Mimi, we are with you and Jim. I'll call you today.
*William R. (Bill) Elliott*
30105 Briarcrest Court
Georgetown, Texas 78628
*speodes...@gmail.com *
573-291-5093 cell
On Sun, Apr 17, 2022 at 4:49 AM Mimi Jasek wrote:
> I will be bringing Jim home soon since the facility has said he has
> plateaued in his rehab. Unfortunately the anesthesia put him back mentally
> as to cognition abilities. They feel he is strong, can do things, but takes
> single instructions to accomplish them. They suggest 24/7 care for his
> safety. Perhaps they are right, and perhaps his dementia? or frontal lobe
> stroke damage got worse from the surgery to fix his hip. I personally know
> he did not get the same kind of rehab this time that he got after the
> stroke. Different facility for a number of reasons. I saw deficiencies and
> he told me of one therapist’s frustration with him. No matter. Seems like
> we went one step back, then two or three more. I needed him to be so much
> better before bringing him home, but we shall see. I must get Home Health
> Care and sitters - again - arranged for next week, besides working normal
> hours and having PTO blackout till 5/4 due to phone system change at work.
> He may come home in wheelchair, but our house is not good for that. He can
> walk on his walker though. He has to.
>
> I sold his truck to pay down some of our past debt to help me get closer
> to retirement to be with him, but this money will now be used for his care.
> Since he has been in rehab both our phones went out, I had to get him a
> tablet till replacement for him comes in so he would have a way to watch
> his movies, both 1965 era toilets in house broke, and sewer and water lines
> from house to street had to be replaced! All that on top of replacing
> washer and water heater a few months ago, as well as the tub to shower
> conversion for him. I keep thinking ok enough already! Lol I have an older
> sister and friends say for me to really think about long term care, but I
> know he is not there, and will not give up on him. He is a human being, not
> something to be thrown out with the trash! They worry about me though, but…
>
> I have had times of great frustration and sadness even before Jim broke
> his hip with how our lives have changed due to his health issues. I am
> exhausted, I have developed a manageable heart condition myself due to kind
> of managing a high BP problem somehow when going for checkups maybe for
> years to where it went undetected till later last year. Then his hip. My
> desire some days to just walk away from my financial responsibilities for
> us so I can be with him is almost overwhelming. But…I don’t know how it
> happened, but the other night I suddenly realized what my place is in all
> this, and really always has been - that of his champion, his caretaker and
> caregiver to the end, no matter the cost. I have no one else to depend on,
> no ready help, and no one on this earth loves that man like me. I can still
> feel stressed and overwhelmed, but when he asks me not to leave him and to
> please take him home, well…
>
> I am up late a lot, and have started watching some Saturday night music
> shows on CBS. As luck would have it tonight I saw a show about Rob Thomas
> of Matchbox 20. He did his solo songs “Unwell”, which equated to Jim, and
> “Ever the Same” which is us in a nutshell! Then Ryan Hurd was on later and
> sang his song “Wish for the World” - another affirmation of us. I quietly
> cried, knowing this is us, and somehow we will once again make it through.
>
> Our world is so messed up right now. In recent years we have lost too many
> in our community. We also have a number in our caving community who are
> aging and need help and someone to care for them. Some are luckier than
> others. Just do not take life for granted, and if you can give of your self
> and your time to another, do so. It means the world believe me. Create your
> own safety net too for your future, for life happens.
>
> Be safe and well, and go outside to enjoy the beauty our world has to
> share - whether above the crust or below. We seriously both wish we could
> join you
>
> Mimi Jasek
>
> Sent from my iPhone
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