This is my first post, but I had to offer a thought as a follower who has been on the other side of this same problem with a few leaders when I began to learn tango. Milonga was easy, anything else was impossible... but only with some leaders!
And for me, I decided the difficulty was when I was dancing with a leader whose lead was not *with* the music in a slow tango in a way I could easily understand; his movements seemed to not relate to the music and he had a very 'soft' or 'quiet' or 'subtle' lead... so each movement was a surprise, and I was off balance. Not fun for either of us! Now, I have improved both my balance and listening skills enough to not be quite so surprised even if he is not with the music, and I am also more familiar with the music, and can understand more variety in interpretations thereof, and see how his lead relates to the music in a way I might not have understood when the music was less familiar. For your situation, as an experiment, may I suggest you try dancing a tango with her where your leading is as clear and 'generous' as you can make it, and dance with the most obvious rhythm of the song. Don't be too creative or try to surprise her with anything. Make your intentions very simple and very clear. And if you do improve the slow tangos with her, I would love to read about what worked for you! : ) shelley _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
