Hi,
You're right TM sucks and has ruined a big part of my life. It has been 5 years and I am still finding more things it has ruined (thinking about disability due to it getting harder to work full time and do anything else, but that is a whole can of worms). BUT it has not taken away my family or my hero of a husband. Still have some of my friends. Actually work has been great for keeping my busy and having a social life. I have some woodworking I'd like to do but between work and regular maintenance stuff I run out of energy and the pain gets too bad. My husband has taken over the daily chores so he is more worn out but keeps going. It hurts him very much to see me pushing to do small stuff around the house instead of living my lively active life. It's changed the whole dynamic of my home but we are still together going a day at a time. Pat I like your return "I am doing the best I can", it politely reminds them you have issues but you're dealing with them. Betty you are so right about finding something to do to pass the time. I can't tell you how many things have turned into "I can't go", everyday things like food store, pharmacy, Lowes. Then there are the "if I feel okay, then maybe", movies, eat out go over a friend's house. So yes it has taken a very big part of my life away but I guess I'm lucky because I have always pushed forward to find something else. There are times the pain and all gets me to a point where I say can't do it anymore, the next day or one after usually gets me going again especially if I can interact with someone. Find something to smile about, even if it's looking out your window at nature, kids, etc. A smile is what helps me keep going, so I can find more feel good smiles. Make it a great day, Deb From: Pat Cooley [mailto:patticoole...@gmail.com] Sent: Saturday, July 06, 2013 3:36 PM To: Susan Kleinz Cc: I.WHIDDETT; nmacleo...@yahoo.co.uk; <tmic-list@eskimo.com> Subject: Re: [TMIC] Friends I agree completely. My family and close friends know that I will never be cured and no longer ask those stupid questions. To people who don't have a clue and ask how I am doing, I always say "I am doing the best I can", and that usually shuts them up. On Sat, Jul 6, 2013 at 2:28 PM, Susan Kleinz <skle...@cox.net> wrote: amen Iris. I do the exact same thing. I also hate being told I look good, when I am in excruciating pain. This T has ruined my life, and I'm pissed! On Jul 6, 2013, at 6:06 AM, I.WHIDDETT <i.whidd...@sky.com> wrote: > > Nikki, just been reading Dalton's words and I totally agree with his response to "how are you". I always say "fine". This is partly for the reason he gives but also because I learnt early on that it is impossible for any non- TMer to understand our symptoms - certainly unlike anything they will ever have experienced - and I'm all out of patience in trying to explain. By far the most aggravating question to be asked is "Are you better now?"! > > Iris > > >
