I have already pulled on my hair several times while
on this forum. But, I stop myself from responding at
times. I go on and read other messages and go back to
the message that disturbed me so much. I reread it.
Then I reread it again. This way I can know that I am
hearing the person the way they wanted to be heard. I
don't always get this right though. Then, I pray. I
ask God to only have me write the words that He would
want me to write. I have deleted some messages that I
started that were sarcastic. Like I said, I am working
on the sarcasm.
I do not claim to be perfect. But, I would rather you
credit my heart truly trying to be in the right place,
especially with other brothers and sisters in Christ.
Yes, my young age on this forum and in life probably
plays a part.
I will leave this forum long before I allow it to
affect my family life in such a way that you described
below. I'm sure that my husband will step in and ask
me nicely to do so. My husband has been trying very
hard lately to relieve stress in my life. If he sees
that this is too stressful to me he will step in and
do something about it.
How do we keep this forum running in the manner that
it was intended? I think that we all have to take a
step back. If we are offended by an e-mail do not
respond right away. Do not throw a one liner back.
Think about what the person is saying. If it applies,
take their advice. If it does not apply, explain to
that person why it does not apply. Try to keep hurt
feelings out of it. That is something that I find
quite hard to do. If something that is said in an
e-mail does not have to do with the topic...ignore it.
Stay focused on the topic. Don't allow Satan to take
the focus away from the Truth.
The moderator.... I liked David's idea of doing a
little of both letting the group moderate itself and
some moderation by a person on the list. Only have the
moderator step in when things are getting off task or
arguing is getting to the point that the only thing
posted is a person's opinion of another person.
I personally have a lot of respect for Slade (Please
do not confuse this as me being a devotee). I know
that he does not have the desire to boot people off
the list because there are disagreements about what
people believe. But, when people start attacking other
people in a way that would not be defined as righteous
anger, they should be, at the very least, reprimanded.
And if it continues to be a problem they should be
booted until a time when they can post without
attacking. This should be at the moderator's
discretion. And just for a check and balance the
moderator should consult the owner of the group and
maybe even some people in the group as well.
I think Slade's desire to have some guidelines for
moderation would be helpful. Then no person on this
list could claim a bias. He is simply following a few
guidelines.
These are just ideas that I have had. I hope they will
help.
Suzy
--- [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
> In a message dated 11/19/2004 11:41:39 AM Pacific
> Standard Time,
> [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
>
> >
> > I know that a lot of churches have this symptom.
> But I
> > would like to think that this group could hold to
> a
> > higher standard.
> >
> > Suzy
> >
>
> I agree but what we can do and what we will do may
> be two very different
> things. I have long been a critic of the rudeness
> of most on this group (me
> included). Actually, Suzy, you are the only one
> who has not fallen -- I
> credit that to your young age on this forum.
> Pretty soon, even Suzy will suddenly
> get wide eyed, sitting at her monitor, her hair,
> what is left after the
> Pulling Cycle, frazzeled and limp, her bright red
> lips thinned to almost imvisible
> with this sudden and irresistable urge to destroy,
> her husband hurriedly
> banting about the house trying to do something
> right, having seen the mystical
> rage on hi once lovely wife's face, full of fear
> that whatever is happening, he
> is next. Yes, Suzy, this too is your fate. SAVE
> YOURSELF (or should I say
> "your husban's).
>
> The good news is this -- the disappointment/rage
> that you might feel, if
> ever and honestly expressed on this forum, whether
> in grace or in haste, will
> drive almost no one away. There appears to exist a
> certain masochistic
> communal tendency with those who remain that will
> not permit us from leaving. Even
> the Professor, Billy T, is drawn back into the
> flame of TT -- hoping
> against hope that this time he is ready for us or
> that we are ready for him.
> And, therein is the strenth of the group. A
> willingness to particapate in spite
> of it all .... not to mention that most have
> received Christ into their
> lives and find themselves with family ties that may
> or may not be wanted but
> exist nonetheless.
>
> There are lots of debate sites. I used to go to
> them. At the end of the
> day, however, there was nothing to be gained from
> my attendance. Not true
> at all on TT. Not for me. I have recieved
> insight (and, consequently,
> blessing) from the comments of many. I stay
> because the frustration expressed by
> those who passionately believe their own stuff is
> both understandable,
> admirable, and fleeting.
>
> One of the most remarkable aspects of my stay on
> this site is that I suddenly
> understand Gary. Quite frankly, I didn't have a
> clue nor did I really care.
> The "myth"series gave me a new perspective for
> this mystery man -- that
> last rather involved post (the one with all the "s"
> words) was something
> that spoke to me IMMEDIATELY. Yikes !!!! On my
> part, then, there is this
> increasing sense of bortherhood with a majority of
> those on this stateion.
> Even David Miller. In spite of the "edge" that
> Jonathan observed and is
> clearly present between the two of us (Miller and
> Myself), I see in him a man who
> wants to minister in the spoken or written word.
> He is excited with what he
> sees as true, he enjoys the sufferings he
> experiences because it puts him in
> mind of the suffereings of Christ (we treat him
> much better here than
> elsewhere, I assure you). What I see as rudeness
> and condescention is, in David's
> mind, simply the way a prophet of God administers
> the Word of God. He
> forgets, I think, that we here on TT are part of the
> assembled church, put together
> by our Father, for purposes (perhaps) yet to be
> expressed or known. Whether
> my assessment of David is accurate or not -- I
> regard him as a fellow saint.
>
>
> But enough, already !!! If you stay long enough,
> I think you will come to
> agree with some of what I have written. Glad you
> are here, by the way.
>
> Pastor Smithson
>
> (I am thinking of going with "Right Reverend" just
> as soon as I figure out
> what that was to supposed to mean)
>
>
>
>
>
>
> .
>
>
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