Jeff ~ I haven't seen any responses to your letter ....perhaps because it is such a touchy subject....perhaps because people on the list don't know quite how to respond to you.......I am willing to give it a shot.....from a Christian perspective. I think it is not so much sex that you are missing, but rather a loving relationship with someone - so much so that you are willing to do anything to find love. We all hunger for love and intimacy and often look for fulfillment in all the wrong places. God is able to supply all need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19) - usually quoted in terms of financial need, however it is not limited to money. In truth, Our Father is able to fill the emptiness in your life to the extent that meaningless sex would be exposed for what it really is; i.e., meaningless sex and a sin nature running amuck. There is no real fulfillment there (sex for sex's sake), only pain and complications to a life that has plenty of challenges already.
Seek, (truly, prayerfully seek), God's will in your life - for if we seek first the Kingdom of God, and His righteousness, all these things shall be added unto you (Matthew 6:33) and, again, Father knows best what kind of human intimacy is required and will meet your needs and (this is the best part) the needs of the female that will be in your life. You may find that a sexual relationship is secondary to a truly loving friendship, or it may be that Father has another marriage in your future and a better sexual relationship than you can even imagine. With God all things are possible, IF we put Him first and foremost in our lives. I wish you only the best. ~ Lynn In a message dated 8/09/2009 5:19:58 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time, jeffsmokeeater writes: im not writing this to sound discusting,but i have a serious problem and want to know if any of you have ever went through this and how you handled it. first of all let me tell you all i am very comfortable with my sexuality and preferance,but recently some very confusing feelings have crossed my mind,let me start by saying when i was 16 yo i had sexual contact with somone of the same sex,i think it was more out of curiosity than anything else,but i enjoyed it and after that i started going with people of the opisite sex,but i never forgot that first experience,well i got married and have 4 children and myself and my wife of 16 years split up last year. here is the problem,ive had ms for 9 and a half years and like some on the list i have problems with paraplegia and im in a wheelchair so i dont need to give the details as most of you can pretty much figure it out,but i find myself craving for sexual contact and have even thought of contacting my friend from when i was 16 just for somthing,i am not gay,but this is like torture and its all i think about and its driving me crazy,just the thought of the same sex makes me wonder about myself and what the heck is going on inside my head,im 40 years old and never imagined this,but im desperate.any advice would help.
