Mimi, You had a tough decision to make but ultimately it comes down to the best care for Jim and his recovery. I feel that most of these facilities have a handle on the COVID-19 situation so Jim should be in good hands. I'm sure you will be able to visit by phone. Hopefully the desire to go home will increase his drive for a speedier recovery.
Let us know of you need anything. Keep the faith and keep us posted. Mike On Fri, May 22, 2020, 9:50 PM Mimi Jasek <mjca...@gmail.com> wrote: > Well, another change to the plan. They had asked me yesterday if I wanted > them to dig deeper into new law to get Jim into rehab, and I said no. > Hence my update yesterday. But family was worried about me, for it really > is just me, so I texted doc late last night and said check. He and case > manager spent all day doing that, for they could not get the PT and > stroke/brain/memory help they feel he needs through home health etc here > without it costing me an arm and a leg. So, after two management meetings > and a negative COVID test, I got a call from the center his doc really > wanted him to go to that he was accepted - but law won’t allow me to go. No > visitation either. All because of unreported deaths, virus cases etc in > nursing homes and rehab centers! And because he hops out of bed and tries > to go where he wants, he will be in a lock down unit. So..... > > I feel he would get better faster at home mentally, but I can not give him > the other things he needs. I have to be honest about my physical > limitations and accept help. My family is ecstatic for both our sakes, and > I have to find a way to be at peace with this. At least I know this > facility, for Jim’s mom has been here for years - even in same unit for a > few of those years. She will be 103 in August, but is now in a unit where > she gets the extra physical help she needs. Due to virus, though, they will > not be allowed to see one another. I also know the director of admissions > from seeing her around when visiting Jim’s mom, and from my work. She is a > member of the credit union and member/ friend of my boss. When they had to > refuse us yesterday, she saw my name and called me personally. Then today > called back with the Yes for Jim, but no for me. Case worker really tried > to get special exemption for me, but that only works for end of life > residents for last goodbyes. Again, law. They have wonderful PT, and > specialize in all things memory and brain related - what Jim needs. They > have weekly FaceTime day for each wing, and Jim supposedly could get an aid > to call me so he can talk to me. No phones or tvs in rooms, which is great > since Jim does not really watch TV. All private rooms with shared > bathrooms. > > I have to list positive aspects to help cope with the fact he may go nuts > when he does not have access to me for two-three weeks. They moved that > rascal to a different room - right across from the nurses station to keep > an eye on him better - and he had a nurse call me because he was scared, > did not know where he was, where was I etc earlier today. Yet they told me > this morning before that he was totally lucid, answered all their questions > correctly, and even called doctor by his correct name! I need positive > thought and prayer for him to be able to handle this separation so as to > heal, get better and stronger, and come home to me. > > For those who know him well, you know he is a friendly guy. When I asked > how he did today, they said he walked around - with a belt restraint to > catch or guide him, but no walker - sat up in his chair for over an hour, > and hung out with them at the nurses desk for about an hour and a half. I > was like ?? Standing up?? They said he seemed restless and bored and kept > asking for me, so they brought him to the desk and sat him in a chair, and > he entertained them. I was like were you entertained? The young man > laughed and said “oh yeah”. Jim does not drink, but give him a brain > event, and no telling what he said! I did have another tech ask me if I > really met him on a caving trip, and he and another said it sounded like we > had both had quite an interesting life with many adventures. I think they > will miss him, and probably why my ears were burning?! I bet the walls at > that desk will never be the same, and they know things about us that would > make me blush!! But I wish I had been there to enjoy the show 😊 > > Will be there early and stay till he goes to rehab to make sure we say > goodby, and explain again what is happening and why. Wish me luck, and > don’t judge me too harshly for getting him help outside of home. > > Stay safe, be well, and go find a cave! > > Mimi Jasek > > Sent from my iPhone > _______________________________________________ > Texascavers mailing list | http://texascavers.com > Texascavers@texascavers.com | Archives: > http://www.mail-archive.com/texascavers@texascavers.com/ > http://lists.texascavers.com/listinfo/texascavers >
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