Can it really be true that the inviter invites his partner to take a step or make a movement, waits while the invitee considers the request, then waits for the invitee to begin to execute the request and follows invitee to the successful or not, conclusion of the invitation. The decision making component of this process is supposed to happen within a few milliseconds. And repeated over and over during a two and a half minute period. Yet many of us would have difficulty choosing which bread to take off the supermarket shelves within the same timeframe. Is this concept of "invitation" simply an academic model, which in reality is simply unachievable by most tangueros? In my limited experience most "invitees" prefer an "invitation" with a high degree of assertiveness and control. "Be positive, don't hesitate and take me" often being the terms used to describe the invitees' preferred "invitation". As an analogy to the equestrian partnership, I'm reasonably certain that the horse would be less stressed by simply following the rider's directions, than by considering the proposal. Many times I've either read or heard that tango requires a clear masculine and feminine dimension to make it that special dance. I feel too many male apologists have made male traits an object of shame, rather than a characteristic of masculinity.
I'm sick of saying sorry. Sorry! So sorry! (Of course I'm not serious. I wouldn't dare to be. Just to live dangerously for a while got to me. I take it all back.) Anton _______________________________________________ Tango-L mailing list Tango-L@mit.edu http://mailman.mit.edu/mailman/listinfo/tango-l