--- In [EMAIL PROTECTED], Zuhaid El-Qudsy <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Tapi sebagai seorang muslim, saya tidak menutup > mata. Perbandingan jumlah perempuan dan laki2 di dunia > ini, sangat2 tidak seimbang, bahkan ada yang bilang 1 : > 4. 4 perempuan di dunia ini, HANYA 1 lelakinya. Kalo > bahasa kasarnya, gimana dong nasib yang 3 perempuan > ini...hehehe
Saya sering mendengar ini: perbandingan laki-laki dan perempuan 1:4, satu laki-laki berbanding 4 perempuan. Tapi apa memang begitu mbak?? Menurut angka statistik demografi di berbagai negara ratio laki-laki dan perempuan (dari berbagai sumber) tidak jauh dari 1:1. Di Rusia, Jepang dan Brazil sedikit lebih banyak perempuan, tetapi di Cina, India dan negara-negara Timur Tengah lebih banyak laki-laki. Berikut saya berikan data beserta linknya. Coba perhatikan perbandingan (ratio) penduduk laki-laki dan perempuan di Indonesia yang 1:1 untuk kelompok usia 15-64 tahun, Arab Saudi yang 1,36 : 1, Bahrain 1,41 : 1, Persatuan Emirat Arab 1,61 : 1, Kuwait 1,77 : 1, dan Qatar 2,32 : 1 (pantas untuk poliandri hehe). http://www.cia.gov/cia/publications/factbook/fields/2018.html Afghanistan at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.95 male(s)/female total population: 1.05 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Algeria at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.01 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.89 male(s)/female total population: 1.02 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Argentina at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.7 male(s)/female total population: 0.97 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Australia at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.02 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.79 male(s)/female total population: 0.99 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Bahrain at birth: 1.03 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.02 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.41 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 1.05 male(s)/female total population: 1.27 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Bangladesh at birth: 1.06 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 1.17 male(s)/female total population: 1.05 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Brazil at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 0.98 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.7 male(s)/female total population: 0.98 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Brunei at birth: 1.06 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.13 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.89 male(s)/female total population: 1.1 male(s)/female (2004 est.) China at birth: 1.12 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.13 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.91 male(s)/female total population: 1.06 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Egypt at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.02 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.75 male(s)/female total population: 1.02 male(s)/female (2004 est.) European Union at birth: NA under 15 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.01 male(s)/female 65 years and older: 0.69 male(s)/female total population: 0.96 male(s)/female (July 2004 est.) France at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.69 male(s)/female total population: 0.95 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Germany at birth: 1.06 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.68 male(s)/female total population: 0.96 male(s)/female (2004 est.) India at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.07 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 1.03 male(s)/female total population: 1.07 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Indonesia at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.78 male(s)/female total population: 1 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Iran at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.98 male(s)/female total population: 1.04 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Iraq at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.03 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.03 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.89 male(s)/female total population: 1.02 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Israel at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.01 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.75 male(s)/female total population: 0.99 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Italy at birth: 1.07 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.02 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.71 male(s)/female total population: 0.96 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Japan at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.01 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.72 male(s)/female total population: 0.96 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Jordan at birth: 1.06 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.15 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.96 male(s)/female total population: 1.1 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Kuwait at birth: 1.04 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.77 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 1.76 male(s)/female total population: 1.52 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Libya at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.07 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.95 male(s)/female total population: 1.06 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Malaysia at birth: 1.07 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.01 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.79 male(s)/female total population: 1.01 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Mexico at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 0.94 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.84 male(s)/female total population: 0.96 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Nigeria at birth: 1.03 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.01 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.98 male(s)/female total population: 1.02 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Pakistan at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.94 male(s)/female total population: 1.05 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Philippines at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 0.99 