This is interesting from WaPo: Brain Immaturity Could Explain Teen
Crash Rate
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A52687-2005Jan31.html
I also can't stand being assaulted in public by other people's
supposedly "cute" kids. Either in a restaurant, at an ATM or bouncing
beach balls through a supermarket. The world is not everyone's living
room as Jillian Ashley Blair Ivey of Phillist, formerly of the Penn
Writers House, seems to think ir is. She likes to talk during movies
at The Ritz.
http://phillyist.com/2007/06/22/return_to_sende_81.php
Frank
On Jul 22, 2007, at 09:15 AM, Wilma de Soto wrote:
I have been working with kids a long time. Kids accost me all the
time.
By that I mean I could be sitting in a restaurant and a toddler I
have never
met will leave their parents' table and come over to me totally
unbidden,
arms outstretched. If they are able to talk, they do. It happens
in grocery
stores, malls and I have never been able figure out why. It's
weird and has
always amused friends or family who may be with me at the time.
The irony is when I impose limits and standards for behavior,
school work
etc., they grumble and groan at first, but later they LIKE it.
They are free to concentrate on being a child with me because there
is a
consistent adult presence they can trust. They don't have to act
like a
shrunken adult, something they don't handle very well anyway.
They come before school because I need help. They eat lunch in my
room
because I need help. They stay after school because I need help.
I am the
most helpless person in the world and that's why they have to hang
around.
At least that's THEIR story. I know they just want to hang around
with
someone they trust before going home to who-knows-what, so I let
them "help"
me.
Sometimes, they'll ask me the same question two or three times just
to check
if the answer is still no. When I stick to my guns, they smile and
say
"OK." It's like they're just checking.
Children just don't think the way adults do or process the world as
we do.
There are only certain things they can handle at certain stages of
their
development, allowing of course for some children who are ahead for
their
age or behind.
Still, they are not adults. We are.
On 7/22/07 8:28 AM, "Frank" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Thanks for saying this, Wilma. In my opinion, this can't be stressed
enough. It's been so obvious to me for so long that I can't believe
everyone can't see it. It deeply scares me. Bill Maher always says
that parents today make the huge mistake of trying to be their
children's friends instead of their parents. He's so right.
Frank
On Jul 20, 2007, at 07:13 PM, Wilma de Soto wrote:
Yes, It's sad.
However, the worst is yet to come.
Adults must realize that at least the past two generations have been
socialized to be violent.
First of all, children are naturally self-centered, cruel, mean and
violent.
People like us had people who were called adults, whose job was to
teach
restraint of the primordial childish urges and teach them to be
productive
citizens into the society into which they were born.
Instead of preparing the child for the world, they are trying to
change the
world for their child.
Children are now born perfect. Their parents dictate to camp
counselor,
futbol coaches, dance instructors, school teachers etc.
No wonder children have no social decorum.
On 7/20/07 5:36 PM, "Anthony West" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
wrote:
That is so sad, Wilma.
-- Tony West
Wilma de Soto wrote:
That 18 year-old who shot the 14 year-old on the bike was a
former student
at my school.
This is the second incident involving former students of mine in
the last
few months.
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