I've made this point many times, and made it again yesterday, to someone who *still* has not had the self-honesty to go back through her posts of the last month to see whether it's really *true* that she never expresses any pleasure except when it is at the expense of someone she hates. It **IS** true; I checked. If she had the balls to do what I suggested, she would be unable to find any posts to cite that suggest that she has any other pleas- ures in life.
Today we start off the Euro "posting day" with more whines about victimology from the woman who seems incapable of focusing on anything else. So what do all these women have in common? THEY GET UPSET WHEN THEY CAN'T GET PEOPLE TO FOCUS ON THE THINGS THAT THEY CANNOT *HELP* BUT FOCUS ON. They *complain* when someone "changes the subject" and focuses on something they find more interesting, or when they just ignore their posts. They whine and they name-call when this happens. They get *upset*. Often they lose it completely, and melt down. All because they can't get people to focus on the things they have chosen to focus on. Sane people don't do this. Sane people have *varied* interests. They express pleasure at things in their lives other than the latest imagined "gotcha" that allows them to think they've "won." They focus on something more than being a perpetual victim. Sane people on this forum have things that they LOVE. Raunchy and Judy -- based on their posts -- don't seem to have anything like that. They have only things that they hate, or are offended by, or crusade *against*, or feel that they have to "protect" others from. They'd like people to believe that this makes them admirable, and that they "deserve" to be admired and listened to because they can focus on nothing else BUT the things they hate. I don't admire them for this. I feel sorry for them. The people I admire on this forum have things that they LOVE. Rick, when he talks about his family or Amma. Marek, when he talks about surfing or finds some really neat video or image to share with us to lighten our day. Curtis (bless his absent heart), whose whole *life* is about doing and appreciating the things that he loves. Many of us, when we talk about movies or books or music we love. Any number of others, focusing on what they love. Compare to the two cited above, who seem to have little that they DO love. Think I'm exaggerating? Just watch. PAY ATTENTION to what these women focus on. That is what they have become. Then, once you have done this, step back and think about the fact that they want YOU to focus on these things, too. They want it so badly that they get upset when you don't. They *attack* you when you don't and call you names. What you focus on you become. They want you to focus on the things that they focus on non-stop so that you will become like them. Don't take my word for it...just WATCH them and pay attention to whether they ever express love or joy at life's simple pleasures, or even exemplify simple humanity in their dealings with other people. If you think they do, then by all means focus on the things they are desperately trying to get you to focus on, and you'll become just like them. On the other hand, if you find that some others on this forum strike you as a bit more balanced and happy and fulfilled, maybe you'll want to focus more on the things *they* focus on, so that you can become a bit more like them. Just sayin'...
