--- On Tue, 5/19/09, Gary <garyb...@ozemail.com.au> wrote: > > When I decide to lead at a milonga, I'm always > thinking "what else > > can I do?" > > I don't get this feeling often, but its a killer when it > happens. (BTW, I'm almost certain that the writer knows a lot more > 'stuff' than me.)
I wrote the first statement above and while I know a lot of stuff (but let's not do a count comparison) I don't get much of a chance to use it at a milonga. I am so used to eliminating things from my vocabulary to adjust to my partner, that when I do have a partner who can really dance, it's like "wait a minute, I can actually do something but what?". For less experienced partner, I need to search around for what can I do that this person can handle without boring myself with the same backward ochos that I did for the last 3 tandas. I don't feel those artistic restrictions as a follower, perhaps that's just because I'm more skilled as a follower than as a leader. And while we hear all the time that men need to adjust to the level of the follower, I don't think women quite fully appreciate what they are asking of the leaders. Kudos to the guys who just keep plugging away at this dance and making ordinary women feel special. Trini de Pittsburgh _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l