Cecil Pinto wrote" Of course simple white lies are acceptable. Like substituting "Mamma's stomach" for the more incomprehensible 'uterus'. But when he asks how he got there in the first place it becomes a bit tricky. My wife, Beatrice, quite simply closes the matter by saying, "God put you there". But I have difficulty in stating something that I am not so sure of myself. __________________________________________________________________
Cecil, parents in today's world do have a tough job handling questions from children.Media magazines,TV ,commercials,movies do expose kids to a lot of facts, at an early age. Our job as parents is to inculcate in our kids good values which will stand them in good stead,all the days of their lives. Where do we get a standard of good values from?"Good" is a subjective word,what is good and acceptable for one individual might not be acceptable to another.eg white lies are acceptable to you,they arent to me. I attended a course on "Children's sexuality" at Hospicio in Margao,and we were advised to be open and truthful with our kids and use questions from children as opportunities to address issues on sexuality.I could share my notes with you,if you are interested. I am a committed Christian by choice and I use a standard of good values from the Bible.I am not going to get into religious debate.Believing in God,believing in Jesus and the Bible gives me a source,from which to draw from and that is what I share with my children.I feel that my job as a parent is to give them a good foundation -children need guidance ,later as adults ,they are free to make choices ------ believe/disbelieve,question etc. By the way,Beatrice's answer "God put you there" is a good answer. Cheers, Melinda
