Well, I was all through very active academically and outstanding. But, sadly, nonetheless was isolated all through. Blindness was at least partly responsible for it, though my introvert nature also played a role. Still, I feel despite whatever we do, an average sighted person does not prefer socializing with a VI...
-----Original Message----- From: accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Adhimoolam Vetrivel Murugan Sent: Monday, November 28, 2011 7:17 AM To: Mujtaba Merchant; accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] Socialising Hi, I assume that you are going to join the college very soon and you will certainly come across your class-mates who are willing to socialize with you. Just one good tip though. If you can show others that you are someone to be worth having around, then you will automatically get friends. To give you an example: I always used to stand out in class in terms of my participation in class discussions and as the result my friend circle at the college as well as university level increased. Because when someone realizes that he/she benifits from having you around, then it is the magnetic power which will automatically increase your friend circle. But you have to be opened though. That's important since many visually challenged persons have a tendency to avoid others and it will not take you anywhere. So in a nut shell, be pationt until you get to the college level. Vetri. On 27/11/2011, Mujtaba Merchant <mujta...@gmail.com> wrote: > Hello Rahul, > > What you wrote in your post is a brilliant observation. I am a recent blind > and had a huge group of friends that I used to go out with to many social > events and gatherings. After I lost my sight I have only a countable number > of friends who call me and ask about my well being and some of them are > curteous to make time for me and take me out for lunch or dinner on their > expense. I totally understand their standing on additional responsibility > when I accompany them anywhere. Some of them shy off because they would not > be comfortable seen with a blind man. This I have seen specially with my > lady friends. They fail to realize that I am the same person they loved to > hang out with earlier and I am not any different but have a situation that > could have happened to any of them. > > These are my views on your post. To compromise in many stages or situations > when it comes to socializing is challenging at times and I understand your > plight at that age where you are trying to fit in with your age group. I can > suggest that you talk to this group of friends and tell them how you feel > and get it in the open rather than further depress yourself. Those of your > friends who truly value you will make no mess of the situation and look at > activities that will involve you more, activities like eating outt, taking > you for a walk on the beach if you have access to one or the pool, I had one > crazy friend that took me to a theme park and we enjoyed the rides there, > the reactions we got from the people etc. I guess it is all about perception > at times because there is another group of friends that make it to the > movies without me, which is cool I tell them that I would rent out the DVD > instead Hahaha to them! > > I like spending my time more with my music system and the computer and at > times I entertain orther fellow mates from my blind training institute at > home. We all come up with various activities and pester my mother to feed us > something that would get us feeling happy. > > Cheers! > Mujtaba Merchant > Bangalore, India > > > Search for old postings at: > http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ > > To unsubscribe send a message to > accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in > with the subject unsubscribe. > > To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please > visit the list home page at > http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in > > Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. 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