Hello mohit, In reply to your mail, I would like to say that even myself faced the same situation when I had decided to join the inclusive school after realizing the fact that I have learnt the basic skills of independent daly living by spending nearly eight years in the school for the blind.because I felt that I am now mature enough to live in the environment of my sighted friends and wanted to enjoy all the things witch normal student does in the school and college like roming around with the friends outside on various occasions such as, going to movies, party etc. of course, these were happening when I was in the special school but not with the friends who were so called abled (sighted) persons. Also for the reason I was feeling to have such enjoyment that while in special school whenever such events use to take place we weretaken out in a very restricted and overprotected manner and since I was entering in to teenage world I needed to have my own freedom to enjoy in a way I think. Hence, I have left the special school after passing my eighth standard.
I thought that now world is now a real challenge to me as I am now free bird to fly in the sky of freedom and attain all the colors of fun as I had already commanded over the independent skills of mobility etc while I was in special school. But unfortunately, the situation was not so easy as I had painted in my mind. After joining the inclusive school, I had to travel everday from my home to school and vice versa. I thought that now I can make use of my mobility to go independently but this everything gone in vain when my parents appointed a full time staff to take care of my traveling to go to school and back. Situation was more verse when my parents informed me that you need not go alone out of the house never as we already had hired the person for you as and when you need. I was very disturbed for many months and one day, I had realized that rather becoming upset and convincing my friends to join me why not to convince my person to understand my feelings of freedom and I have slowly and practically convinced him that you do not hold my hand all throughout and watch me from the close distance I would like to hold the cane in my hand and walk independently. So wherever I feel any difficulty you kindly come to my rescue. Initially, he was scared and then after seeing my confidence of walking alone with my cane slowly he started cooperating me witch really boosted my confidence. In your case I presume that you may not have learnt the mobility skills hence, first step can be to approach any NGO’S near to your vicinity working in the field of visually challenged persons and request for the instructor who can come to you for teaching mobility. If you do not have any such NGOS near to your locality, then try and consider to spend at list four months of training of rehabilitation conducted by the organization like nab witch provides you the training along with boarding and lodging facility. Living in such a environment for the considerable time you can learn the ways of living, speaking, reacting to different situations of blind persons with sighted colleagues, eating ettiqutes, dressing manners, socializing with the society, some sorts and recreation activities Braille learning, vocational skills etc. If you can not even opt this method, then try and search for any visually challenged person near to your locality who is well independent in mobility and has spent considerable time with the sighted person and try to arrange few outings with him and tell him to teach you how to interact with the sighted person outside while in shop, offices, etc.try and take him to your college especially in the social gatherings of your college and let him teach you the ways of communication with your friends. I am sure that implementing any of these methods can yield good results for you. But if you ask me to choose amongst any of these, I would suggest you to first consider the first two i.e. attending the rehabilitation course or arranging the mobility instructor. And my friend, you have to take the initiative by yourself to catch the attention of your friends. Do not expect anything from them such as not to take you immediately to your car, to talk to you or to go out with them. just be pushy to to react with their conversation, try to offer your help to them in any practical manner such as, intelligence. Take initiative to plan the outings and invite them rather expecting to go out with them. Try to be more reactive with your pleasant responses rather presenting yourself as doubtful or hesitant personality when you are communicating with them. Don’t get afraid if you find ockward on various situations when you go out with them just behave normally as you do and take the things easy because man is the learner all throughout his life and one can not be expected to learn everything instantly. If you feel ockwird on any situation like eating particular food try and ignore to eat that food until you learn to eat with the spoon etc. and the moment you find ockwird try and divert the your attention with any alternet communication gently because how much ever you will feel ockwird that much you will pull yourself back to remain in that group. As I have said that I could not enjoy the full freedom of mobility due to the person appointed for me, I had to make the greatest struggle to convince my parents to allow me to go out alone I could not succeed until I had taken the help of my few friends who were also visually challenged and went out with them and made my parents realized that if they can move alone then why can’t i? fortunately, they were convinced after long struggle of four years. Now I am independent. So my friend, don’t be so tense, you have to take the initiative by yourself to convince your parents and before doing all these things, try to develop the self confidence in you to move independently by implementing the suggestions mentioned above. By writing this mail, I do not say that the assistance of the person should not be taken in mobility as there are several instances when you need the help of the sighted persons such as, crossing the road, asking for the bus numbers, etc but my concern is to minimize the dependency on the other persons to perform mobility. So I conclude with the remarks that mobility, reaction of the society towards you, socializing difficulties can only fall in to your place when you develop self confidence in you with the help of appropriate methods such as, training, guidance of the senior colleagues, openness with your surroundings, ability to accept the challenges, positive attitude to overcome the ockwird situation etc. and of course the other side of the world i.e. your sighted friends will certainly come to you without any hesitations and treating you equally. Sorry for my long mail just could not brief my suggestion and I am sure that you may be doing all these suggestions but just wanted to refresh your approach. On 6/17/12, bijal patel <bijalpatel...@gmail.com> wrote: > to enjoying college life and public events it's necessary to devlop > friendship level. our new friends are not that much aware for visual > disability, so it's require little time for them to adjust with us. > and every where escort, really burdern for us. "mobility" doesn't mean > only to holding white cane and walk with it on the road. > Mobility includes to get help from other, to ask for help from other, > to adjust with any escort, to get touch at our work place or new > place without escort, etc. > really now after losing total vision and getting diffrent experiences, > I am able to devlope above points in mine. With extra tips and tricks, > now i can travel alone by auto in my city. Even I did successful night > journey by train in AC coch also. Yes, it's true, still I am unable > to walk alone on road and catch auto or to walk on railway station. I > know it's require time. whenever i come back to my city, my papa picks > up from station. it doesn't mean, he himself enters in train and helps > me. I should be prepare to leave train and stand on safe place at > platform. only communication to others is necessary in such task. > White cane is my magic stic and strong weppen during such journey. > and in mohit's case, i think lake of proper communication with his > friends. nothing else! and you have to devlop abilities which i > mention above. after all, very good suggestions in prier mails. > > > On 6/17/12, Pranav Lal <pranav....@gmail.com> wrote: >> Mohit, >> One way to shortcircuit this process, is to become the provider of >> transport. 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