Mike, Non-permanence does not mean that something likeyour relationship is doomed. It just means that the relationship will not remain the same forever. It could be better with the qualities it has. It could take on new qualities. Anyway it doesn't have to mean that it will just wither away.
...Bill! --- In [email protected], mike brown <uerusuboyo@...> wrote: > > Hi Mayka, > > > You ask some very thought-provoking questions. I'm currently enjoying the > best relationship that I have ever experienced and hope that it will remain > so for a very long time. I also understand, however, that like all phenomena > it will not last forever. Strangely, I don't find this pessimistic at all. In > fact, it stirs me to make the most out of each moment we're together. Btw, > this is also how I'm coming to understand the issue of death - knowing that > we die helps us to appreciate the time that we have left. Now, I don't think > for one moment that the inevitable ending of my relationship will be > painless, and I'm sure I will grieve for it, but the recognition that all > phenomena are impermanent helps to end those little 'feel sorry for myself' > stories of suffering before they even have a chance to begin. I think the > grieving process is both natural and healthy up to a point and being a > Buddhist/Zennist doesn't armour us from the effects of impermanence. > And nor should it. > > Mike > ------------------------------------ Current Book Discussion: any Zen book that you recently have read or are reading! Talk about it today!Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/ <*> Your email settings: Individual Email | Traditional <*> To change settings online go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Zen_Forum/join (Yahoo! ID required) <*> To change settings via email: [email protected] [email protected] <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [email protected] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
