Differences are warmly welcome. But How one can categorically claim that disabled partners face more difficulties than blind/sighted partners? I don't think so. in this case, we should rely on the experiences of blind partners. And this utteration varies widely. it depends on the factor that how tough and resolute you are , and living life lively. Though I'm still unmarried and unlikely to get married too soon.. but many of my married blind friends do emphases on mutual mental satisfaction as more desired satisfaction than merely physical comforts. And I share the same feeling to a significant extent.
I believe in the preservation of heterogenous identity. and why can't we celebrate our unique and distinct behavioural expression. why we seek affairmation from so called mainstream agents? If tribal people eat in their own distinct way without spoon, if north-east Indians people have their own unique culture, then why can't we cherish their distinct mores? If my way of hugging is different from sighted people so what? should I adhere myself to their normes? na na na. My comfort is more comfortable than unwilling surrender to certain normes. And Himanshu sir, I think let the mainstream people remain in their own made standards. We'll find our way one day.. but no imposition, and bashing please?... On 2/26/13, Asudani, Rajesh <rajeshasud...@rbi.org.in> wrote: > Firstly, I am not comforted by the thought that mainstream is a myth. > Secondly, marrying a disabled or not, is surely a personal choice but > disabled couples surely face much more hurdles and as a rule, are not > well-included in the mainstream of the society. > > > -----Original Message----- > From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf > Of avinash shahi > Sent: Monday, February 25, 2013 7:10 PM > To: accessindia@accessindia.org.in > Subject: Re: [AI] PARAVOOR:Mass wedding held for visually challenged > > I'm glad to read conflicting claims with regard to 'Mass Marriage Melange'. > > and thought to join in this vibrant discussion and deliberation. > > Facilitating mass marriages of visually challenged has become an > entrepreneurial come social-service self-satisfying practice these > days. > in fact in many parts of the country, specially in mega metros and > mini metros, scores of marriages are arranged, and solemnized. > This growing phenomena raises many questions. > 1. Is getting married to a non-disabled really take you in the domain > of 'mainstream'? > When Actor seeks actress for marriage, player looks player for > marriage, poet desires poetess for marriage, then why can't blind man > marry to a blind woman? > > Now question begs attention, who defines mainstream? > and is marrying to a non-disabled is enough to be called in the mainstream? > I don't think so. > Choice of marriage is purely subjective. and if so called mainstream > occupants are morally bbound to accomodate marginalized, hence > marginalised have an ethical duty towards their fellow beings > irrespective of jender. > Marriage is not a constitutional right which one can expect from so > called mainstream people to accomodate the rest from the periphery. > Marriage entails: mutual respect, equal concerns, and and love along > with sacrifice. > And mainstream is a myth, which celebrates untouchability, cheers > masculinity, and despises disability. > > Now will leave with two more questions Which need further > contemplation, but I'm not in a position to take any view; hope many > people here will put some light on these questions. > 1. Why NGOs Which are traditionally supposed to facilitate educational > and employable empowerment of visually challenged has picked up new > attractive dimention in their spheres to organize marriage of > visually challenged? > 2. And why adult blind people flock in huge numbers to seek spouse via > these NGOs? > > On 2/25/13, Asudani, Rajesh <rajeshasud...@rbi.org.in> wrote: >> I am compelled to congratulate Himanshu for his scientific approach.. >> >> >> -----Original Message----- >> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On >> Behalf >> Of Himanshu Sahu >> Sent: Monday, February 25, 2013 2:20 PM >> To: accessindia@accessindia.org.in >> Subject: Re: [AI] PARAVOOR:Mass wedding held for visually challenged >> >> Hello, >> Let me be very specific with the topic, >> >> 1. It does not make any difference to me that which organization >> organized the mass wedding or what they have done earlier in this >> respect. This may be of liking to those who are involved in it or >> benefitted through it and publicizing it. Further I do not deny the >> necessity of such mass marriages and appreciate the initiative. But >> still my simple question remains unanswered that "how it brings VIs >> into mainstream"? >> 2. Well, knowing me personally is not going to solve your confusion, >> but for the sake of correcting your hypothesis I am compelled to >> inform you that I lost eyesight 10 years back and have been the member >> of list for last 4 years. And I too know many of VI couples friends. >> But here as well, as earlier, I am not able to understand that being >> new or old member of list, and, knowing VI couples or not, is how come >> related with the issue of bringing VIs into mainstream? >> 3. In answer to your next question, I would only say that marrying >> within community or outside community and whether blind couple are >> happy or not, is a broad topic and I am not interested to deviate from >> the actual topic that is "how it brings VIs into mainstream"? >> >> Friend, in the zeal of getting your project acclaimed aren't you >> trying to establish a plain charitable mass marriage as inclusion of >> VIs into mainstream? Definitely mass marriage is a part of >> rehabilitation but not the inclusion into mainstream. I would have >> rather appreciated it if all VIs were married with sighted >> counterparts and then one would have called it as an attempt to >> bringing VIs into mainstream. Still the sighted world is well-known >> and well-established "mainstream" and all of hue and cry made by VI >> community has more or less similar theme to get incorporated into this >> mainstream as we are kept secluded from it. >> >> For the better clarification of the term "mainstream", please refer to >> the below mentioned some of the dictionary meanings of the term: >> "To incorporate into the prevailing group" >> "Representing the prevalent attitudes and values of a society or groups" >> And, "normal", "typical", "conventional" etc. >> >> So, it demonstrates that what we are talking about is not an attempt >> of incorporation into mainstream, and if one wishes to deny it have to >> innovate or forcefully create a new definition of incorporation into >> mainstream! And I extend my best wishes to those who want to do this >> novel Endeavour. >> >> >> On 2/24/13, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote: >>> By Express News Service - PARAVOOR >>> 24th February 2013 09:22 AM >>> Photos >>> The mass wedding of visually challenged couples, held by the Lioness >>> Board, the women's wing of the Lion's Club of District 318 C, at >>> Paravoor, on Saturday. As part of bringing physically handicapped >>> people into the mainstream, Lioness Board, the women's wing of the >>> Lion's Club, of District 318 C, held a mass wedding that saw 18 >>> visually challenged couples taking marital vows at Paravoor on >>> Saturday. >>> http://newindianexpress.com/states/kerala/article1476830.ece >>> 'Porutham 2013', held at Paravoor Vyapara Bhavan, was inaugurated by >>> Lions Club district governor Abraham Panjikkaran. Union Minister for >>> Food and Civil Supplies K V Thomas was the chief guest at the >>> function. >>> >>> While delivering the keynote address, Thomas said that the mass >>> wedding would be a model for the nation, and the event was an occasion >>> to learn how a society could be responsible. >>> >>> The couples were presented with 2.5 sovereigns of gold ornaments each >>> and `15,000 in cash. >>> >>> The money was distributed by municipal chairperson Valsala >>> Prasannakumar and actor Mythili. Aluva Rural SP Satish Bino >>> distributed financial aid for enabling self-employment for the >>> visually challenged couples. >>> >>> From 102 clubs under District 318 C, dresses and household utensils, >>> including pressure cookers, were given as gifts to the newly-weds. >>> Club president Indira Bai Prasad, secretary Susheela Varghese, Prof >>> Monamma Kokkad, chief co-ordinator A Rajan, Human Rights Commission >>> chairman Justice Benjamin Koshy offered felicitations. >>> >>> Out of the 205 applicants, 18 couples were selected. 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