On Fri, 8 Nov 2013, Robert Holtzman wrote:

On Thu, Nov 07, 2013 at 06:08:47PM -0500, Rahul Sundaram wrote:
Hi


On Thu, Nov 7, 2013 at 6:02 PM, Robert Holtzman wrote:



To you it's rude, to me blunt. This will never be resolved as it's a
matter of individual taste, enviroment, upbringing, etc. You seem to
have a thinner skin than I do.


No.  I can tolerate it just fine but I shouldn't have to.  If you can't be
courteous to other users in this list,  you aren't following the list
guidelines and moderators may choose to step in and at that point, your
argument that it is all so very personal and subjective and hence we should
all tolerate any abuse that is thrown out won't work.

You've stated your position and I've stated mine. End of subject.


Actually, I think both of you are missing the point. I think you need to look 
at it from a consequentialist point of view.  It *doesn't matter* whether or 
not Mr. Sundaram is offended and it doesn't matter that you are not offended.  
Both of you will continue to participate on the user list.  Since it doesn't 
affect your behavior in a meaningful way, it is of no consequence.  That's not 
true for other kinds of users, and the moderators need to consider that.

In most lists, there are a core of contributors who post relatively frequently. 
They are the ones who keep the list going, keep people interested, and provide 
many, if not most, of the answers, suggestions, topics, etc.  As long as these 
core people continue to provide these services, it doesn't matter if they piss 
*each other* off.

However, there are two other constituencies -- the lurkers and the occasional 
users.  Lurkers read the list on a regular basis but rarely post.  Often they 
have a relatively decent level of knowledge and will provide help for a 
specific topic they feel confident about, but they won't engage in the everyday 
back and forth.

Occasional users are those folk out there who don't care about the user's list 
per se, but are simply looking for a solution to a particular problem.  They 
come to the list asking a question and will likely stop reading once the 
quesion is answered.  Sometimes, if the list turns out to be interesting and 
fun to read for the short time they are monitoring it, they may turn into 
lurkers or even regular posters.  For instance, I came to this list with a 
specific question, but have stayed as a lurker and occasional -- but not 
particularly active -- poster.

The important question, I propose as a conjecture, is that it doesn't matter 
whether someone irritates the core posters, since it won't change their 
behavior in any substantive way.  The question is whether or not certain 
responses *to the more casual readers* will drive them away.  Will it make the 
*lurkers* leave or make them less likely to provide an answer to a question 
that they feel confident enough to post about?  Will it make the casual user 
less likely to stay, or, worse, go somewhere else with questions?

It is useful for any open list whose mandate is primarily oriented towards 
support to offer answers to questions that exploit the broadest range and 
greatest number of knowledgeable people possible.  If the responses on the list 
cause others to leave in large numbers, then they are counterproductive.  If, 
on the other hand, they encourage others to stay and interact, then they are 
productive -- even if any individual post is off-topic or irritating to the 
core users.

Saying that "you can always hit the delete key" is a proper response to a core user.  It 
is a reasonable, but not optimal, response to a lurker.  It is a bad response to a casual user, 
because it is the functional equivalent of "go away."  Thus, were I a moderator, I would 
look not so much at how irritating a response is, but more to *who* the irritating response is 
directed at.  If a poster is dismissive towards a core user, it doesn't matter.  If a poster is 
insulting to a casual user, it could damage the list in the long run by discouraging the accretion 
of new active participants.

Or, as the saying goes, "You can't talk about my sister that way!  Only I can -- 
because she's family."

billo
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