Stop Giving Yourself the Short End of the Stick! by Guy Finley
Key Lesson: Any form of measuring yourself by an unkind action of another towards you is like looking into a badly fractured mirror and then blaming yourself for the shattered image that you see there. Let Go of Self-Recrimination The self-defeating desires that drag us around belong to a nature that always feels incomplete. Nothing this false self tells us to do does one thing to loosen its hold on us. Fighting with it -- as we have done in the past -- only slays "half the foe," while giving in to it leads nowhere but to more self-recrimination. This torment, and all other suffering associated with its kind, is needless. There's only one thing actually wrecking us: we keep believing in -- and then acting on -- false promises made to us by a false nature. This is why whenever we suddenly feel incomplete -- in some way, inadequate -- we must stop trying to "do" something about this unwanted sense of self, and choose instead to see the parts of us that want us to identify with that feeling. Choosing this new kind of watchfulness is the seed of a new beginning. Rather than go along with the old willfulness that seeks instant gratification, it is we who take hold of our own attention and place it where we wish it held... on what is already whole and complete within us. But this spiritual step is only our first action to be taken. As soon as we are centered in this healing remembrance -- even if we do not yet feel the Good we call upon come into us -- we must still give ourselves to it, surrender our self completely into what is already complete within us -- even if this act of giving is just to our hope for a wholeness yet to be known. This is the true enactment of our new understanding: We don't just want to "let go and let God;" we now know that we need to, because we've seen what happens when we hold onto what's hurting us. This article is excerpted from <http://www.guyfinley.org/store/books-and-ebooks/136?coupon=KLDiscount> Breaking Dependency. http://www.guyfinley.org/free-content/writings/special-lessons/5354?src=KL <http://www.guyfinley.org/free-content/writings/special-lessons/5354?src=KL&; lyid=172093102&klsid=sid0000_KL> &lyid=172093102&klsid=sid0000_KL -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "BETTER PERSONALITY GROUP" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to better_personality+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. To post to this group, send email to better_personality@googlegroups.com. Visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/better_personality. For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout.
