The sad part for me in the communication of thoughts and feelings is that we don't get heard but for our evaluations. The evaluation tends to obscures the intent behind it because we state our evaluations as facts rather than opinions they they really are.
The evaluations from the list Mom may have sounded like "criticism", or "pettiness" as interpreted by Peartree and the reaction from Peartree sounded like "criticism" of the list Mom to a few others who expressed their reactions as evaluations having a cascading effect in back and forth evaluations of each other. I don't think anyone was heard by anyone really. the evaluation is only a hidden want. If we could express ourselves in terms of what we are wanting rather than evaluating what's wrong with each other for not doing it, I think we are more likely to be heard without ruffling so many feathers. that's what I would like. Though i do like a good fight, the list fights tend not to be very good to me. A good fight, for me, is when everyone makes a point that educates the other to a new perspective. some wouldn't call that a fight though, without some mud slinging. -- StarMax is sponsored by <http://lowendmac.com/> and... / Buy books, CDs, videos, and more from Amazon.com \ / <http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/redirect-home/lowendmac> \ Support Low End Mac <http://lowendmac.com/lists/support.html> StarMax list info: <http://lowendmac.com/lists/starmax.html> --> AOL users, remove "mailto:"; Send list messages to: <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To unsubscribe, email: <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> For digest mode, email: <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Subscription questions: <mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Archive: <http://www.mail-archive.com/starmax%40mail.maclaunch.com/> Using a Mac? Free email & more at Applelinks! http://www.applelinks.com
