Tonight I went to one of my favorite milongas, which is at the L.A. Argentine Association. I like go early to get a good parking spot and my favorite table. Not many people come that early so I was idly thinking about this and that, that being how I pick the ladies to ask.
I have a routine which gradually evolved; I didn't plan it out. The first people I think of are friends, then acquaintances who always let me know they enjoy dancing with me. I often don't dance with them, though. Most of them are good dancers, and popular for themselves. Only if they seem to be sitting out a lot of dances do I check with them to see if they want to dance but, for whatever reason, are not being asked a lot that night. Then I check for ladies who aren't dancing at all or very much, for any of several reasons. I have several motivations for this, selfish and otherwise. One is that I fear being rejected less. And if they are beginners they probably won't be highly critical of me. I'm pretty good after twenty years of tango and thirty years of lots of other dancers before that, but I'm not super-terrific. And I also know what it is like to want to dance but not have the chance, so I sort of pay back all the women who were kind to me by being kind to these ladies. Soon I have warmed up not only physically but emotionally and artistically, and I'm dancing well. So I begin asking the more popular ladies to dance. There's more to my routine than that, but that's enough to get a discussion started. So. How do you decide who to dance with? Larry de Los Angeles http://ShapechangerTales.com - story added: "Kassandra's Last Warning" ____________________________________________________________ Improve your driving ability with a stop at traffic school. Click now! http://thirdpartyoffers.juno.com/TGL2131/fc/BLSrjnsKnbV3TehioTqIJKxYo8mJMjM3IIN0R2CjJyVXloz59u5flG8UKC8/ _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list [email protected] http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l
