Home turns into a house Everyone's dream in life is to own a hone. It is the place that is an archive of all our life's , aspirations and dreams entomed within the walls , good and not so pleasant experiences. Home is where we are born, grow up and are very much emotionally attached.It is our roots and identity in the surroundings .No matter where we may travel for work and tours,, Home beckons us to return to recount and recollect all our glorious moments we shared with our parents , grand parents and our siblings.No wonder , we spent a fortune to construct it like a monument of our desires .No expenditure is excessive to provide the best of comforts and accessories, as that is one place we spend the maximum hours of our waking life .We are deeply possessive of this little den .May be some can own the luxury of our own home but many have to seek accomodation in a rented house or an apartment. Nevertheless the sentiment and emotions associated with the home are at variance.we are more concerned with permanent address as it is a requirement for obtaining many services. The owner of rented premises does not permit the use of house number , address to avoid legal complications of claims The owners of homes spend a life time, planning, remodelling, renovating , extending , painting and providing other amenities.Hence they are emotionally involvelled and thus get attached. Many a sentiments lead to possessiveness. In the west people change their homes as they move to another place for work or simply relocate for one reason or otherr.Wealthy individual have have the concept of holiday homes even abroad .where they shift ocassionaly for a break in routine and environment. The idea of permanent home often leads to conflicts of various types but such misunderstanding and fights in the west between neighbours are not so intense or frequent. Good neigbhourly relations are necessary for peace and accomodation of live and let live .The sentiments are so profound that disposing of our homes are a rarity absolutely out of necessity. We prefer to maitain them as adorable relics .The new habitat or settlement is most preferable in the surroundings of our ancestral neighbourhood.Relocating in a complete unfamiliar terrain is not always a welcome proposal. A new situation is in the offing due to families migrating in search of employment and better life.The number of inhabitants dwindle and finally lead to closure of our wonderful homes. Once settled abroad there is no intentions to return . The elderly and lonely shift to care homes etc as they no longer have the comfort of their loved ones Senior citizens are at a risk of staying lonely Besides they often need medical and other assistance apart from company.The tresult is that many a palacial houses are closed and may soon crumble for want of maintenance. There is also a real threat of being illegally occupied and such instances are a galore .Homes and properties are illegally sold rented, broken open to take possession . The surrounding compounds , garden , fruit bearing trees are forsaken .The place sports a desolate look with overgrowth of bushes etc you may happen to recall the place which was once bustling with life and activity is now quiet and in ruins. The attitude and sentiments no longer hold that attachment .With the passage of time our interests too undergoes change and now that home which meant everything once in our life our the precious possession is unwanted .Besides the new generation grown and educated outside have no attachment at all or emotional bonding with the roots .They would not like to live here and abandon their comforts and employment So one day sooner or later the home of our roots will be converted into just a house This trend in Goa is fast catching up. Our generations are migrating ib search of greener pastures. Naturally it has led to influx of people from other states of India Goa is now el dorado for them .We have to accept that we too soon will be strangers as our numbers decrease rapidly also due to family planning concepts..The ancestral homes to maitain on short trips are time consuming , expensive with paucity of labour .The children settled abroad also feel that visits to home every year is redundant as with the same expense they can visit and enjoy new places.The lure of visits may diminish with absence of old parents The precious possessions and belongings are no more attractions in utalatian or value .The once sentimental home now in shambles and ruins will be soon be a new house to a prospective buyer Whereever we work and live that is our new home or a house temporary in nature The tears , sacrifices the resources we invested in making home our roots are now a distant past .Home is always the house we live in and its in transient state. Nelson Lopes Chinchinim
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