were really scary. During my first visit to Buenos Aires (by myself), year and a half after I started dancing it took me one hour to get enough guts to walk up to El Beso, etc. etc. Why did I continue? Because I had the dance inside myself. The problem was inadequate technique for basic elements, all aspects of it: walk, posture, embrace, connection - I always had the musicality, which carried me through - I just had to dance, the music makes me dance. Suggestion? Technique, technique, technique -- provided that there is a feeling for the music. Teach good walking and simple turns and you have the basics. Provide guided practice of technique. Get the "leads" to practice with each other - a lot. Do not show too many tango shows. Distinguish between those who dance just to "get the girls" (nothing particularly wrong with it in itself, but quite misplaced for tango) from those who just have to dance and focus on the latter. Have teachers who are enthusiastic and who love dancers. Teach how to treat the partner with care and respect. === seek, appreciate, and create beauty this life is not a rehearsal === ___ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
[Tango-L] The care and feeding of new leads.
Are you a male? Do you remember your first two years? What was it like at the beginning? Why did you decide to try/do it? What was it like after several months...a year? And at the year and a half point...why were you still trying hard? ...What was THE problem? ..What kept you going t'ill your second year when you finally 'got it' ?...What would you suggest that any growing Arg. Tango community provide to the new leads...to keep them in it?? ... http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=734224171 www.youtube.com/user/nacotete www.tangoandchaos.org www.theopendoorway.org/audiovisual.html THE WAR IS MAKING YOU POOR! ___ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
Re: [Tango-L] Male / Female defining the roles
OK...sure, if you know someone and you think that the music is copasetic (sp?) and you want to dance..sure between friends ...ask him but I'm just putting out a philosophy of why not to... to let the guy feel it first and then ask you...and why this has more of a chance of providing a memorable dance. ... http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=734224171 www.youtube.com/user/nacotete www.tangoandchaos.org www.theopendoorway.org/audiovisual.html THE WAR IS MAKING YOU POOR! ___ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
