Date: Wed, 27 Oct 2010 17:42:08 -0700
From: dblioness2...@yahoo.com
To: luffth...@peoplepc.com
CC: tango-l@mit.edu
Subject: Re: [Tango-L] cabaceo/rejection
First of all, I'm not sure you should generalize, there, TT. (Apparently, you
have
At the expense of sounding arrogant/snobby.I have found if I am more
discriminating and patient in choosing whom I will accept as my tango
partners(ignoring some cabaceos by looking under the table for some lint,
whatever), I have more than enough dances; avoid being a wallflower and in
Trini, here.
--- On Tue, 10/19/10, Balazs Gyenis gy...@hps.elte.hu wrote:
. This made me think about how they could handle the
problem and tried to come up with a solution which (a) could plausibly
reduce refusal stress,
Stress is a result of feeling a lack of control. Give a person a sense
Sean here. I should know better, but here are a few of my thoughts on the
subject.
--- Patricia Katz wrote:
I see many leaders with very good potential stay at a level that
is below their ability; these leaders don't take workshops or privates when
very good teachers are in town. It seems most
As for this whole card/cabaceo issue, I wonder if it is all over a single
girl who can't say no?
Gosh, how naive I was to think we managed to close this part of the
discussion.
No, if you want to point fingers, point towards me. I can't count
the times I've heard followers complaining about
- Original Message
From: Trini y Sean (PATangoS) patan...@yahoo.com From Sean.
These women need a serious reality check about their own abilities.
Agree. Many beginner ladies can get dances with good leaders and they
soon have an inflated sense of their own ability. Thereafter,
Jack Dyland wrote: I've never been rejected since
because, if the girl doesn't want to dance with me, she won't make
eye-contact. That's the beauty of the cabeceo for the man?- no more
rejections.
What do you call it when you cababceo the woman, she meets your eyes and
painfully slowly
A woman who is good also needs to understand that she will have a big
effect in influencing the quality of the men's dancing in her community. If
she expects them to come up to her standard. If she doesn't lower her own.
She needs to be the muse. If she wants to help the men in the community
The question is: how does a follower convey to a leader that the no
doesn't mean forever, but means that when this particular leader improves
then she will accept his invitation, whether by cabaceo or a direct verbal
invitation?
A cabaceo doesn't address this problem. The no doesn't necessarily
