dari alamat yang diberikan mbak Quinike (tks banyak, mbak!), saya menemukan artikel yang mungkin bermanfaat buat netter yang sudah memiliki 'toddler' seperti saya: Taming Tantrums Several years ago, I clipped a cartoon from a magazine. It shows a toddler lying on the sidewalk kicking and screaming, while his distraught parent scolds, "Herbert, you are acting like a child!" Perhaps the most difficult task of parenthood is to keep calm in the face of a small child's uncontrolled fury. The urge to respond with a tantrum of your own is usually caused by embarrassment or feelings of helplessness and is often very strong. Yet an angry reaction from you is sure to make the child's tantrum worse. Understanding why toddlers lose control can help you prevent many tantrums and deal more effectively with the ones that do occur. What causes tantrums. Tantrums don't happen because toddlers are willful and disobedient or because you have raised a dreadful child! They usually occur because toddlers have not yet learned to accept frustration. When they want to do something but can't, they are overwhelmed by a sense of helplessness and dissatisfaction. The tantrum is simply a release of that feeling. Realize that tantrums are common among toddlers. One estimate has it that the majority of 2-year-olds have a tantrum at least once a week, which may last from 15 to 30 minutes. And these tantrums are all the result of the toddler's limited ability to cope with frustration. Preventing tantrums. Knowing this, there are certain steps you can take to help reduce the number of tantrums. Limit your toddler's access to toys and activities that are fascinating but too difficult for the age. Watch for fatigue and make sure your child has adequate rest. Look out for signs of over stimulation and when they occur switch the child to a calmer activity. Try to keep "nos" and "don'ts" to a minimum. Instead of "nos" offer distractions and alternatives: Show how to smell the flowers instead of picking them, for example. Getting through a tantrum. These techniques can't head off every tantrum and once one has started, it probably won't do much good to tell your toddler to stop. The tantrum will be over sooner if you let it run its course. While it's going on, your toddler needs a sense of your calm control to feel safe. So, try to remember that the tantrum serves a purpose. It's a release of rage caused by feelings of frustration, not hostility. Sometimes a toddler needs to be left alone - but never out of sight - for a short while. At other times it helps to simply hold the upset child in a gentle and loving embrace. If a tantrum happens in public, it's a good idea to take your toddler to some quiet, relatively private spot until tempers cool. Your attitude after the tantrum is important too. As your toddler comes out of the tantrum, offer reassurance and praise for regaining control. Try to forget the upset and look for cheering things to say. The more stable and positive you can be during and after tantrums, the easier it will be for your child to control outbursts of temper as life goes on. >> Pusing milih POP3 atau web mail? mail.telkom.net solusinya << >> Belanja Info & Keperluan Balita? Klik, http://www.balitanet.or.id >> Info balita, http://www.balita-anda.indoglobal.com Etika berinternet, email ke: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Stop berlangganan, e-mail ke: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