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.77 male(s)/female total population: 1 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Qatar at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 2.32 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 2.72 male(s)/female total population: 1.89 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Russia at birth: 1.06 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 0.94 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.46 male(s)/female total population: 0.87 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Saudi Arabia at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.36 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 1.18 male(s)/female total population: 1.22 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Singapore at birth: 1.08 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.07 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 0.96 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.79 male(s)/female total population: 0.96 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Sudan at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 1.2 male(s)/female total population: 1.02 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Syria at birth: 1.06 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.06 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.92 male(s)/female total population: 1.05 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Turkey at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.03 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.85 male(s)/female total population: 1.02 male(s)/female (2004 est.) United Arab Emirates at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.61 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 2.63 male(s)/female total population: 1.46 male(s)/female (2004 est.) United Kingdom at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.02 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.74 male(s)/female total population: 0.98 male(s)/female (2004 est.) United States at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.05 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.71 male(s)/female total population: 0.97 male(s)/female (2004 est.) Yemen at birth: 1.05 male(s)/female under 15 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 15-64 years: 1.04 male(s)/female 65 years and over: 0.98 male(s)/female total population: 1.04 male(s)/female (2004 est.) This page was last updated on 10 February, 2005 --- In [EMAIL PROTECTED], Zuhaid El-Qudsy <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Salam, > > Duh menarik sekali diskusi ttg POLIGAMI, sesuatu yang > mungkin paling ditakuti kaum hawa.Fyi, saya bukan > praktisi jurnalis, saya hanya seorang housewife yang > kebetulan suami saya anggota milis ini. > > Uhmmm Poligami ? Dari segi apapun, dr sudut pandang > wanita manapun...tetap TIDAK ENAK.Iya ngga sih ? > Jangankan suami, yang menjadi milik kita yang sah, > bahkan mendapatkannya kadang dg penuh > perjuangan...dibagi begitu saja.Anak saya,coklatnya > suruh bagi sepupunya aja kadang ngga rela.Ini > suami...gitu loch... > > Ngga jarang ketika lagi santai ditempat tidur...kami > saling curhat...saya iseng menanyakan ke suami saya > "Yah,kalo suatu saat kondisi perekonomian kita jauh > lebih baik dr saat ini,semua syarat poligami sudah > bisa Ayah penuhi...apakah Ayah pengin juga?" Dan > jawabannya ( yang sangat standart, khas menyenangkan > hati para istri "Ah,ngurus 1 aja udah cukup pusing > apalagi ngurus 2,atau 3 atau 4 ...) > > Tapi sebagai seorang muslim, saya tidak menutup > mata.Perbandingan jumlah perempuan dan laki2 di dunia > ini, sangat2 tidak seimbang,bahkan ada yang bilang 1 : > 4.4 perempuan di dunia ini, HANYA 1 lelakinya.Kalo > bahasa kasarnya, gimana dong nasib yang 3 perempuan > ini...hehehe > > Kalo ditanya apakah saya bersedia di poligami, trully > I cant answer ...tapi kalo ditanya apakah kamu ridho > suamimu berselingkuh,berzina...dengan tegas saya akan > menjawab TIDAK.Dan...buat para istriers...kenapa kita > pusing ttg poligami ini...kalo memang suami kita tau > dan paham agama, ga usah dilarang2...dia akan 1000 > kali mikir buat poligami,ngga mudah dan SANGAT BERAT > lho konsekwensinya.Kalo memang tidak mampu dan tetap > memaksa ,justru neraka balasannya.Nah lo...paling > mereka akan keder sendiri...Tapi kalo emang ada suami > yg dg ekonomi pas2an, ngga bisa adil...nekad berpoli > ria...ya itu oknum...hehehe...Ngga bisa dong di > generalisasi.Tapi kalo di Indonesia kebanyakan yang > terjadi yg ini sih ya.Balik lagi ke Qur'an aja...Alloh > akan membalas setiap kebaikan dan kesabaran para > istri2 ini.Bersabar sebentar di dunia dan akan memetik > hasil yg abadi di akhirat...Subhanallah... > > Tentang masalah nafsu,saya kok setuju sama Mbak > Sirikit.Nafsu pria lebih tinggi dari wanita itu udah > dari sononya.Ngga jarang suamiku bilang di Mesir cewe > cantik kaya Tamara Blezynzky seabrek2...atau cewe2 > Iran dan Lebanon terkenal dengan putih dan > mulusnya.Nah lho...hehehe > > Kalo ditanya berarti saya setuju poligami, again, saya > jawab I cant answer...tetaplah ada rasa kecewa > cintanya suami dibagi...tapi saya lebih kecewa kalo > dikhianati, apalagi suami saya > berzina...naudzubillah... > > So far usaha saya sebagai seorang istri, saya akan > selalu berusaha memberikan yang terbaik buat suami, > menjaga komunikasi dan yang paling penting saling > pengertian.Insyallah dg usaha saya, suami saya akan > berfikir 1000 kali untuk mempoligamikan saya...hehehe > amin amin... > > Chacha Zuhaid El-qudsy > > > --- Sirikit Syah <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Terimakasih Mbak Una, > > > > saya tanggapi point demi point ya, > > > > saya bagian dari Kelompok Perempuan > > > yang memperjuangkan Penghapusan Poligami di masa > > > yang akan datang, > > > dan yakin bahwa Poligami adalah Kekerasan > > terhadap Perempuan, > > Apakah Anda bermaksud mengatakan "ayat Tuhan" di > > Quran > > tentang 'the possibility of poligamy', itu omong > > kosong? saya percaya Allah tak akan mengeluarkan > > ayat > > yang tidak mungkin. mubadzir bukan sifat Allah. > > dan, darimana Anda menyimpulkan bahwa > > poligami=kekerasan terhadap perempuan? bagaimana > > dengan kekerasan pada perempuan di segala macam > > bentuk > > hubungan? monogami, pasangan sama jenis, dll. > > > > karna Poligami tidak menempatkan > > > Perempuan dalam Posisi yang setara dengan Laki2, > > > sesama Manusia yang mempunyai Hak2 yang sama, > > tanpa > > > salah satu mendapatkan Hak2 khusus - sedangkan > > > Pihak2 lain dikurangi atau dihapuskan Hak2nya, ------------------------ Yahoo! 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