Hi Alvesh, We’re adaptable. I too have gone through similar situations, and am now living nicely. You too will feel better in some time.
The blessing of blindness is that it decreases our choices and therefore we’re saved from so much confusion. When you have fewer choices, you feel more contentment because then you don't regret for the things that weren’t there on the option table. Second, this might appear unintelligible to you, but as per one study, people who get disabled feel more satisfied with life than others. The reason behind this? When disability meets them, they overestimate the difficulties and frustrations that they may encounter. But as they steer their life ahead, they uncover that life is far less tough than they had imagined. They enjoy simple things like navigating their way independently. Doing bank work on their own (I withdraw thousands and thousands of bucks from the bank and have to move around alone.) In the beginning newly disabled folks presume that life would be extremely sad and depressing, but they soon get adjusted to their new conditions and things begin to look cheerful. Their presumptions contrast with their new reality and they feel their little accomplishments to be bonuses. On marriage: You say that you might not get on well with your life partner because of your blindness. Maybe yes, maybe no. Sorry, but no false hopes or encouragement. The truth is that there’re many unmarried disabled people who’re living successfully. And many disabled people are enjoying their married lives. Additionally, there’s a high chance for all married folks to get separated from their life partners (disabled or otherwise.) Snoop around a bit and you’ll find. You can keep that blindness thing out of the equation. Even if you get your sight restored, you can’t guarantee that post-marriage everything will be rosy and fun. I was scared of marriage as it were a raging hurricane, but now I’m blessed with a good wife and two little children. Besides having a good job, few of your blessings are: You’re brave, optimistic, and resilient. Had it not been so, you won’t have written this email. You have desires. Had it not been so, you won’t have asked about driving and marrying etc. You’re a man of action. Had it not been so, you won’t have asked about books. (By the way, The Story of my Life by Helen Keller and How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie might prove rocket fuel for your confidence.) Fall down seven times, stand up eight. Japanese proverb I like you and will be grateful to help you climb out of your problems. Ph: +91-7379668382. Your friend, Shadab On 2/24/19, sazid shaik <ashwaqahmed....@gmail.com> wrote: > Dear Alvesh, > > Even I am a late blind, working in railway department. Married with > a sighted girl, my son is studying 7th class and my daughter is > studying 3rd class. Certainly even I am passing same suitvation what > yu are. in. in 2010 i can ride bike but now I cannot walk. my dear > friend tried to adjust with life. > > Giving an example is easy but becoming an example is very difficult. > > So adjust with the life and move on. > > thanks and regards, > sazid > > > > On 2/23/19, sanjeev kumar <sanjeevkumar0...@gmail.com> wrote: >> Please read book jeet aap ki >> >> On Sat, 23 Feb 2019, 1:59 p.m. Simran Chawla <simranchawla1...@gmail.com >> wrote: >> >>> Hey Alvesh >>> I can understand your situation. But just think that whatever has >>> happened >>> or whatever is happening, is happening for a reason, for your good >>> rather. >>> Be positive, think positively. That will easen your situation. Being >>> negative will only worsen it. >>> This is the reason why we call life a roller coaster ride. There are >>> highs >>> and lows and you should enjoy every bit of it. >>> And the things that you want to do, those you can still do. Going to >>> market and enjoying with friends, you can do that, why not. Just keep >>> smiling :) >>> >>> And the books if you want to read, read a book named “The Power of your >>> Subconscious Mind”. If you don’t find the pdf, let me know I’ll share >>> that >>> with you >>> >>> Best Regards >>> Simran Chawla >>> >>> Sent from my iPhone >>> >>> > On 23-Feb-2019, at 10:34, George Abraham <geo...@eyeway.org> wrote: >>> > >>> > Hi! >>> > >>> > I am George Abraham. Happy to talk with you and share ideas on how you >>> could deal with your life situation. Please do call me on Monday at >>> 9810934040. You could visit me in my office and we could try and charter >>> out a plan for you to move on with life. >>> > >>> > Best, >>> > >>> > George >>> > George Abraham >>> > CEO >>> > Score Foundation >>> > 17/107 LGF >>> > Vikram Vihar >>> > Lajpat Nagar 4 >>> > New Delhi 110024 >>> > Email: geo...@eyeway.org >>> > Ph: +91 11 26472581/2 >>> > Mob: +91 9810934040 >>> > Website: www.scorefoundation.org.in , www.eyeway.org >>> > Twitter: @georgebhai >>> > Eyeway Helpdesk: 1800 300 20469 >>> > >>> > >>> > >>> > >>> > -----Original Message----- >>> > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On >>> Behalf Of Alvesh Shokeen >>> > Sent: Thursday, February 21, 2019 9:10 PM >>> > To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues >>> concerning the disabled. >>> > Subject: Re: [AI] Urgent emotional support required >>> > >>> > Thanks for your support friends. But indeed this is a difficult time >>> > for >>> me. I am unable to accept this condition. I haven't married so far just >>> because of the reason that later in my life, what if my partner leaves me >>> alone? I am unable to share my condition with my parants as wel as they >>> will be completely disappointed listening that I will be blind in near >>> future. >>> > I am always fantasising about driving bike, going out in the market >>> > with >>> my friends , but all of sudden I realise, I am no more in that well >>> condition to do these all things at my own. I will have to remain >>> dependent >>> upon others even for crossing the road, so what else can I do now? >>> > You are right, I should have such friends who have gone through similar >>> experiences. Let me talk to the people. If possible, suggest me a good >>> disability councellor to help me to change my approach. I am really in >>> trouble. >>> > >>> >> On 2/21/19, Amar Jain <amarj...@amarjain.com> wrote: >>> >> While I became blind in my early childhood, but more than happy to >>> >> talk it through. >>> >> >>> >> Acceptance and ownership of your disability in this phase will decide >>> >> your future. Feel free to call me on 9892622230. >>> >> >>> >> Regards, >>> >> Amar Jain >>> >> >>> >> Sent from my iPhone >>> >> >>> >>> On 21-Feb-2019, at 7:35 PM, Vamshi. G <gvamsh...@gmail.com> wrote: >>> >>> >>> >>> I am exactly like you. Could drive a bike ten years ago but can not >>> even >>> >>> walk on the road. Don’t read books or videos. Meet and stay >>> >>> together >>> >>> with people who have similar conditions like you. Peer counsel is >>> >>> the best medicine. Will be happy to help. Call me on 9949349497 . >>> >>> >>> >>> Remember that you are neither the first one nor the only one to >>> >>> undergo this phase of life. 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