Staying Afloat Amidst The
Spin Taking Things Personally
Every time you interact with others,
you have the choice to listen to, acknowledge, and let go of their
words, or you can take what they are saying personally. Taking
things personally is often the result of perceiving a person's
actions or words as an affront or slight. In order to take something
personally, you must read negative intent in an individual's words
or actions. But what people do and say has no bearing upon you and
is usually based on their own experiences, emotions, and
perceptions. If you attempt to take what they do or say personally,
you may end up feeling hurt without reason.
If you are
tempted to take a comment or action personally, creating some
distance between yourself and the other person can help you. Try to
determine what is at the root of your feelings. Ask yourself if the
other person's words or actions are just reinforcing some insecurity
within you or if you can really be sure that an offense was
intended. You may even want to ask them what they meant. Finally,
put yourself in the other person's shoes. Instead of taking their
words as the truth, or as a personal affront, remember that whatever
was said or done is based on their opinion and is more reflective of
what is going on inside of them, rather than having anything to do
with you. You may have been an easy target for someone having a bad
day, and their comments may have been offered with no ill
intentions.
When you recognize that what anyone says or does
doesn't necessarily have anything to do with you, you will no longer
feel hurt or attacked. While it's easy to take things personally,
you should never let anyone's perceptions or actions affect how you
see yourself or your worth. Your life is personal to you, and it is
up to you to influence your own value and sense of well-being
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