On 9/24/06, Nader Chehab <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
I found this page while looking at the SL4 wiki today:
http://www.sl4.org/wiki/SingularitarianSocialSkills
I think it might interest some of the posters on this list.
I'd particularly question the comments on fashion - they seem decidely
last millenium. The most successful social events I've been to I've
been wearing something slightly different from everyone else - it
makes you stand out. Of course you should only do this if you can
follow up and show everyone that you can stand out personality-wise as
well.
In particular:
"In general, darker clothing (for men, anyway) gives an impression
that you are more serious or even more intelligent"
Sometimes you shouldn't be trying for *more* intelligent or *more*
serious. I think we are probably adequate in those areas already - any
more and we could become threatening to others. One of the times I was
at a gathering and later received compliments via third-parties about
me - and I was wearing a bright yellow t-shirt.
"Have well-combed hair, not hair that "playfully" goes every which
way, similar in appearance to a rat's nest. Avoid a "traditional" cut
– a traditional cut gives the strong impression of traditional beliefs
and acceptance of the status quo."
This seems contradictory to me. Most traditional cuts are to do with
well combed hair (for men that is). Dreads, faux-hawks etc. and other
non-traditional haircuts are anything but well-combed.
I read through the rest and they seem like good things to be aware of.
However, I'd say only implement the changes that you feel comfortable
making and can see the benefit to (after seriously considering each
one, not just flippantly disregarding them as not applying to you). If
you are trying too hard to NOT be yourself you'll stick out like a
sore thumb - in a bad way, not in a good way like I mentioned above.
--
-Joel
"Wish not to seem, but to be, the best."
-- Aeschylus
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