The first thing that most Argentine men ask the woman after the first dance is if she feels comfortable. In 12 years, I only heard that from one non-Argentine man.
Perhaps, there is a different definition of what success is and it may vary from culture to culture. Best regards to everyone, Nina Quoting Janis Kenyon <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>: > Tom Stermitz wrote: > > Yes, the important thing for the guys is that they feel successful. > Like they have achieved mastery of something, and have the knowledge > and confidence to lead a beautiful woman into a dance. > > In tango nothing happens without the guy coming up with an idea and > then executing. This is the crux of the "performance anxiety" problem. > And in tango you are expecting him to succeed or fail in front of a > woman, which loads it even more. > > You want to retain men? Leave them at the end of each class confident, > with the new ideas well-integrated with things they already know. For > a beginner, that might just be walking. > > The business strategy of "teach something difficult so they will take > privates", doesn't succeed with men. They'll just quit. Maybe they are > cheap; But really they feel unsuccessful and frustrated.>>>>>>>> > > > > Success? Mastery? Knowledge? Confidence? > > What about being inspired by the music and dancing that feeling? > Milongueros dance because the music inspires them, not because they are > successful. > > The problem for so many men is that they are thinking rather than feeling. > No wonder men experience performance anxiety. Their memory fails them after > all those classes of step patterns that are useless on crowded floor. > > Men will dance well when they can embrace a woman and be present in the > moment. > > > Janis > www.ToTango.net/milongueros.html > > > _______________________________________________ > Tango-L mailing list > Tango-L@mit.edu > http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l > ---------------------------------------------------------------- http://www.earthnet.net Boulder's Premier Datacenter _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l