I didn't feel at all "stuck" in BA by the cabaceo, on the contrary I felt free and much more in control of my own destiny. As you say, women can, um, encourage anyone they want to ask them with eye contact, and in the meantime they don't have to accept any dances at any time that they don't want to, for whatever reason.
Terri --- Konstantin Zahariev <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > On 10/15/07, Carol Shepherd <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Seems to me that it's the > > women who are really stuck in BsAs, because the codes do not allow them > > to ask anybody. > > Is this really true? It seems to me the cabeceo is more or less an > equal opportunity custom since both women and men can initiate an > 'invite' by staring at somebody. I realize the usual line is that only > men can invite but with cabeceo, this requires a fairly narrow > definition of 'invite'. Realistically, both women and men invite with > their eyes, though on the dance floor, after that negotiation, it may > appear as if the woman only accepts. > > Since in BA the cabeceo is used extensively, if not exclusively, I am > not yet convinced that women are more stuck than the men in getting > dances. > > With best regards, > > Konstantin > Victoria, Canada > _______________________________________________ > Tango-L mailing list > Tango-L@mit.edu > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > ____________________________________________________________________________________ Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. http://travel.yahoo.com/ _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
