Hello Rahul,

What you wrote in your post is a brilliant observation. I am a recent blind and 
had a huge group of friends that I used to go out with to many social events 
and gatherings. After I lost my sight I have only a countable number of friends 
who call me and ask about my well being and some of them are curteous to make 
time for me and take me out for lunch or dinner on their expense. I totally 
understand their standing on additional responsibility when I accompany them 
anywhere. Some of them shy off because they would not be comfortable seen with 
a blind man. This I have seen specially with my lady friends. They fail to 
realize that I am the same person they loved to hang out with earlier and I am 
not any different but have a situation that could have happened to any of them.

These are my views on your post. To compromise in many stages or situations 
when it comes to socializing is challenging at times and I understand your 
plight at that age where you are trying to fit in with your age group. I can 
suggest that you talk to this group of friends and tell them how you feel and 
get it in the open rather than further depress yourself. Those of your friends 
who truly value you will make no mess of the situation and look at activities 
that will involve you more, activities like eating outt, taking you for a walk 
on the beach if you have access to one or the pool, I had one crazy friend that 
took me to a theme park and we enjoyed the rides there,  the reactions we got 
from the people etc. I guess it is all about perception at times because there 
is another group of friends that make it to the movies without me, which is 
cool I tell them that I would rent out the DVD instead Hahaha to them!

I like spending my time more with my music system and the computer and at times 
I entertain orther fellow mates from my blind training institute at home. We 
all come up with various activities and pester my mother to feed us something 
that would get us feeling happy.

Cheers!
Mujtaba Merchant
Bangalore, India


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