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Uganda:
Specialists explain growing lesbianism
Panapress (PANA), By Samson Ntale Kampala - While relationships of gays and lesbians are widely criticised as unnatural, funny and a deviation from the God given sexual order, lesbianism is slowly registering more converts here in Uganda. Social analysts say soon society would be seeing it as just one of the many forms of sex. "But why would a normal human being (Ugandan) opt for sexual fulfilment with a person of the same sex?" is the question this correspondent posed to researchers undertaking a study on lesbianism in this landlocked East African country. "Sexual gratification is the answer. The human brain notes and records any improvement in the quality of a sexual act. And the higher you go in adulthood, the more disappointed you become with the sex that has fallen short of the standard," says researcher Ibrahim Kamya, whose study on lesbianism started last year and is nearing completion. "Naturally, a woman knows better how she can be best stimulated, unlike the man who can be easily aroused. This knowledge becomes richer with sexual exposure and experience as she knows what triggers off her best sensation that either leads to quicker or more intense orgasm. "Any sex that fails to take the right turns at the right bends will destroy the pattern and wreck the whole adventure," Kamya notes. He adds: "But when two women romance they behave like old brooms, they know all the corners, and they are freer to each other, can direct each other to more sensitive areas and learn from each other how to enhance the gratification derived from certain sensitivities." Kamya points out that the kind of freedom lesbians expose each other to do not arise often enough with heterosexual encounters on account of the African cultural disposition. He observes that, "many African men do not want to be given lessons when the game (intercourse) has started, as it injures their ego." "Many approach sex with the know-it-all kind of attitude. They approach sex selfishly aiming at gratifying themselves and leaving their partners empty. This is also reason for so many cases of sex outside marriage," Kamya observed. Florence Nayiga, a 62-year-old grand mother offering traditional sexual counselling, backs up the researcher with a revelation that many women decide to sacrifice sexual gratification to keep the man for social and financial reasons. "This is done by pretending they are getting what they want and even praise the man while praying deep inside their souls for a better performer. "Most of the time they (women) just leave it (lack of satisfaction) at that, but more daring ones will take a chance outside their affair," Nayiga observed. "Under such circumstances when they meet a man who makes them freer, shows willingness to take lessons and consequently 'engages the right gears' at the right time, they will get stuck on him," traditionalist Nayinga told PANA Sunday. She notes, however, "Such men are rare. That is why many women are getting drawn to fellow women. It begins as a romance and develops into full blown penetrative sex." Researcher Kamya opined that most women with unfulfilling sexual partners have "a good friend with whom they are enjoying the difference. And as long as their sex with a man fails to match, their friendly fire will go on." "Others soon lose interest in normal sex that mental comparison eventually makes them fail to get stimulated, thereby getting hurt, bored or criticised in the process. "So they abandon the male and female affair and openly register under lesbians. When they discover that it is more fun, gratifying and dependable they get confidence to come out in the open," Kamya asserted. The
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