One of my hurdles as an editor is incivility: a deficiency of it in others
and, according to some of them, too much of it in me - or too much
sensitivity. I started a discussion Where and how to request a Civility
board
Many things are made to be about gender when they are genuinely not.
This is one of those things. The essay on meta titled Don't be a dick is
very popular, widely quoted, and nobody has an issue with the fact that
slang for male genitalia is being used pejoratively in reference to
behaviour.