Nina wrote: "If someone had offered me to "do a few milongas", I am not sure I would have answered it any differently than this woman. :)Language holds power. Never underestimate the power of seduction (salesmanship, persuasion). This is an example of a failed sales attempt. The man had 2 seconds for a sales pitch and he failed to sell himself and the experience he was offering to the woman, and she did not want to be a woman with him."
Okay, Nina, let's digress into a new topic momentarily. My preferred invite method is always the cabaceo, a custom I love, despite the fact that many followers in my neck of the woods (NYC ) are unfamiliar with it, so instead of meeting the eyes of leaders would rather stare at the floor glumly wondering why they arent dancing. Add in the fact that milonga hosts in the US strangely insist on keeping the lighting so dark that you cant see a cabaceo from 10 feet away, let alone across the room, as you could in the brightly-lit BA milongas. (I always wondered why they don't want us to see how everyone in the room is dancing). So, leaders often fall back on a poor alternative to the cabaceo, the direct verbal invite. Please educate me, Nina, what are some examples of quality 2 second sales pitches you, or others on this forum, have heard and accepted? I have experimented with the gallant, "May I have the honor of this tanda?" To the mundane, "would you like to dance?", to the direct, "let's dance this one", to the humorous "good god, woman, its Disarli, how can you possibly sit this one out?" I would like to expand this repertoire, so if you have cant-miss ideas, please share. -Martin Nussbaum _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l