Continuing my reply after having read the recent digest in which Ajay and Kanchan mam has responded: Mohit, what Ajay is saying is not thoughtless argument. You should certainly know mobility skills, at least that prepares you for emmergency situations. Whether or not and to which extent you want to use those skills, is purely your choice, and I enforce no opinion on that. Answering your question how that can solve problems, then remember once you are mobile, you will need no escort, and can move freely. And from what I understand, its just that hesitation and comfort level of your friends which needs to be achieved. Even I am learning mobility, and lets see till what extent I use it in my future. Keeping driver or an assistant, is purely one's own choice.
Are we so dull that for moving from one chair to another we need driver or an escort? (before reacting, let me tell you that I have seen those people as well, and I am sure you or I am not one of them). You certainly need not keep your driver at all times with you. Because there can be no doubt that friends or any particular group would not want a third person to be with them just because you need assistance. Whenever you need to move to a unknown place or have to go for loo etc, call up your escort or feel free to ask your friends. There is absolutely no problem in that. Come back with your replies in a constructive manner. On 6/17/12, Amar Jain <amarjain2...@gmail.com> wrote: > Hi Ajay And Mohit, > > I would prefer taking a different stand all together. Having your own > driver or assistant is in no way hurdle to what we want to achieve. > > Let me accept with full boldness that I don't know mobility, and usage > of cane. And so far my dad has escorted me wherever I need to move. > And my future plans also include keeping a driver or an assistant. > However at the same time, I have had no problems in staying back with > my friends and going for movie lunch etc. > > What I advise to Mohit is that firstly try and establish that > relation with your friends. I guess that friendlyness is missing. Talk > with your friends apart from your studies, initiate plans for movies > or outing, remember birthdays and ensure that when your other group is > planning for any of your friend's birthday, you become the part of it, > and last but not least, if you know that some plan is going on for > some outing, (this you can figure out by asking questions), then tell > them that why not lets all go together? Basically talk and take > initiative. My observation may be wrong, but is it that your friends > still have that hesitation or extra curtesy towards visually impaired > in mind while talking to you? A lot depends on your nature, your own > way of communicating things, etc. > > And as far as driver or other escort coordination is concerned, then > you need not keep full day driver with you on job, or even if you have > one, you can safely say that there is some change in my program, and I > would like to leave late than what was planned earlier. Prepare your > family for that. > > Before concluding, believe me, no question is stupid. If other person > takes it as a stupid question, then may be he is not matured enough to > understand your question, but nothing is stupid. What you are asking > is valid concern, and everyone has to learn the skills to tackel it. > Please can you use appropriate subject lines rather than a question or > something of that sort? You write so dam well then why not lets draw > attenssion of everyone by using better subject lines? > > Don't take anything negatively, as I am just trying to understand the > areas of concern then may be we can accordingly take it forward. > > Regards > > -- > Amar Jain. > Website: www.amarjain.com > -- Amar Jain. Website: www.amarjain.com Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in
