Hi Khazana as I reply to you I'm aware of lots of thoughts and feelings as I think back over my participation in FFL over the past 5 1/2 months. It's been quite a rich experience for me. That would be one way to say it ha ha.
Anyway, about Barry, some people are making the point that he's MOSTLY negative, that on balance, he's more negative than positive. I know for me I've been shocked at how there will be something really negative from him suddenly and without any seeming reason. I'm remembering his post about the TV show Newsroom and he was writing positively about it, etc. Then suddenly there's this sentence which I will paraphrase: And I really don't give a s**t what you think. Whoa! I was like, where the heck did THAT come from?! Like that, often he'll write something positive but then towards the end he'll add on a negative tag. Like there was a sweet post about Maya. But he ended by saying something nasty about FFL women. OTOH, I enjoyed his posts when he first moved to Leiden. And sometimes he makes me laugh for which I'm always grateful. With him and a few other posters, I begin most posts. But if it becomes negative in a predictable direction, I usually simply stop reading. Negativity is bearable. But negativity in a predictable direction? No thank you. These days I'm totally into brain neuroplasticity. If you gotta be negative, at least help my brain forge a few new neural pathways (-: ________________________________ From: khazana108 <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com Sent: Friday, October 26, 2012 5:57 PM Subject: [FairfieldLife] In praise of Barry (Re: Coup de foudre) --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Share Long <sharelong60@...> wrote: > > I still think everyone here has their gifts and their flaws Yes, sure, that's the way it is. So in this particular case of Barry, I wanted to give an example, about *what I like about him*, what I see as a good quality in him. That is, this innocence in sharing this moment, and not just this, also they way he can convey it in a very readable manner, and, connected with this, his inner independence. I wrote this post, right after reading one of those criticisms on him, how he is ONLY BAD, how he would be only out to hurt other people, as if he would be some kind of a sadist. He is not. There are other motivations within him, people tend to oversee, and I have tried to point these out. You have to understand, Share, that I had many controversies with him in the past, some actually quite extreme. But I have always seen his good points as well, even then. And, Share, you would be the first one to understand, we have a choice, we can focus on some kind of negativity, some expressions etc., but usually don't really see what's behind this. Or, you can focus your attention on the more positive aspects. Everybody has this choice. Can we try to be more objective in our judgment? Can we see beyond the superficial? Just imagine you would collect all the posts of a certain person on FFL and related forums like AMT, over decades, select the good ones, the ones who could stand on their own. What would you get with each person here? With Barry, you can be sure, you would get a bunch of funny posts, but also many posts which contain perennial wisdom, which are mostly applicable also in a larger context that goes beyond only this forum. Something that warns you to not fall into spiritual traps. That is how I read him. We have a lot of values in common, many of which I acquired AFTER I had left the movement. I guess the same is be true for Barry too. His stories would make an interesting book. That is also true for some others I know here, not of everybody though, certainly. > I like the richness of all the different voices of FFL though I'm more > comfortable with some of those voices than with others. But that selective > comfort also seems true of us all. > > Hey computer guys, is it possible to reply from archives? I'm still not > getting some posts in my email inbox. Has been happening since Tuesday. > Heck I didn't even get last night's post count til this morning! > > > > ________________________________ > From: khazana108 <no_re...@yahoogroups.com> > To: FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com > Sent: Thursday, October 25, 2012 10:09 AM > Subject: [FairfieldLife] In praise of Barry (Re: Coup de foudre) > > >  > --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, "Robin Carlsen" <maskedzebra@> wrote: > > > Could you say something nice about me too, Khazana? > > Yes, Robin, of course I can, and will too. But you have to wait, wait at > least a fraction of the time Barry had to wait. You see, I am already trying, > but I still have to warm up a bit. >
