[Tango-L] Social-ethical behaviours and protocols
Subject: [Tango-L] Finnish Tango Sergio: I found that the real link to this interesting video is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhxZoV3t61c The one that you provided is not working for me. Thanks for the contribution. Ruben > I found a video on this subject from a program on Television "60 Minutes". > > Some of you may find it interesting: > > http://sn115w.snt115.mail.live.com/default.aspx?wa=wsignin1.0 > > > Sergio > ___ > Tango-L mailing list > Tango-L@mit.edu > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l ___ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
[Tango-L] Social-ethical behaviours and protocols
I have been at El Arranque and many milongas in Montevideo, Uruguay. I've heard directly from women over there that they try to avoid to dance with the same partner more than one tanda. Why? because it will be easily assumed that she has a special relationship with him and the rest may abstain to dance dancing her again. As far as I am concern, no matter if the lady is by herself, accompanied or in a relationship, but particularly girlfriends or spouses of my friends, I do not ask/expect for another consecutive tanda. If I really want to dance with her again, I probably wait for one hour or more. Just to be polite and tactful. R. ___ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
Re: [Tango-L] Social-ethical behaviours and protocols
These rules apply more to the locals than visiting foreigners. There's quite a taboo against dancing with the "woman" of an Argentino, but not really with tourists. The locals understand that tourists are here to dance and perhaps don't know the codigos, so things are looser with foreigners, with no disrespect. The codigos even go so far as to prevent a milonguero from dancing with the friends of someone he dances with regularly, or who sit at the same table. And equally, a man's friends do not dance with his favorite partners or those who sit with her. It's all out of respect. Personally speaking, I "can" only dance with foreigners (with permission) and rarely local friends, while Ruben can dance with anyone he wants. And it's fine with me; I don't have a problem with that because he doesn't abuse the privilege. And I don't want to dance with everyone anyway. So the codigos work out very well for me, and always have; in fact, I LOVE them, because I feel safe and respected. Cherie http://tangocherie.blogspot.com
Re: [Tango-L] Social-ethical behaviours and protocols
Hahaha! Read the article about tango that appeared in National Geographic a couple of years ago. The photos that accompanied the story were taken in BsAs. The author said that they weren't allowed to bring cameras into a few of the milongas because the cameras might catch "people dancing with people they aren't supposed to dance with." BTW, one strategy that couples can use to increase the number of dances they get in BsAs is to split up and sit in the singles section. You can dance with your regular partner and maybe get a few with the locals, too. Sorry to report that women who arrive with partners are often regarded as their partner's property and left alone. Catch is: don't come in separately, sit separately and then leave the venue together at the same time. Leave separately and meet out on the sidewalk or close by the entrance. Otherwise, the woman can wind up with a bad reputation. This matters if you go back to the same milonga and crowd on another evening, -R -Original Message- From: Ruben Malan To: Tango-L@mit.edu Sent: Fri, Aug 6, 2010 9:42 am Subject: [Tango-L] Social-ethical behaviours and protocols This question may be superfluous for some, and perhaps controversial for many, ut I'm wondering if there is any known written or unwritten code of ethics egarding girlfriends and boyfriends, fiancés, husbands and wives proper ehaviors Not only among themselves but dancing with other partners also. Are here any traditional unspoken rules at the Buenos Aires Milongas regarding how ccompanied women or men should behave with the opposite sex (or same sex) asual partners, without falling in the "questionable" or "excess" category? Is there any observed difference in USA or Europe? El Urugua en Tally __ ango-L mailing list ang...@mit.edu ttp://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l ___ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
[Tango-L] Social-ethical behaviours and protocols
This question may be superfluous for some, and perhaps controversial for many, but I'm wondering if there is any known written or unwritten code of ethics regarding girlfriends and boyfriends, fiancés, husbands and wives proper behaviors Not only among themselves but dancing with other partners also. Are there any traditional unspoken rules at the Buenos Aires Milongas regarding how accompanied women or men should behave with the opposite sex (or same sex) casual partners, without falling in the "questionable" or "excess" category? Is there any observed difference in USA or Europe? El Urugua en Tally ___ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
